“Your wife is like an automobile.” That appears to be a strange statement to make, isn’t it? Yes, it is… but it’s also true. Your wife could be a person (like some automobiles) who requires high maintenance. Or perhaps she’s a low maintenance type of marriage partner. She could be “efficient” and “dependable” or costly—a wife who needs a special amount of attention. But as author Stormie Omartian says, “She needs fuel to make her run smoothly” regardless. Your wife’s spirit needs “gas in her car.” That’s where you come in as a praying husband.
She could be full right now with the “daily infilling of the Holy Spirit” and with infusions of your love. Or she could be running on empty, and need an extra dose of God’s infilling and your help. No matter what… as her husband, your wife needs you as her marriage partner to pray for her and to love her as God would have you. She needs for you to be her praying husband
To better understand what Stormie Omartian means when she compares your wife to an automobile, plus additional advice she has for you as a praying husband, please read:
• THE POWER OF A PRAYERFUL HUSBAND
You, as a Praying Husband
Stormie Omartian makes another comparison, as it pertains to you as her praying husband. She equates your marriage to be much like a football game.
“You and your wife are a team. And she wants the security of knowing that when things are tough and down to the wire—even when the enemy is already celebrating your demise and all appears to be lost—you have the faith to believe that up to the very last second everything can turn around. She needs the assurance you have a play in your pocket that can take you down the field with the ball for a possible winning score. She wants you to trust that with God nothing is impossible. And because of that you will never give up hoping for the impossible to happen.”
To learn more, here’s another article to read. It has the same title but different content, which is important to read:
• THE POWER OF A PRAYERFUL HUSBAND
To help you further as a praying husband
The following is something that Stormie’s husband Michael Omartian has written on a husband praying for his wife. After that, you will find a link to a prayer outline, written by “Huz.” Plus, you will find a link to another written prayer, which you can use as an outline as a praying husband, praying on behalf of your wife.
Michael Omartian writes:
“Prayer requires forgetting your own agenda and letting God set the agenda. Many times prayer would focus my attention away from the need to see Stormie change, and become more accommodating to me, to instead change me to be more accommodating to her. That’s scary stuff for the ego! But through prayer we have been able to make changes and work things out. Now we have been married for 28 years and I can’t imagine anyone else as my mate. But our problems only work themselves out when she and I join with God to solve them. That threefold cord will not be easily broken.”
Below is a prayer that Michael has used, that you can too, joined with God in:
PRAYER POWER
“Lord, I pray that You would establish in me and (wife’s name) bonds of love that cannot be broken. Show me how to love my wife in an ever-deepening way that she can clearly perceive. May we have mutual respect and admiration for each other so that we become and remain one another’s greatest friend, champion, and unwavering support.
“Where love has been diminished, lost, destroyed, or buried under hurt and disappointment, put it back in our hearts. Give us strength to hold on to the good in our marriage. Help us even in those times when one of us doesn’t feel love.
“Enable my wife and me to forgive each other quickly and completely. Specifically I lift up to You (name any area where forgiveness is needed). Help us to ‘be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving,’ the way You are to us (Ephesians 4:32).
“Teach us to overlook the faults and weaknesses of the other. Give us a sense of humor, especially as we deal with the hard issues of life.
“Unite us in faith, beliefs, standards of morality, and mutual trust. Help us to be of the same mind, to move together in harmony, and to quickly come to mutual agreements about our finances, our children, how we spend our time, and any other decisions that need to be made.
Also:
“Where we are in disagreement and this has caused strife, I pray You would draw us together on the issues. Adjust our perspectives to align with Yours. Make our communication open and honest so that we avoid misunderstandings.
“May we have the grace to be tolerant of each other’s faults and, at the same time, have the willingness to change. I pray that we will not live two separate lives, but will instead walk together as a team. Remind us to take time for one another so that our marriage will be a source of happiness, peace, and joy for us both.
“Lord, I pray that You would protect our marriage from anything that would destroy it. Take out of our lives anyone who would come between us or tempt us. Help us to immediately recognize and resist temptation when it presents itself.
Furthermore:
“I pray that no other relationship either of us have, or have had in the past, will rob us of anything in our relationship now. Sever all unholy ties in both of our lives. May there never be any adultery or divorce in our future to destroy what You, Lord, have put together. Help because it has developed a non-working part. I pray that we will turn to You—the Designer—to fix it and get it operating the way it was intended.
“Teach us to seek each other’s well-being first, as You have commended in Your Word (1 Corinthians 10:24). We want to keep You at the center of our marriage and not expect from each other what only You can give.
“Where either of us have unrealistic expectations of the other, open our eyes to see it. May we never waver in our commitment and devotion to You and to one another, so that this marriage will become all You designed it to be.”
