Do you and your spouse process information on emotional issues differently? Does it ever happen to you that one of you goes forth to bring up a conflicting issue and the other tries to withdraw? That’s not as unusual of a situation as you might think. It sure has happened Read More…
Delaying confrontations with your spouse can sometimes cause problems. Waiting and piling one problem on top of another can be problematic. But on the other hand, sometimes it’s a good thing—particularly when it’s a time to H.A.L.T. That would be a time when either of you is Hungry, Angry, or Read More…
Are you finding yourself involved in arguments with your spouse, where it would be best to calm things down before you continue any further? You know if you don’t something will be said and/or done that would be anything but godly. Calming down arguments is a good thing to do Read More…
You want change to happen in your marriage, but you don’t change what you’re currently doing about it even when you see it’s not working. Hmmm… the question comes to mind, “How’s that working for you?” If it’s working, then don’t change anything. But if it’s not, perhaps you need to make Read More…
It is a brilliant Sunday in Seattle. And while most of the city is outside savoring the sunshine, my husband, David, and I are inside arguing. We’re having a fight —on purpose. So are 127 other couples gathered in a cavernous conference room during a marathon two-day workshop called the Marriage Read More…
Nitpicking. I’ve been there and have done that WAY too many times. Have you? I wish I could say I haven’t and that I won’t again. But as a sinner (someone who does things I shouldn’t), I probably will. I’ll keep fighting against it though, because I know it’s wrong. Read More…
“Be aware of Satan’s schemes—where wounds aren’t healed, the enemy comes in and causes more damage.” (Roger Barrier) This is especially true as it pertains to emotional baggage that we bring into our marriages. Within marriage, conflict often arises. Any married couple would probably smirk at that notion as an Read More…
Before we marry, we usually don’t see the many differences that could drive us apart. We see more of our commonalities, rather than our differences. But after we marry, our differences eventually start to come to the surface. These differences can drive an ever-growing wedge between us in how we Read More…
