What do you do if you’re the one who has done wrong? You have acknowledged your error, but the other person won’t forgive you. Or they say they forgive you, but act like they’re still trying to even the score? Do you have to keep asking for forgiveness? Do you Read More…
Are there times when we shouldn’t forgive? When hurts or wrongdoing are chronic and deep, you may find yourself in the position of wondering whether you should forgive at all. Doing Fresh Start divorce recovery seminars around the country, I run into this question all the time. People are dealing Read More…
How do you forgive infidelity when it’s SO painful to even think of doing so? There’s no doubt that it’s painful; but is holding onto unforgiveness make the pain lessen? “The difference between holding on to a hurt or releasing it with forgiveness is like the difference between laying your Read More…
“Unless couples CREATE compatibility THROUGHOUT their marriage, the compatibility they had at the time of their wedding will be destroyed.” (Willard Harley) And this includes giving forgiveness in marriage. Compatibility has to be continually worked on so it isn’t destroyed by the hassles that barge into our lives everyday. “The rigors Read More…
When we’ve been hurt by our spouse (or anyone else) our first tendency is to protect ourselves from ever being hurt like that again. That can be a good instinct. But then temptation enters in to become bitter, and wallow in unforgiveness because of the victimization we feel. Sometimes bitterness Read More…
The following is a true testimony written by Nancy Anderson edited from the excellent book, Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome. Nancy tells what happened to her marriage with her husband Ron after it was discovered that she was having an affair with another man she had worked with. After a Read More…
Perhaps the most difficult act of forgiving and the most critical one for the abuse survivor is leaning to forgive herself. She must learn self-forgiveness with the same determination with which she forgives those who brought her pain. A whole jury of self-accusations cries out against her:.“Why didn’t I say, Read More…
