Marriage Bible Study – Unfailing Biblical Love

Marriage Bible Study Conversation Pixabay couch-1868755_1920The following is a marriage Bible study for you and your spouse to go through together. We believe it will help you to better understand unfailing biblical love within marriage.

Unfailing Biblical Love

When we decide to marry someone, we believe we have a love for that someone special, and they have a love for us that will last for the rest of our lives. That’s why we make promises to each other on our wedding day before God and all of our chosen witnesses. We promise “to love, honor, and cherish each other—forsaking all others—for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, ’til death do we part.” It’s our way of saying that we believe we have a love for each other that will never fail—no matter what. We believe our bond as a couple will only grow deeper as we spend the rest of our lives together.

Do you believe the above statement to be true for you and your spouse?


Wouldn’t it be nice if that would be true for every couple that marries? As someone once said, “I don’t believe that any couple who proceeds to marry each other ever walks down the aisle thinking they’re going to destroy their love for each other and consequently negatively impact their partner’s life from that day forward.” Do you? And yet we see this happening all around us.

• Consider the following statements and then comment on them:

The Bible says, What a man desires is unfailing love. (Proverbs 19:22) “Do you realize this verse is putting that, which we long for in a capsule phrase for us? Please don’t miss this! Every human being strongly desires, covets in others, and longs for unfailing love. We desire lavish love—focused love—radical love—a love we can count on” (Beth Moore).

Comment on your views of this statement. Is this true of you and your spouse?


Unfailing, Faithful Love

• The Bible also says, Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? (Proverbs 20:6) How would you describe unfailing love?



• Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Does your idea of unfailing love sound anything like Paul’s description of love as described in these verses? Explain.



• The commentary note in the Life Application Study Bible says this concerning those particular Bible verses:

“Our society confuses love and lust. Unlike lust, God’s kind of love is directed outward toward others, not inward toward ourselves. It is utterly unselfish. This kind of love goes against our natural inclinations. It is possible to practice this love only if God helps us set aside our own desires and instincts, so that we can give love while expecting nothing in return. Thus the more we become like Christ, the more love we will show to others.”

Comment on this statement and how this could be tied in with the marriage vows you gave each other on your wedding day.


Worldly Love VS Biblical Love

• Read the following as it pertains to the above verses in 1 Corinthians 13. And then comment on how worldly love differs from Biblical love:

“The problem with love is that so many people don’t have a clue what it is. Love is not a feeling; it’s an attitude. Basing love on emotions, as the world does, has caused immeasurable pain to countless numbers of people. It’s like building a sand castle on the beach. It might look solid, but when the high tide rolls in, the sand castle isn’t strong enough to hold up, and it washes away… The world gives love a staggering amount of attention… Love is presented as something to be ‘fallen into’ and ‘fallen out of.’ There is no solution given for what to do when the emotion fails you and the warm fuzzies are gone. That is, other than bailing out and starting over with someone else.

“You can recognize worldly love by how unpredictable it is. The Bible offers a different kind of love. This love says I am committed to act lovingly toward this person regardless of how I feel. You’ll be able to recognize biblical love: it is patient, unselfish, and loyal. It doesn’t keep score; it assumes the best motives. Additionally, it gives without seeking in return. It always seeks to honor God, and it endures through thick, thin, and in-between. Feelings change. Feelings don’t last, but biblical love is eternal.” (Henry and Richard Blackaby from, “The Experience: Day-by-Day with God”)

• How does “Biblical” love differ from “worldly” love? Have you seen a difference in how Christians love one another in marriage compared to those who don’t know the love of Christ? If yes, discuss the differences.



God’s Love and Our Love

• Read together 1 John 4:7-12. What do these verses tell us of God’s love for us and how we should love others —including our spouse?



• Read together Ephesians 5:1-2. The commentary for the above verses says:

“Just as children imitate their parents, we should imitate Christ. His great love for us led him to sacrifice himself so that we might live. Our love for others should be of the same kind. It should be a love that goes beyond affection to self-sacrificing service.”

How could this type of love manifest itself in marriage? Give some examples of self-sacrificing marital love that you’ve seen in the marriages of others. Give examples of this type of love that you’ve received from your spouse in your marriage.


Our Attitudes

• Read together Philippians 2:1-8. We’re told that our attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus and then explains His attitude. If our attitudes were the same as that of Christ how could this affect how we treat each other in our daily marital lives?



The commentary in the Life Application Study Bible for the above Bible verses says:

“Often people excuse selfishness, pride, or evil by claiming their rights. They think, “I can cheat on this test. After all, I deserve to pass this class.’ Or they say, ‘I can spend all this money on myself. I worked hard for it.’ But as believers, we should have a different attitude. It should be one that enables us to lay aside our rights in order to serve others. If we say we follow Christ, we must also say we want to live as he lived. We should develop his attitude of humility as we serve, even when we are not likely to get recognition for our efforts. Are you selfishly clinging to your rights, or are you willing to serve?”


• Read 1 John 4:13-17 and then 1 John 4:19-21. Comment on the particulars of these verses and how we should live them out in our married lives together.



• The commentary for the verses above says,

“It is easy to say we love God when that love doesn’t cost us anything more than weekly attendance at religious services. But the real test of our love for God is how we treat the people right in front of us—our family members and fellow believers. We cannot truly love God while neglecting to love those who are created in his image.”

Our Behavior

How should our behavior toward one another in our marriages differ from those who don’t have a relationship with Christ?


