For a long time, I didn’t know that sex was God’s idea and that it is a gift to us in marriage. I was surprised to see how much God said about it in His Word. And I was flabbergasted to discover that a woman could be sensual and godly at the same time. I’d always thought these two words couldn’t be used in the same sentence! But God rejoices greatly in this intimate physical union between husband and wife, which is part of His plan for making us one. Sex between a husband and wife is one of God’s holiest gifts.
Married Sex is One of God’s Holiest Gifts
In my immaturity, I never realized how important the sexual relationship is to a man. I learned that sex is a huge need for a husband. This is a need he has emotionally and physically.
After I started meeting my husband’s needs in this regard, every other area of our marriage improved over time. The walls started coming down and the lines of communication opened. My husband became more tender toward me. And he was more responsive to my needs as well.
Things didn’t change overnight. I spent many hours talking to God about it. I learned that “the wife’s body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband.“ And the same is true for the husband.
We are told:
It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong. But marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality. The husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband.
Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting. But it is only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence —only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. (1 Corinthians 7:2-6, The Message)
Another verse that changed my thinking completely was: “The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.“(Genesis 2:25) I had to rid my mind of old mindsets and misconceptions. And I had to align my thoughts with God’s perspective.
As I have given my body as a “gift” to my husband, we have both enjoyed a very fulfilling intimate relationship. It’s one that keeps getting better all the time. I also feel a deeper love for my husband than I did when we were newlyweds!
Best of all, I feel that God is at the center of our marriage. I thank Him for giving us this precious gift of intimacy.
This article (plus more) can be found in the book, The Best Thing I Ever Did for My Marriage: 50 Real Life Stories. It is written by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby, and is published by Multnomah Publishers. This book has 50 eye-opening, sometimes humorous true stories in it. They are aimed to help wives problem-solve and better cope in the situations they find themselves in. This book is filled with “wise and wonderful counsel” in a wide variety of marriage issues aimed to build stronger marriages and is VERY inspiring and enjoyable to read.
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“Believe it or not, making love with your spouse is a spiritual, as well as a physical, exercise.”
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Lastly, in this next article, written by Ginger Kolbaba, four sex therapists explain things you should know (and up to this point you may NOT know). But after reading this article, you will!
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