The following are Web Site Links and descriptions of resources that pertain to married women. We pray they will minister to your marriage.
• Familylife.com This the web site for the ministry of Family Life Today. This is a great ministry and they have a great web site that you could find very helpful. In particular, if you go into their web site and click into “Articles” and then select “Marriage” you will find an option you can select called “Wives.” There you will find a long list of articles you can choose from which you can read.
• Flylady.net This web site is designed to help you organize and de-clutter your house and your life. It’s put together by those who say, “We are not perfect, but we have learned to get our own homes and lives in order and most importantly, we have been where you are now.”
• Girlsgonewise.com This web site is designed both for women who are married and women who are single. It’s intent is to help you to know the difference between wild and wise —to give you spiritual smarts for life and love. “You’ll be challenged to be far more than the world’s idea of the perfect woman.” The articles on this web site aim to help you to become someone your Heavenly Father always intended you to be —”a woman who is wise in a world gone wild.”
• Happywivesclub.com They’re “searching for at least 1 million happy wives all over the world. Those who enjoy being a wife absolutely adore their husband and are still head-over-heels in love.” On this web site, you’ll see articles written by Fawn Weaver and others, who will help you to embrace marriage in a positive way!
• Intentionaltoday.com This web site is put together by Ngina Otiende, a native Kenyan, who now lives in the United States. The mission of this web site is to “encourage, equip and inspire early-wed wives to build intentional happily-ever-afters!” As Ngina states, “If you are in your early years of marriage and are wondering how to navigate and transition from ‘temporary honeymoon’ to lasting bliss, this blog is for you. If you are older in marriage and need refresher tips, insights and thoughts, this blog is for you. If you are wondering how to connect the dots when it comes to your personal success, this blog is for you.” “Based on personal experience and stories” Ngina “will encourage and challenge you to overcome mindsets and attitudes that stop you from becoming all that God created you to become.”
• Just-moved.org This ministry is committed to the spiritual growth and emotional well-being of women who are going through the transition and adjustment of moving. They are committed to strength and minister to the family through Biblical teaching; providing truth, hope and encouragement so they will know and understand the love of Christ. Using God’s word and His Biblical principles, Just Moved ministers through their Web site, radio broadcasts, teaching materials, books, videos, conferences, speaking engagements, Newsletters, prayer support, and their Moving On After Moving In classes that are currently offered in over two-thirds of the U.S. and in countries throughout the world.
• Marital Harmony: Emergency Marriage Manual for Christian Women. This free on-line manual, written by Dominie Soo Bush, is described by the author as a tool “for WIVES ONLY and does not address the husband’s role or responsibilities in marriage. There are many good books on this subject…if men would only read them! Of course, an ideal marriage is where both husband and wife are doing their part to adapt and make the marriage work. CAUTION: Do not discuss the ideas in this booklet with your husband–it will backfire. Just try to live it.”
• Peterswife.com: Peter’s Wife is a great place for women working outside their home culture to connect, encourage and help one another. Browse their site and choose the ways that best fit your situation and needs. The newsletter is the core of their service. For ten years Peter’s Wife was mailed until printing and postage made it too costly. The Internet breathed new life into their vision and in May, 2000, Peter’s Wife began again as an email newsletter. You can sign up for them on their web site.
• Todayschristianwoman.com: This is a web site put together by the ministry of Christianity Today, which features articles on faith, marriage + sex, parenting, church + ministry, friends + community, and more as it pertains to today’s Christian woman.
• Tolovehonorandvacuum.com This is a web site with author Sheila Wray Gregoire, in which she emphasizes that it’s about “real marriage, no pretensions.” She has articles, blogs, and video opportunities, plus other information, which can help you in your married life.
• Because I Said Forever: Embracing Hope in an Imperfect Marriage -written by Deb Kalmbach and Heather Kopp, published by Multnomah Publishers. This book is by far one of my (Cindy’s) favorite books on the subject of marriage. It’s a compilation of true testimonies on various subjects of marriage lived out by different women who have and are living through some really tough situations and yet God has helped them to live victoriously despite the difficulties. The authors have done an excellent job of “applying biblical principles to the challenging issues involved in a difficult marriage.” The great thing about this book is it gives the readers some different biblically based options to consider. You’ll discover that it is possible to be personally fulfilled even if your marriage is not fulfilling. It is possible to discover joy, to find the support you need, to thrive in your Christian walk, turning your challenges into opportunities for personal and spiritual growth.”
