The following are web sites and resources to help you if you are single but preparing to marry someone someday. We pray they will minister to your situation.

Apuregeneration.com/blog This is a web site, which has a team of young writers, who are dedicated to “taking a stand for purity.” They blog on a variety of issues dealing with purity. These include: dating standards (kissing, hugging, etc.), swearing, modesty, entertainment (music, movies, video games, etc.), sexcasting (taking inappropriate pics/vids), sex outside marriage, self gratification, pornography (viewing or reading about sex), substances (drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.), and other purity issues.

BIBLE VERSES ABOUT DATING This Open Bible web site lists various scripture verses concerning the question “What Does the Bible Say About Dating?”

• Boundless.org From college to career to relationships, Boundless.org wants “to cast a vibrant vision for the single years, helping you navigate this season while preparing for the challenges and responsibilities of the one to come. That requires living intentionally with purpose by bringing your gifts, talents and Christian worldview to bear on your whole life.”

Crosswalk.com Singles This web site is dedicated to building up the Church, which is the Body of Christ. They do this by offering articles on a variety of helpful topics including those that minister to “Singles” (which can help those who are “single but preparing”). They also offer Christian Living Resources and Bible Studies.

Girlsgonewise.com This is a web site designed to help young ladies “in a world gone wild” in their quest to gain “spiritual smarts in womanhood, regarding life and love.

• Michellehammond.com – This is a different kind of web site for single women to be inspired and learn to live the life God has ordained for you —whether you’re to be married or not. Michelle is a single woman who has learned through life experiences how to truly be “single —yet preparing,” and yet experience life to the fullest —God’s way.

• Purposeful Singleness This web site is not necessarily for Christians who are ONLY looking to eventually get married, but rather, “is dedicated to providing inspiration, encouragement, and support for Christian singles who may or may not feel called to singleness, but who desire to live purposeful lives for Jesus Christ.”

• Startmarriageright.com Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or newlyweds, this web site is created for you with articles, interviews, and resources to help you prepare for marriage, because as they say, “We believe that your wedding day is just the beginning!” (And we agree.)

• Voice of Hope, This is a web site produced by CBN.com, which is continually putting together series of interviews you can watch to give those of you who are single hope and help in knowing how to navigate the dating world in a biblical way.

RESOURCE DESCRIPTIONS:

BEFORE THE RING -by William L Coleman, published by Discovery House Publishers. This book has a different “spin” on things than most, because it actually focuses in on helping couples to know IF they really should consider marriage. It’s a book that is designed for couples to take the time to get to know each other all the more. It suggests questions for couples to to consider. Every couple wants an ideal marriage. They want assurance that their love will last a lifetime. They want some guarantee that they are making the right decision. Although there are no guarantees, author William Coleman says there is a way to assure yourself that you are marrying the right person. Ask questions —lots of questions. Of yourself. Of each other. And then be honest with your answers. To get reliable answers, you have to ask the right questions. And that’s the goal of this book.

Before You Get Engaged -by David Gudgel and Brent Gudgel, with Danielle Fitch, published by Thomas Nelson. This book was born from an idea that started during a Focus on the Family radio interview with counseling pastor David Gudgel on another topic. It offers advice and direction for those who are dating who are considering whether or not they will want to eventually marry. It can be seen as a pre-engagement book —which makes it unique. It aims at equipping you with insight, confidence, and peace to make one of the biggest decisions of your life.

Breaking Up -written by Stina Wilson, published by Kregel Publications. This is not an easy book because it challenges your thoughts on what God would want from you when and if you enter into marriage. A few of the questions addressed are: “How do you know if a relationship is godly? What does a ‘godly relationship’ even mean? Does it mean abstinence? What do you do if your relationship isn’t godly?” Building on her personal experience and years of working with students in Young Life, Stina Wilson has written this book to help you answer these complicated questions.

• Dating with Pure Passion: More than Rules, More than Courtship, More than a Formula – by Rob Eagar, published by Harvest House. This book is for Christian singles to help to show that “spiritual union with Christ must be the foundation of all of their relationships—including dating relationships. Rather than looking to people to meet needs only God can fulfill, readers will learn how to let Christ’s sacrificial love ignite within them a passionate desire to share His love with a special person. This practical guide includes plenty of suggestions for establishing successful dating relationships and dealing with the pressure to get married, experiencing healing for past hurts, choosing whom to marry, resisting sexual temptation, and more.”

