You’ve lost your job. How do you cope? How do you deal with all of the different emotions, the financial concerns, as well as the marriage and family concerns that bombard your mind? And how do you even deal with God, wondering why He would allow you to be in this place in your life? These are just a few of the issues you may be dealing with after you lose your job.
“Whether you’ve been fired, retrenched or euphemistically, ‘let go,’ losing your job can be a difficult trial to walk through. Given that an average person will have 10 to 12 jobs in a lifetime of work, losing your job at least once during that span of time, is actually a likely scenario. The question isn’t whether it’ll happen to you, but rather how you plan to deal with it when it does happen.
“Can a Christian lose his job, yet keep his integrity in the process? How do you get fired and glorify God?”
Advice from “Experts”
Quite honestly, I don’t know. But I know of some “experts” that do. Most of them have lived through this experience in one way or another. So I’m passing along in written form, that which they’ve learned, hoping it will help you.
Whether you are the “bread-winner” or a co-laborer in supporting your household, please read the advice given and glean what you can from it. Don’t get stuck on the specifics. Ask the Lord to personalize the information so you can learn what HE wants you to gain from reading this.
As the saying goes, “it’s not just what you’ve lived through that’s important, but what you’ve learned through and pass along to others.”
With that said, the following web site link, will lead you to an article, as well as several comments below. They might help you on this journey.
Pastor, author, and financial expert, Steve Diggs gives the following advice:
“If you’re part of the jobless, you know it’s tough! To give you some more statistics, the average time to find a new job right now is about 4 and 1/2 months. I’d like to help you shorten that. If you have a minute, let me share some tips that might be helpful if you’ve lost your job and are in a desert period.”
To learn these tips, please read the following CBN.com article:
“Whether you’ve been laid-off, fired, downsized, outsized or right-sized doesn’t really matter. If you’ve been forced out of a position without a new one in sight, the road you’re traveling is likely full of speed bumps, potholes and detours!”
Brad Lewis, in his Focusonthefamily.com article discusses some of these “speed bumps, potholes and detours.” He highlights a few things concerning, “What you’re feeling.” And then he gives a few tips on “What you can do about it” in the article linked below:
The Personal Crisis
Whether your job was lost because of a down-sizing or lay-off move made by your employer, a lay-off situation, or whatever, losing a job can bring one to a point of “personal crisis.” As one person put it:
“Coping with job loss can create an identity crisis. I lost the career I had held for more than twenty-five years due to a serious injury. Because of my resulting limitations, I could not get another job. While employed in my field, I experienced such pride and satisfaction. I valued my education, my experience, the longevity of my career, and my capabilities. Now it was gone.
“Suddenly, all of those things that had been so important to me were meaningless. When I lost my career, I felt I had lost far more than just a job. I was distraught and suffered job loss depression. How could I earn a living? I was not really sure who I was anymore or if I had the capability to do anything at all. My self-worth plummeted. Of what value was my life now? It, too, seemed meaningless.
“There was a man in the Bible who felt much the same way. Ecclesiastes 1:2 says, ‘Meaningless! Meaningless! …Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless.‘ That’s how I felt!”
To learn more, please click onto the web site article:
And then, on the same web site, you can read another helpful testimony. It concerns the journey of a woman who lost her job, and the life lessons she learned along the way. As she said,
“There were certainly dark days when I questioned, ‘God, what in the world are You doing?’ But that isn’t giving up. That is getting honest with our Creator.”
To read more, go to:
And then, on the practical side of this situation, to read an article posted on Beliefnet.com, which could help you now and in the future, please click onto:
I hope you’ve found something within this article that will encourage you. What you are going through is difficult, to say the least. But I encourage you NOT to allow this setback to chip away at your marriage relationship. It’s important not to act like strangers or enemies with one another. The goal is to be partners struggling through this journey together.
It will take intentionality to NOT turn on one another, if the journey gets long, which it may. But please don’t allow the enemy of our faith to gain further victory. You have already suffered from the loss of your job. Work so that you do not also lose your marriage. Many experience both losses because they don’t find ways to draw together. Be intentional. Partner together. Don’t drive your spouse away at a time when you most need additional strength from each other.
If you’re in a bad place in your marriage, NOW is the time to do your part to turn things in a better direction. Each day can be a new beginning if you allow it to be. We have other articles on this web site that can help, if you need it.
Keep in Mind:
“In every marriage, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and to continue to find, the grounds for marriage.” –Robert Anderson
I’d like to end this article with the same verbiage that the blog, “Every Square Inch” ended theirs. That is because we value your input as to helping one another, in community —compassionately helping one another in whatever ways it is possible:
“Regardless of how you lost your job, how did the experience affect you? What did you learn through the process? Even if you’ve never lost your job, what advice would you offer?”
Also, if you want to share requests for prayer and/or ask others for advice, please “Join the Discussion” by adding your comments below.
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.