• CELEBRATING MEN MORSELS – This particular web site page can be found on the web site for Understandingmen.com. Even though this is not a Christian web site, we have found it to be very insightful. It highlights much of what Alison Armstrong talks about in trying to help women better understand men and wives better understand their husbands. This particular page gives “morsel” tips to women, which we consider to be illuminating and wise in many ways.
• FOR WOMEN ONLY RADIO BROADCAST SERIES This is a series of radio broadcasts that the ministry of Family Life Today aired May 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9, 2008, featuring discussions with Shaunti Feldhahn and Dennis Rainey. The aim is to help women better understand their husbands. It’s a GREAT series! You can either listen to each broadcast on your computer or Podcast, or you can read the transcripts they provide. The choices include: — Respecting the Man in Your Life — Desiring His Love — Keeping Up Appearances — The Great Impostor — Roving Toward Romance.
• For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men -written by Shaunti Feldhahn, published by Multnomah. This is a GREAT book to help women learn about what motivates men and their thought processes behind their actions (or non-actions). Shaunti interviewed over 1000 men in researching this book. As a result she found that she didn’t know the mind of her husband and others like she thought she did. So what she does in this book is reveal the findings her research brought out so that other women can better understand the men in their lives (i.e. husbands, sons, dads, brothers, friends, etc.) which will help them to better interact with them. Shaunti makes it very clear that this isn’t a “male-bashing” book. It’s also not written to justify what men believe, it’s written to reveal what they believe. There are always exceptions to everything. But as Shaunti explains, this book will help women to better understand most men and most likely her husband.
• For Women Only Discussion Guide: A Companion to the Bestseller about the Inner Lives of Men -written by Shaunti Feldhahn with Lisa Rice, published by Multnomah. This discussion guide is designed to be used by book clubs, in small group settings, or even for having a one-on-one dialogue with the man in your life. Many women, after reading the For Women Only book may wonder, “So what do I do with the information I’ve just been given?” This discussion guide is designed to help answer that question. It contains personal stories, questions, and situational case studies to equip you to apply the truths you learn in your own life.
• Girls Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild-written by Mary Kassian, published by Moody Publishers. In this book, author Mary Kassian knows “the devastation and heartache being wild can bring. Her insights from Proverbs on the differences between a saucy, seductive Wild Thing and a smart, biblically savvy Wise Thing is a must read. Every minute you spend here will help you —or someone you love —replace the emptiness and guilt of being wild with the power of living out God’s spectacular design for women. But be prepared. This isn’t your grandmother’s handbook on etiquette. It’s God’s Word unfolded by someone He’s commissioned to speak the truth in love. You’ll be captivated, challenged, and impassioned to be far more than the world’s model of the perfect woman. You read this book and apply its principles and you’ll become something your Heavenly Father and Friend has always intended you to be: A Girl Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild.”
• How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You -written by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby, published by Multnomah. This book is about what a wife “can do and say and think and change that will create an inviting climate for warm conversation.” It “is fun and practical —an easy-to-read primer of sorts that will help you resolve the age-old mystery of communication between the sexes. You can open this book to any section and pick up a tip or two that can encourage your husband to talk to you. So whether you have lots of time to read or just a few minutes a week, you’ll find this book helpful.
• Liberated Through Submission: God’s Design for Freedom in All Relationships! -written by Bunny Wilson, published by Harvest House. In this wonderful book, Bunny Wilson shares her clear and thoughtful understanding of a principle that will revolutionize your thinking on the area of submission. Using the Bible as a guide, Liberated Through Submission shares the fascinating facts of true, biblical submission and explores how submission applies to every man and every woman —whether married or single. If submission is the last thing you want to do —you need to read this book!
• Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires -written by Dr Emerson Eggerichs, a Focus on the Family Book, published by Integrity Publishers. This is a marriage book that makes a difference! It delivers a revolutionary message. People are saying about this book: “I’ve been married 35 years and have not heard this taught.” — “This is the key that I have been missing.” — “It caused a light bulb moment for me.” — “You connected all the dots for me.” — “As a counselor, I’ve never been so excited about any material.” — “You’re on to something huge here.”
Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the “Love and Respect” message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other. What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some “Love and Respect.”
• Sacred Influence: How God Uses Wives to Shape the Souls of Their Husbands -written by Gary Thomas, published by Zondervan Publishing. In these pages, you’ll find a perspective to help you understand your husband: the view of the marriage relationship through a man’s eyes. Thomas gives you insider information on how men think, feel, and can truly be motivated. Does a heartbreaking marital problem —a hair-trigger temper, Internet addiction, irresponsibility, emotional distance —feel like an impossible roadblock to you? This book doesn’t gloss over issues like these but faces them head-on with a solid, positive advice. Sacred Influence shows how God can bless you with a soul-filling intimacy as you and your husband are shaped into the people he intends you to be. This is a WONDERFUL book that we HIGHLY recommend for you to read. It gives a new fresh insight into the male mind, along with spiritual help in seeing this from a Godly perspective.
• Secrets to Getting More Done in Less Time -written by Donna Otto, published by Harvest House. Discover easy ways to save thousands of steps in the kitchen, streamline your shopping, create joyful holiday gatherings, and make your daily planner work for you. This book deals with: Clutter, paper piles and stacks of mail, deadlines, last-minute panics, wardrobe woes, inflexible budgets, and much, much more.
• 10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages -written by Karla Downing, published by Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City. This book helps women overcome their sense of powerlessness by giving them tools to improve their marriage. It examines misconceptions about Scriptures that cause confusion and even pain, helping women recover their faith that God cares for them. Women will begin to focus on what they can do to change themselves, instead of trying over and over again to change their husbands. As they learn to set boundaries with their husbands, they will protect themselves and their children from the effects of the difficult marriage. One day at a time, their lives will begin to change and heal as they apply the information, insights, and principles to their individual situation. 10 Lifesaving Principles helps women: Re-examine their ideas about certain Christian scriptures and principles (for example, submission) Develop a support system of family, friends, and other women facing the same problems Set boundaries with their husbands to protect themselves and their children from the effects of the difficult marriage.
• The Best Thing I Ever Did for My Marriage: 50 Real Life Stories -written Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby, published by Multnomah. This book contains 50 eye-opening, often humorous true stories—including contributions from Cynthia Heald, Dee Brestin, Rosemary Jensen, and Donna Otto —that will inspire you with moments that build stronger marriages. It inspires you to: bring down walls between you and your husband, adjust to differences in your personalities, deal with the damage and heartbreak of betrayal, and go on living when everything goes terribly wrong.
• The Mother-in-Law Dance: Can Two Women Love the Same Man and Still Get Along? -written by Annie Chapman, published by Harvest House. This book has so much to offer. I’ve (Cindy) always loved everything Annie has written but this is one of her best. I’d highly recommend this book to everyone to read who either is a mother-in-law or has a mother-in-law because it has something in it that everyone can learn from and be inspired. In this book Annie Chapman describes the often delicate relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as a dance. She very candidly discusses the twists and turns of this connection and provides practical advice to help you better relate with your mother- or daughter-in-law.
Drawing on years of experience, real-life input from other women through hundreds of conversations with women and specially designed questionnaires, and solid biblical insights that will encourage your own spiritual growth, Annie reveals potential missteps to watch out for, and practical ideas to help you create more positive interactions with your in-law to successfully: build a great relationship – deal with new traditions and activities – overcome hurts and conflicts – set realistic boundaries – handle generation-gap issues – accept (and reject) advice – and cope with differences in faith. We hope you’ll obtain a copy of this book for your own use and to give out to others as a gift.
• The Politically Incorrect Wife -written by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby, published by Multnomah. This is a real down-to-earth book, which is both inspiring yet practical, and helps those who read it to have a clearer understanding of God’s design for the married woman. After years of having their marriages “stuck” in no-win positions, they eventually realized how “selfish and self-centered” their idea of love really was. They eventually “discovered God’s plan for marriage and began to follow His set of standards.” They go on to say, “By God’s grace, we discovered a life-changing truth: Political correctness doesn’t work in a marriage. We were shocked to learn this! After all, we had spent years shaping our lives around this faulty view. Now, however, we consider that view to be utter foolishness and thank God every day for showing us the spiritual principles in His plan for marriage.” You’ll want to read the bookto find out what they learned and the spiritual principles upon which their discoveries are founded so your marriage could benefit also.