How Can I Be Sure?: Questions to Ask Before You Get Married -written by Bob Phillips, published by Harvest House Publishers. This book is actually designed not to be an “answer book for marriage problems”, but rather it’s meant to be an inventory and “discussion guide to help couples open up important channels of communication; express their thoughts, desires, and feelings to each other; and enhance their growing relationship together.” The author recommends that each person should have a personal copy in which to write his or her own responses. As the author Bob Phillips says, “If you will honestly share with each other your thoughts and feelings with regard to the questions, your future marriage will begin on a strong, firm, and mutually satisfying foundation.” This book is also designed to be a helpful tool in the hands of Pastors and Counselors for pre-marital counseling.

I, Isaac, Take Thee, Rebekah: Moving from Romance to Lasting Love -written by Ravi Zacharias, published by W Publishing Group. The purpose of this book is to help you move from romance to lasting love. Whether you are seriously dating, contemplating marriage, or committed to making your marriage strong, the insightful Bible-based counsel this book provides will offer you strength and wisdom as you move from romance to lasting love. Ravi Zacharias says the following about this book, “It may not be an overstatement to say that a person makes heaven or hell on earth depending on the one he or she marries. …Marriage is an extraordinary relationship. It is a commitment from which you dare not take a vacation. It demands nurture and care, and like a tender shoot, the better the care, the better the blossom. But to be sure it is hard work. …Within these pages I have made an effort to present God’s intention for marriage as given to us in His Word. Sooner or later we all come to the realization only when we do marriage God’s way do we reap the benefits. When we do marriage our way, we damage His intent and pay the price.”

• I LOVE HIM LORD, BUT HE’S NOT A CHRISTIAN – by Latasha G Hines, published by Jewel Publishers. This book is “the unmarried Christian woman’s guide to deliverance from relationships with men who do not share your faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Unequally yoked relationships are toxic. This book, premised on God’s Holy Scriptures, encourages you to seek freedom from the toxic relationship you may be in, forsake the toxic relationship you may be considering, or thwart the plan of the devil to engage you in toxic relationships in the future. Readers are armed with the Word of God, testimonies of the author and other women, and prayerful applications to help guide them toward deliverance from unequally yoked relationships with nonbelievers or immature Christians. Readers are challenged with the question, How can he love you as Christ loves the church, if he does not know how Christ loves the church? This book offers encouragement and hope to single Christian women.”

• Is This The One?: Insightful Dates for Finding the Love of Your Life -written by Steve Arterburn, published by Zondervan. In this book, Steve Arterburn maintains that the key to a long-term relationship is making sure you’re taking the plunge with the right person. He focuses attention on the beginning of relationships —before the commitment, before the emotional investment, before the children. He prescribes three sets of ten carefully devised dates designed to help couples reveal their true colors and clarify whether or not they are a compatible match. It’s a must read for engaged or dating couples, happy singles, concerned parents, and anyone who wants to make better decisions about who to marry and who to leave behind.

• The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not about Who You Marry, But Why? -written by Gary Thomas, published by David C Cook. “This is sobering but helpful marriage advice” as one reviewer wrote, and we agree. “Gary Thomas debunks the mythical search for a soul mate to help you choose a ‘sole-mate’ —someone who will lay down their life in faithful love. This biblically based book is for anyone who wants to be wise in their pursuit of a spouse.” (Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott) This is not a book for those who are afraid to look beyond their immediate feelings for the person they want to marry. It is a serious book about a serious matter —who you marry and why, and what to look for in that person, as you pursue the sacred covenant of marriage.

• 10 Great Dates Before You Say “I Do”-by David and Claudia Arp, published by Zondervan. This book has a unique approach featuring fun-filled dates to help seriously dating and engaged couples strengthen their relationship. Couples will soon discover whether or not to go to the next level of commitment, and will spend quality time together now while preparing for a great marriage in the future. It combines the best of marriage preparation research with a fun, easy-to-follow format. Couples will love growing together while going out together. Some of the topics these dates cover: Share your hopes and dreams, Appreciate your differences, Communicate and connect, Develop spiritual intimacy, Evaluate your relationship, Celebrate romance, and more.

101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged -written by Dr Norman Wright, published by Harvest House. In this book, “relationship expert and noted couples counselor Norm Wright steers potential brides and grooms through a series of soul–searching questions to discern if they’ve really met ‘the One.’ Couples will be much more confident about whether or not to pursue marriage after completing these in depth and personal questions. Norm also addresses the delicate subject of calling off the wedding if readers discover that a potential mate isn’t actually meant to be a life partner.”