“People spend a lot of time and energy pursuing love. There is a difference, however, between God’s love and the love that the world knows. If we are not careful, Christians can begin to adopt the world’s way of loving instead of God’s. The world says love is a feeling. When you stop feeling love for someone it means you no longer love them.

…”Jesus commanded those who wanted to be his disciples to follow his standard for loving people rather than the world’s standard. Jesus directs us to love others in exactly the same way he loves us. When Jesus saw us hopelessly enslaved to sin, he didn’t say, ‘I don’t feel like dying on a cross for them. I think I’ll wait until the feeling comes.’ He didn’t say, ‘I have tried and tried to love them, but they always reject me. I give up!’

“Jesus saw that without him we would perish, and he acted lovingly toward us despite our rejecting him. His love did not depend on what we did to deserve it, or even on whether we accepted it. Jesus freely and unconditionally gave us his love. This is how God wants us to love others (especially our spouses). Not with strings attached, as the world loves. Not just love as long as they are lovable. Not just love as long as they appreciate it. God wants us to give our love freely and unconditionally. Only God can help us to love people in this way.” (Henry and Richard Blackaby)

Comment on this statement.


Marriage Bible Study

• From any of the Bible verses and comments that have been stated in this study—are you seeing things any differently now in how you should view and interact with your spouse? If so, how?



• “A good marriage is costly. It will cost you everything. And for that reason there aren’t many people who want to pay the price” (Scott Engelman). If a good marriage will cost you everything —is it worth it?


The question given above is one that only you can answer. But before you do, read together Philippians 3:7-16. Verse by verse discuss with each other what God is revealing to you concerning your marriage.


In closing:

This is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ —to the glory and praise of God.(Philippians 1:9-11)


End this time in prayer. Pray with each other and for each other. Praythat God will continually teach you how to give UNFAILING BIBLICAL LOVE to your spouse.

Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this Marriage Bible Study.

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13 responses to “Marriage Bible Study – Unfailing Biblical Love

  1. (USA)  WOW!!! Very well put together. We may use this for our Marriage Encounter Community as an enrichment class in February for Valentine’s Day. Thank you for sharing and for taking the time to do this. May God bless you in abundance and then some!

  2. (KENYA)  I really apreciate all the comments given and I would like a couple to live in peace for a house of joy starts with the two and children if any. I would like each to give out love without expecting a return so that through that there will be an exchange of love each moment. God bless everyone.

    1. (USA) I believe in “One man and one woman giving 110% in all ways.” Best friends until the end. When one is hurting the other is healing with compassion and kindness. Sharing affection and kisses just as naturally as breathing, as a necessity for life. I value and believe in compassion, kindness, honesty and open mindedness. I love the excitement of romance that brings lovers together with lots of hugs, kisses, laughter, and sharing the world through each other’s “new” eyes. I am a passionate, loving person with a HUGE heart that I am not afraid to share. I have learned to define love, to fall, but not to stumble, to be constant, but not to persistent, to share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, TO HURT DEEPLY, BUT NEVER KEEP THE PAIN. In a relationship it is not always what you receive but what you give.

      I always remember that LOVE is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling, so deep down in your heart that it hurts so good down to the core, to share it with someone that is feeling it with you, right there in each other’s arms, no words need to be said, you can see it in their eyes and feel it in their touch. Love should inspire you and give you strength. We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person, perfectly. In a relationship it takes two to make it work and to make it what it will be, communication and compromise are key. Love, respect, loyalty, honesty and responsibility are fixed-terms and liabilities for living together, with others within ease and harmony. God is love and 1st, Love is life and love is all you need…….this is just some of a dreamers thoughts, my beliefs and what I bring into a relationship that I do not want to compromise.

      So many people forget, or lose appreciation. Never forget your family, your loved ones and the one’s most important to you in your life.

      Oh ya, “Dont worry be happy”, haha I love that saying.

  3. (USA)  That is great… I have problem with my husband and we are separated. But my husband has other woman who will come to see him this Friday like Valentine’s day. I feel hurt a lot. Please pray for me and him. I will pray always. Thanks.

  4. (INDIA)  It’s a wonderful explanation. If we think of love and marriage, according to me, It is the wonderful union of AGAPE + PHILIO + EROS + STORK = which we call Christian Marriage.

  5. Grace to you all. I hold the vows we take before God close to my heart. In fact, I believe that the Bible is manual for our lives as Children of the most high God. But sadly, not all of us take the vows we make towards one another very seriously. When the flesh surfaces and we want to justify our wrong decisions we make, we tend to overlook what we vowed before God. It’s my way or the highway. God watches over His word to perform it. Should we as His children not do the same?

  6. Hello There, I am Ashok From India, I have been in a relationship with a girl Named Sangeeta. I have been in Jesus Christ for last 4 years. She has accepted Jesus after meeting with me. We love each other… we want to marry, but due to social restrictions and caste-ism, her family will never allow it. Every Thursday we fast and pray; we ask Jesus to make a way for us to live together… but so far nothing happened. She will be married after 2 or 3 months with a guy chosen by her parents. What shall we do in such time? I request you all pray for us.

  7. My husband is in the middle of helping his 31 year old son heal from childhood trauma! He puts his sons needs before me in our marriage and I feel strongly that this is hurting his son not healing him. If my husband would be an example of love in our marriage I think his old wounds would dissolve, in time.

    1. That’s not easy. I will pray that the Lord may help your husband see how he is not putting you 2nd in his life, as he should be doing.