• The Power of a Positive Wife -written by Karol Ladd, published by Howard Publishing Company. You can read this book for your own personal growth and enrichment, or you can use it in a group study with the women in your church or community. There are Power Points at the end of each chapter which offer scriptures to read with questions to ponder, sample prayers to pray, verses to memorize, and activities to help you effectively put principles of the chapter into practice.
• The Power of a Praying Wife -written by Stormie Omartian, published by Harvest House Publishers. What a wonderful book this is! Along with real-life illustrations Stormie also includes sample prayers and “power tools”—verses that inspire and encourage —to help wives rest in the assurance of God’s wonderful promises of restoration, renewal, and growth in marriage. Stormie says this book is “not a means of gaining control over your husband. In fact, it is quite the opposite. It’s laying down all claim to power in and of yourself, and relying on God’s power to transform you, your husband, your circumstances, and your marriage. This power is not given to wield like a weapon in order to beat back an unruly beast. It’s a gentle tool of restoration appropriated through the prayers of a wife who longs to do right more than be right, and to give life more than get even. It’s a way to invite God’s power into your husband’s life for his greatest blessing, which is ultimately yours, too.”
She goes on to say, “Many difficult things that happen in a marriage relationship are actually part of the enemy’s plan set up for its demise. But we can say, ‘I will not allow anything to destroy my marriage.’ …’I will not sit idle while an invisible wall goes up between us.’ ‘I will not allow confusion, miscommunication, wrong attitudes, and bad choices to erode what we are trying to build together.’ ‘I will not tolerate hurt and unforgiveness leading us to divorce.'” To that we say, “AMEN!” This is a terrific book that we highly recommend!
• The Power of Being a Woman: Embracing the Triumph of the Feminine Spirit -written by Michelle McKinney Hammond, published by Harvest House. This book helps you to get a handle on the true feminine mystique —the one designed by God. You’ll find help in perfecting the art of being a woman, including: using your greatest power —influence, finding strength in your vulnerability, and reclaiming your rightful identity as a woman of God as you begin to appreciate and celebrate the differences between the genders. If you’re ready to end the battle of the sexes once and for all in your mind, you’ll love this bold discussion about the real differences between men and women. Even though Michelle isn’t married, you’d never know it by reading the advice she gives us married women. It’s right on target!
• The Walk-Out Woman: When Your Heart is Empty and Your Dreams Are Lost -written by Dr Steve Stephens and Alice Gray, published by Multnomah. We HIGHLY recommend this book. This is for women who need practical and inspiring help to breathe new life into their marriages, which may seem hopeless. As the authors say, concerning this book, “We pray that you will recognize the symptoms and dangers of becoming a walk-out woman and that you will realize that it is not a path to happiness. Opening your heart to your marriage again is indeed a risk, but we believe it’s a risk worth taking. …We’ll talk about realistic and unrealistic expectations and the dangers of creating a new fantasy with someone else. We’ll also give you strategies for taking care of yourself, getting connected again with your husband, resolving conflict, dealing with anger and loss, remembering the good times, and pressing closer to the Lord.”
• The Wounded Woman: Hope and Healing for Those Who Hurt -written by Dr Steve Stephens and Pam Vredevelt, published by Multnomah Publishers. This is a good book for women filled who are finding it difficult to cope with some of the tragedies that plague them. It offers you the pathway to regain your footing, restart your life, recover your energy, and reclaim your joy. Contained within its pages are real-life testimonies that will guide you toward recovery and inspire you to press forward in newfound strength —not in spite of your wounds but because of them. As Dr Stephens says, “We cannot change the past. What has occurred —with all of its hurt, injustice, cruelty, disappointment, and tragedy —has slipped into history, beyond our control. Even so, we can change how we view the painful realities that have touched our life and what we say to ourselves about those realities.” The mission of this book is to help you move forward as you work through your pain, “reminding you that there is hope that you are not alone. God never promised to keep us from wounds, but He did promise to be with us and to help us heal.”