Being Brutally Honest in Marriage

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Honesty is the best policy.” And we agree. That’s especially true within marriage. We’re all about being truthful and honest with our spouse. It’s difficult to build a healthy, loving relationship without it. But being brutally honest is another thing. We can speak in all Read More…

Dangerous Assumptions

This blog is titled “Dangerous Assumptions” because some assumptions that we hold onto can be dangerous to our marriages. They can tip them over into the “warning zone” where sometimes survival is questionable. Others are not dangerous, but helpful. Please let me explain. There are some assumptions or judgment calls Read More…

Grace in Marriage

I just read a great book, written by Dr Tim and Darcy Kimmel titled, Grace Filled Marriage. We highly recommend that you read it. It can change your marriage in amazing ways. And then we heard a wonderful interview with Max Lucado on the role of grace in marriage. We’d Read More…

Dumping Emotional Garbage

There are times in our marriages when we are guilty of dumping emotional garbage on one another. I’ve done it, my husband has done it, and you and your spouse probably have done it. This is where something is bothering you and instead of disposing of it properly, you let Read More…

Love Esteems

Here are a couple of questions to challenge you: —Would your mate say you honor and respect them? —Are they set apart and highly valued in your eyes? —Do you regard it as part of your promise to esteem them with dignity and kindness? Was that part of the vow Read More…

Displaying Marriage Virtue In Public and Out

A while back my husband Steve and I attended an event where a retiring senator had the opportunity to speak to us. I’ve greatly admired this senator from afar. So it was a privilege to see him up close, plus, to hear from some people who know him very, very Read More…

Dispensing Encouragement to Your Spouse

A number of years ago, President John F. Kennedy made the following statement, “Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country.” If we reword this challenge in our thinking, as it pertains to our marriages, perhaps we may be onto to something. Read More…

Giving Grace as a Gift to Your Spouse – MM #179

What is the most memorable Christmas gift you’ve ever received? It can be something tangible like a present that you can hold in your hand. But what about a gift that you instead hold in your heart? What about receiving the gift of grace and mercy when you don’t deserve Read More…

Are You and Your Spouse Drifting Apart?

“We just drifted apart.” That’s something I’ve heard over and over again from different spouses (especially ones who are trying to justify divorcing). My answer to those who give the drifting apart line is to tell them, “Then do what it takes to drift back together.” I say that because it Read More…