This prayer is found in the book, The Power of a Praying® Husband
– ALSO –
Below you will find additional prayers you can pray for your wife, located at other web site locations. Please click onto the links below to read:
• HOW TO PRAY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE — A User’s Guide
• PRAYER PORTIONS: Praying for Your Wife
• PRAYING FOR YOUR WIFE HEAD TO TOE
If you have additional tips to help others, please “Join the Discussion” by adding your comments below.
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I’ve been married for 7 yrs. I have 4 beautiful girls with my husband. He’s been in jail for 1 yr. He got deported last yr and he tried to cross the boarder illegally to try to get back to us. He got caught and now is in San Diego Federal. He goes to court May 13th. I’m trying to do anything I can to get my husband’s papers back. He’s got them took in when he was a minor.
My daughter and I wrote the judge a letter, sent pics of him before and after, when he had tattoos on his face and now he doesn’t have them. He has changed a lot. I keep praying for him and reading my Bible. I always tell him to have faith. I don’t know what else to do.
I pray for my wife as she is alone and has a lot of worries. She is in London working and she needs support and guidance. Please help. Thank you.
Pray for my wife to listen to God and trust God to Guide her and direct her according to his will…and to strengthen me to be patient and have Faith in God to save our marriage. I do love my wife unconditionally. And to ask God to help everyone who is going through difficult times in their life in Jesus Name, Amen.
I can attest to the power of prayer in a marriage, as God has restored and healed my marriage, in an amazing way. A marriage so utterly broken, most would have jumped ship a long time ago. One filled with abuse and adultery. I trusted in God’s Word to hang on to Him and pray, that it would be more beautiful than I could imagine. I stand here today, saying, this year we will celebrate 33 years of marriage; our marriage is a fulfillment of God’s promise, it truly is more beautiful than I could have imagined. Our marriage is a miracle from heaven.
Victoria, I’ve been estranged and divorced from my wife since she left in March 2003. We have a daughter I haven’t seen since she was just six months old. She will be 14 this year. Your post gives me hope. Would you share more of your and your husband’s story? Did you separate/divorce? If so, how long were you apart? Those types of details.
Believing that God wants to reconcile our marriage is a very lonely place to be. I have encountered those who now look back on years of a loving marriage restored. And, that restoration/reconciliation came after years of being divorced from each other. They divorced when there was wickedness and sin. Some when there was adultery. Some when there was abuse. Some both. Some were well over 10 years divorced, like my wife and I. I know that “most” in “Christendom” (especially in recent decades) hold a view that allows for divorce and remarriage (of which I know by scripture to be ongoing adultery as long as the spouse of one’s youth, a pre-existing spouse, is still breathing) to another, while one’s spouse is still living. The “Christian Singles” movement… The “move on, get on with your life” types…
Thank you for using terms like “so utterly broken” as opposed to a “dead” marriage. People die. Marriages ARE until a spouse dies, the marriage IS. We may be divorced from a spouse, but unless God takes one out of the earth, the marriage REMAINS. They are no longer two, they are NOW one. (Another error. Two don’t “become” one over years of marriage… They ARE made on at the moment they’re wed). We either stay divorced (away from) or be reconciled to our living spouse. Or, say like Anias or Saphira, one of the spouses actually dies (physically, not some kind of “spiritual” death… Like the Westminister Confession attempts to maintain.). Or, as many, many, do… choose to live in adultery, calling it “marriage”.
God doesn’t recognize Adam and Steve calling their choice to share a bed and home a “marriage”, regardless of any color of law or statute of man. Likewise, regardless of any appearance of success, church “attendance”, etc., where two people, a man and woman, calling their relationship a “marriage” (again, by color of law or statute of man) while their is a divorced spouse that still lives, is no less a deception. It is, unless repented of and foresaken, persistant adultery. No matter how “right” it seems to be in man’s view. And, this is the lie that millions, and millions of children, have been deceived of for generations… (See marriagedivorce.com). I appreciate any edification your testimony might give. And, in the name above every name, Christ Jesus, Almighty God and Redeemer, I thank you for your prayer. By His Word and His Ministry, Go, and be reconciled.
I need the copy.
Maurice, in South Africa you can order this book through Amazon’s Global Partners. Here’s the direct link for the book: The Power of a Praying® Husband
Wow thanks so much for this wonderful prayer. They are so powerful indeed. I thank God to discovered it. I pray that this prayer will work for us in Jesus Name!!! Thank you.
Love this message and love the prayers. One thing I can’t reconcile though is it says wives are not commanded to obey their husbands yet Ephesians 5 commands them to and also Titus 2:5 talks about it as well. God bless.
Matt, We’re so glad that you found this article to be helpful. After reading it again, we found a few more things to add to it, so please look through it again. But I’m confused. Where does it talk about wives obeying their husbands? This article addresses nothing about obeying (from what I can see). It is all about praying for a wife and loving her as God would have you.