Is What You’re Doing the Wisest Approach?

You want change to happen in your marriage, but you don’t change what you’re currently doing about it even when you see it’s not working. Hmmm… the question comes to mind, “How’s that working for you?” If it’s working, then don’t change anything. But if it’s not, perhaps you need to make Read More…

Are You in Alignment?

“The problem they have going for them is that they aren’t in alignment.” That’s what I heard one woman saying as she was pointing out the reason another couple was fighting so much. Afterward I thought, “Wow! That’s spot on… she’s right.” They’re both turning their ears, eyes, and attitudes Read More…

What Makes A Marriage Last

Every waking hour of the day, you are faced with “choices” to make, that can either add to the richness of your marriage, or could potentially harm it in some manner. But what makes a marriage last? As you read through the following poem, consider the continual choices that you Read More…

“Fix-it” Listening in Marriage

We’re told in the Bible, “There is a time and season for everything under Heaven.” And that sure applies when it comes to listening to what our spouse is trying to tell us. Sometimes our spouse wants us to just listen and affirm; other times our spouse wants us to Read More…

Making Marriage Work – MM #310

I remember hearing a speaker a number of years ago challenge us with: “If you worked at your job the same way you work at your marriage, how long do you think you’d stay employed?” Granted, men are probably more likely to compartmentalize their jobs and marriage by putting them in Read More…

Seek More to Understand – MM #305

Lord, grant that I may seek more to understand than to be understood. (St Francis of Assisi) How many of us can truthfully say that when we are in conflict with our spouse, we seek more to understand them “than to be understood?” Seek to Understand I admit that too many Read More…