How Pornography Hurts Intimacy In a Marriage

James Bryden writes, “Love does not die easily. It is a living thing. It thrives in the face of all life’s hazards, save one —neglect.” And when you get involved with pornography it causes you to neglect your sexual life with your spouse. Pornography hurts intimacy in marriages and kills Read More…

When Past Sexual Abuse Affects a Marriage’s Intimacy

This is a very difficult article to write. And it is a very difficult message to deliver. If you are haunted by horrible memories from the past sexual abuse you experienced, I want you to know that you CAN experience freedom. I know. I know because I also lived in that Read More…

Adultery of the Mind – MM #35

In the Marriage Message before this one (#34), Cindy and I shared some thoughts on the topic of Marital Intimate Issues. Afterward, some men wrote to say they really liked the “sex is a type of worship” part. But as we said, “there is a right kind of worship and Read More…

Marital Intimate Issues – MM #34

Do you have intimate issues that pertain to sexual intimacy with your spouse that are causing problems in your lives together? If you do, you’re not alone. The media is filled with sex talk and many intimate problems that couples are encountering. Unfortunately, Christian couples are not excluded from experiencing Read More…

REAL LIFE: A Real Killer of Romance and Intimacy

Perhaps the biggest shock for many of us after we are married is the loneliness that can pervade a house filled with people. We may be prepared for boredom with our spouse. We may successfully fight off the temptation of an affair. But we are surprised by how lonely it Read More…

How Much Sex Is Normal?

So, you haven’t had much sex with your spouse lately, huh? How much sex is normal? Well, one in five couples are living in “sexless” marriages, sex experts say, meaning having sex fewer than 10 times a year. And one-third of married couples struggle with the problem of mismatched sexual Read More…

What Is Not Okay In Bed?

“If both partners agree, is anything taboo?” “What about the use of vibrators?” “Is oral sex okay?” [These are a few questions that Christian women asked about the sexual relationship in marriage from a survey that the authors conducted.] But at the heart of each of these questions were two Read More…

Nabbing Thieves That Steal Your Intimacy

Every couple wishes the romance, intimacy, and starry-eyed love could last forever. But at some point every husband and wife must cross the invisible line between fantasy love and real life. This is where the majority of marriage is lived out. Even King Solomon and the Shulammite crossed that line Read More…