understanding ways

Seek More to Understand – MM #305

Lord, grant that I may seek more to understand than to be understood. (St Francis of Assisi) How many of us can truthfully say that when we are in conflict with our spouse, we seek more to understand them “than to be understood?” Seek to Understand I admit that too many Read More…

Arguing: Win But Still Lose – MM #203

Have you realized yet that sometimes you can appear to “win” an argument, but in the long run, you still lose? You may feel better after winning. But when your spouse feels like a loser, it’s your relationship that will ultimately lose. We’re told in the Bible: “A fool finds Read More…

What Men Want in Marriage – MM #196

“I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.” We don’t know who wrote that statement but it sure can be true —especially when it comes to the different ways that men and women perceive many things! Women and men want different Read More…

Tough Persistence in Marriage – MM #185

Tough persistence means continuing to pursue a goal until it is achieved. (Gary Smalley) If there’s anything we’ve learned about marriage it’s that it takes an incredible amount of tough persistence to live with each other in “an understanding way.” Read below a few thoughts on the tough persistence it Read More…

Fighting Our Instincts in Marriage – MM #132

A man’s instincts tell him that his home is his castle. It’s a place where he can live in comfort without anyone having anymore expectations of him —not even from his wife. And only when there is a genuine crisis at home does he make any real effort to eliminate Read More…

Understanding the Differences Between Men and Women

I would venture to say that most marital difficulties center around one fact. Men and women are TOTALLY different. The differences (emotional, mental, and physical) are extreme. Without a concentrated effort to understand them, it is nearly impossible to have a happy marriage. A famous psychiatrist once said, “After thirty Read More…

Living With Your Wife In an Understanding Way

It’s a high calling —to become more like Christ in your marriage. How are you going to achieve this? How do you live with your wife in an understanding way within your home? The Apostle Peter wrote: “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding Read More…

Standing Strong in Military Marriages

The possibility of war is something that hangs over all military marriages. Even normal times can be difficult so they keep their family standing strong. Even in peacetime, our soldiers, sailors, airmen and Marines face long deployments away from home.  Some of them last as long as six months and Read More…