We remember a speaker challenging us with the following question many years ago: “If you worked at your job the same way you work at your marriage, how long do you think you’d stay employed?” Ouch! But it was a good “ouch”! It stirred our thinking in the direction of Read More…
“The problem they are having is that they aren’t in alignment.” That’s what I heard one woman say as she pointed out the reason another couple was fighting so much. Afterward we remarked, “Wow! That’s spot on… she’s right.” They’re both turning their ears, eyes, and attitudes so far away from Read More…
Have you had this happen to you? You want some type of change to happen in your marriage, but it isn’t happening. You’ve frustrated and yet you don’t see why you should have to change what you’re currently doing about it (even when you see it’s not working). It doesn’t Read More…
Every waking hour of the day, you are faced with “choices” to make, that can either add to the richness of your marriage, or could potentially harm it in some manner. But what makes a marriage last? As you read through the following poem, consider the continual choices that you Read More…
We’re told in the Bible, “There is a time and season for everything under Heaven.” And that definitely applies when it comes to listening to what our spouse is trying to tell us. Sometimes our spouse wants us to just listen and affirm; other times our spouse wants us to Read More…
Lord, grant that I may seek more to understand than to be understood. (St Francis of Assisi) How many of us can truthfully say that when we are in conflict with our spouse, we seek more to understand them “than to be understood?” Seek to Understand I admit that too many Read More…
Do you hear correctly, as it pertains to what your spouse is trying to say to you? The saying goes, “God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. He wants us to be better prepared to listen than to speak.” That sure goes along with the Bible Read More…
We’re talking about learning to know and understand your spouse. “Proverbs 23:7 says, ‘As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.’ To me this says that whatever you put in your heart will sooner or later show up as the real you. You become what you think about Read More…
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In your marriage, have you found yourself in a situation where you’re trying to communicate with your spouse, but his or her body language is telling you that there isn’t a whole lot of listening going on —that your words are bouncing around but no one is mentally “home” to Read More…
