When Spouses Grieve Differently

If you are married any number of years you will encounter some kind of tragedy that will rock your world together. It could be a serious illness, death of a child or another family member, losing a job, your home… the list goes on. And when this happens you are Read More…

Rejected! How Do I Cope?

I don’t think there is any pain that can compare to loving someone so deeply that you would die for him or her, and yet he or she has decided that the feeling is not mutual. This person has made the decision to up and leave you. We hear of Read More…

When Death “Parts” Us

“Till death do us part…” I repeated.  Those words seemed to echo throughout the huge college chapel following my promise and then my bride’s commitment. The witnesses of our wedding stood by smiling. Our parents sat with proud looks on their faces. In all honestly, however, I only viewed those Read More…

Stop Crying and Be Grateful

Stop crying and be grateful for what you DO have, rather than what you don’t. That’s essentially what the Lord told me this morning when I woke up. Yesterday (and for a while before) I’ve been focusing on that which I can’t change. It concerns relationship issues with family members Read More…

After the Crying… After Asking Why… Then What?

It was our sixth trip to the ER with chest pain in a little over a year. After open heart surgery plus three stents had stabilized Bette’s heart condition, we dared to believe we were finally done with these anxious trips to the hospital. But there we were again. And Read More…

Happy Wife’s Day!

HAPPY WIFE’S DAY! Yes, I know that in the United States, we just celebrated Mother’s Day on Sunday. But for some moms it was a painful day for one reason or another. However, my husband Steve came up with an idea that kind of can take the sting out of Read More…

Dealing with Miscarriage in Your Marriage

How do you deal in your marriage, with the death of a child that you never had the opportunity to hold in your arms? And yet you held them, and always will, in your heart. How does any human being emotionally deal with such a grievous loss of a miscarriage? Read More…

Grieving Differently in Marriage – MM #249

“We’re SO Different!” We’ve said this so many times but it bears repeating. We’re so different! And one of those areas of being different, is how you can approach grieving differently, and yet, how you can give each other grace to do so. When you marry you’re commissioned by God, to take Read More…

When Your Spouse Dies

When we marry, our goal is to “become one flesh.” It’s talked about in the Bible in Genesis 2:24, Malachi 2:15; Mark 10:7-8; Matthew 19:4-6; and Ephesians 5:31. But what happens to the surviving spouse when his or her spouse dies? That’s a question we’ve been asked many times here Read More…

Total Separation: The Right Way to End an Affair

You’d think that a wayward spouse would be aware of his or her weakness, and aware of the pain inflicted. And because of this awareness, he or she would be thoughtful enough to make every effort to avoid further contact with the lover. Instead, the wayward spouse often argues that Read More…