Are you looking for things to do together as a married couple this summer? Why not try walking together? You may not think that sounds like much fun; but try it anyway. You may find that you enjoy it more than you initially think you would. We have. It’s a good way to connect.
Now, some couples power walk together. And that’s fine. It’s good exercise. But try to consider casually walking together. If your neighborhood isn’t a good one to walk through, then make your way to a different location and walk from there. Or it may be that you are tired as the evening draws to an end. As a result, taking a walk together is the last thing you want to do. And that’s fine too. Look for other times you can walk together. Even if you’re only able to do so once a week, then make that your goal.
We’ve heard of couples that meet each other for lunch and go out for a quick walk before or after eating and then scooting back to work. Just be creative. Pray about it and see if you can’t figure out some times that you can spend this activity together.
The Importance of Walking Together
Ron Edmondson talks in one of his blogs about the importance of the walks he and his wife take together. He says, “As we walk we talk about our day. We debrief our life.” And that can be especially important because it keeps them emotionally connected to each other. Ron writes:
“Cheryl and I walk together almost every day. I’m typing this after we returned home from an evening walk. When weather and time permits, we walk hours and miles together. We’ve now become ‘mall walkers’ when weather isn’t conducive to being outside.
“As an introvert, I talk more—and am more comfortable doing so—when I am being physically active at the same time. Our communication is strengthened when we have an activity we do together regularly. To protect your marriage, take a walk together.” (From Ron’s article, “7 Words to Protect Your Marriage”)
The important thing is that you walk with a purpose. You want to enjoy the exercise and the weather, but it’s also important to make sure you connect together emotionally too. Even if you just walk quietly together hand-in-hand–that’s okay too. Just make sure you make it a point to have “talking” connection times, as well. (This can include walking, or not.) The important thing is that you both enjoy your time together.
Finding the Best Time
Now for us, summertime isn’t always the best for us to walk together. We live in the desert southwest part of the country. It can get pretty hot here in the summertime. But many times we have the early morning or later evening times (after a monsoon rain) where it’s a bit cooler to walk. However, for many of you, summertime is the best time of the year for walking together. For us, it’s the rest of the year. Even so, we still find little window of opportunities when it’s possible.
And we’re challenging you to do the same too. Look for ways to spend some time walking together. And this summer is a good time to start (if you haven’t been doing this already).
Below is something our dear friend, Debi Walter, from The Romantic Vineyard wrote a while ago about their summertime walks. She gives a challenge that we want to share with you. We believe it’s something that can be good for your relationship. We hope that you and your spouse participate in doing this (as we are):
Intentionally Walking Together
Most everyone who is on social media knows what #TBT means. It’s a hashtag for Throwback Thursday where you post a photo from your past worth sharing. I’ve enjoyed seeing and remembering things long forgotten as a result of this simple assignment. It’s something I love to do. I have no idea who started this trend, but it’s one that has staying power. That is because everyone has old pictures worth sharing, right?
This got me thinking. What if we were to seize Wednesdays in much the same way, but by sharing photos from walks we’ve taken together. I don’t know about you, but I tend to spend too much time on the computer inside my house. It’s easy to forget there is a world waiting to be enjoyed outside. Walking helps us slow down and drink in the beauty God has created.
What if this summer we were to purpose to take walks together? Walking together doesn’t have to be on Wednesdays. We could take pictures of the view we’ve enjoyed. I think it would be inspiring and something worth promoting on blogs everywhere. It’s worth a shot, and if no one else takes part, at least we’ll have some quality time together.
Join Us in Walking Together
In support of this particular type of “together time” Paul Byerly (of The Generous Husband ministry) says:
“Taking a walk together is a great way to nurture your marriage. Walking hand in hand is romantic and provides non-sexual touch. You have time for good conversation, and many men find it easier to talk when they’re moving and not getting constant eye contact. Why not start doing an evening walk as often as you can? Try tapping into the power of ritual by doing your walk the same time each day, such as after dinner or just before dark.”
Why not? We can’t think of a good reason. As a matter of fact, here’s another reason why walking together has its benefits for you and for your marriage. It’s one of 7 that Mark Merrill gives. (You can read the other 6 by going into the linked title.):
“It’s a good thing for you (and for your kids to see) to make time alone for each other a priority. But time can be hard to come by. A short walk at least clears the decks for a little while, and shows your kids where your priorities are.” (Mark Merrill, from the article, 7 Benefits to Taking a Walk with your Spouse)
We totally agree. Of course, for some of you, that will involve a babysitter or a family member helping you to get away for a short time. We hope you can because it sure is worth it! We can testify to that.
Below is a link to an additional idea that my husband and I have done together. It includes taking a different type of walk around the neighborhood.
The most important part in all of this is that we spend this time together with our spouse. Walking, prayer walking together, and spending the time together in these ways are great ways to casually connect.
Here’s something to seriously consider:
“Why is it that when we were dating, we focused so much time and attention on each other, but after a few years of marriage, we focus on everything else? The fact is, we desperately need each other. The Bible calls us not only to love each other but to take delight in it!” (Gary Chapman)
So enjoy walking together, taking delight in loving and being with each other! We will; and we hope you will too.
Cindy and Steve Wright
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