De-escalating Fights in Marriage

If Cindy and I (Steve) are going to be transparent with you we did not fight in healthy ways earlier in our marriage. In fact, our approach was quite toxic. It was all about “winner take all.” Does that ring familiar with how you and your spouse argue? If so, Read More…

De-escalating Fights in Marriage

It’s confession time. We did not fight in healthy ways with each other in the first years of our marriage. In fact, our approach was toxic. It was all about, “Winner takes all.” And that is anything but healthy. We yelled, screamed and acted childishly. And we are not proud Read More…

Explosive Anger in Marriage

A few weeks ago we wrote about the War of Words that goes on in many marriages. This week we’re going to touch on the destructiveness of explosive anger within marriage. One can lead to the other, or be entirely separate if that “war” is waged in healthy ways. However, Read More…

Managing Your Anger By Using The Triple P Method

Anger properly channeled and controlled is a good thing —a God-given thing. Like a gas flame on the stove, anger is not inherently destructive. It’s a legitimate emotion that has a legitimate function. But it can be helpful or harmful, depending on how we use it. If we don’t learn Read More…

Stop Your Implosive and Explosive Responses to Anger

Which couple, when they walk down the aisle ever thinks to themselves, “I’m going to get so angry that I’m going to hurt and emotionally damage my partner in a very deep and real way someday!”? Yet sadly, we all deal with anger in marriage. Every one of us gets Read More…

Yelling Shuts Down Reason – MM #314

Did you know that yelling shuts down reason? “When you yell at someone there’s a part of the brain that shuts down. It’s the part of the brain that houses how we reason through a situation.” Did you read that right? Yes! It’s been proven scientifically that when yelling starts Read More…

Angry Stuffers and Spewers – MM #286

When we’re angry we’re often tempted to deal with our anger in two improper ways: stuff it or spew it; or, put another way: hide it or hurl it. There are angry stuffers and spewers. These are two extremes, two ruts on either side of the road. (Dr David Ferguson) It’s Read More…

How To Deal With Your Anger

How do you deal with your own anger? You realize that you take your anger to sinful places, and you want to change. What can you do? Here’s one man’s question on this matter and then Dr Tim’s answer afterward, that you may find helpful: “I’ve been an angry man Read More…

Emotional and Verbal Abuse Within Marriage

How do you deal with the situation, where you feel there is verbal abuse being directed at you within your marriage? And how do you know if it isn’t just a “normal” matter of one spouse disagreeing with the other? One thing we try to do here at Marriage Missions Read More…