counseling advice

Q & A: Should I Wait for My Spouse?

So, here’s a question that was posed to us. Following the question, I’ll give my answer below (along with a few other points I make afterward). We keep receiving these types of questions posed to us, so I’m hoping this will help clear up our position on this particular issue. Read More…

We Don’t COUNSEL Anyone to Divorce

We may get criticized for this, but I need to say it. My husband Steve and I do not COUNSEL or encourage anyone to get a divorce. By this I mean, we do not feel it is our place when asked the question, “should I get a divorce” to tell Read More…

Gleaning Marriage Advice – MM #252

Here’s something you may benefit from knowing. Just because you get “advice” from someone, it doesn’t mean it’s advice you should follow. It may sound good, but that doesn’t mean it IS good —at least not for you. We’ve seen and have learned the hard way that many people give Read More…

To Those Who Offer Support To Friends

Whether you are a licensed professional, a pastor, or simply a friend attempting to support a couple working through their reconciliation, the following suggestions are offered. They are ones that can help those who offer support to friends and family members. It’s important, as you offer support to: • Watch Read More…

INFIDELITY COUNSELING: My Husband Won’t Go With Me

One of the most painful things that can ever occur in a marriage is when one spouse betrays the other. We often sugar-coat it by calling it “having an affair” or “having a fling” or “having a one-night stand.” But no matter how you phrase it, it comes down to Read More…

Applying the Gleaning Principle to Human Advisers

Not all marital advice is helpful for your marriage. Even the advice WE give may not apply to your particular circumstances. Yep, you read it right! We acknowledge that we (and other marriage educators) can sometimes give flawed advice. Flawed people can give flawed advice. So don’t try to apply Read More…

SCRIPTURES Dealing With Seeking the Counsel of Others

“Balance is what God teaches us —the balance between [scripture] verses that say it is a wise person who seeks the counsel of many others and verses that warn if we listen to too many people we will go astray. Somewhere in between is the balance. God wants us to Read More…