It’s too bad that we have such a “comparison shopping” mentality in today’s world. And that doesn’t just pertain to apples and bananas. When things don’t go the way we want them to financially and/or relationally, we can also get caught up into comparing our circumstance and our relationship with our spouse, with what others have or what we think we should have.
It can start out innocent enough, but eventually it can lead to trouble. We might not even be conscious that we’re doing anything wrong. After-all, it’s “natural” to want more than we have when we’re unhappy. But it can leave us open to putting our eyes, and our hopes —our longings, where they shouldn’t go, and even dreaming for something that isn’t ours to dream about.
Tempting Voices in Wishing He was Your Husband
It leaves us open to listening to the tempting voices which the enemy of our faith is ready to supply when we’re unhappy.
We’re told in the Bible: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23).
It also says, “Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or to the left; keep your foot from evil” (Proverbs 4:25-27).
Wishing and hoping that someone was your husband to the point of being so discontent that you leave your heart unguarded, can be dangerous.
How many times we’ve heard the statement said, “We never meant for it to happen, it just did!” That’s why we want to warn you to guard your heart and put your eyes on your own path —not someone else’s.
Below, we have provided several links to articles that discuss this very problem. We hope you’ll prayerfully read them and ask the Lord to teach you what you need to learn from them —either for your own situation or to share with someone else.
Just click on the links provided below:
Written by Sabrina Beasley, an article posted on the web site for Family Life:
Here’s another article we highly recommend you read for further insight:
Jennifer Smith wrote the following article, posted on the Unveiledwife.com web site on this issue:
Here’s an interesting and thought-provoking article you can view on the Faithwriters.com web site. I HIGHLY recommend you prayerfully read it:
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.