ROMANTIC TIPS For Husbands and Wives
“Romance”… what comes to mind when you hear that word? Is it candlelight dinners, midnight walks along a beach lit brightly by a full moon, snuggling in front of a roaring fireplace on a cold winter night, or maybe it’s just holding hands and walking and talking together without thinking about a care in the world!?!
Whatever “Romance” looks like to you, as a married couple, it’s important to MAKE the time to keep it as a vital part of your lives together —otherwise your love relationship could eventually become stale and rusty and could even fall apart out of sheer neglect.
After all, part of what helped you to fall in love with each other in the first place was the romance you experienced with each other —doing fun things together and enjoying each other’s company. And yet after the wedding we forget that. We get so caught up in the busyness and inertia of every day living that we forget to “romance” each other throughout the marriage. That can be a HUGE mistake!
“Few couples expect to maintain the intense, supercharged, adolescent-style relationship that marked the height of their courtship. In fact, most couples feel somewhat relieved when life begins to settle into a more normal routine and they can get about the tasks of real life again. But many marriages settle down too much.
“Within a few short years the sparkle has faded completely. Feelings have become mere memories. Romance has become something to read about in cheap novels. Spouses relate like roommates who share an occasional one-night stand. And together they face future years of disappointment and frustration” (Bill Hybels, from the workbook, Marriage… Building Real Intimacy).
Does that sound like any of the marriages you know? Has this been true of your marriage? Is your marriage settling down a little too much? Is the “sparkle” leaving your relationship? Or maybe it left a long time ago.
Whatever the case may be we hope you will ask God to help you with the important mission of keeping (or re-igniting and THEN keeping) the “sparkle” in your marital relationship. God, whose very name means LOVE, is ready to teach you what it will take to TRULY love your spouse. And what better way to honor God than to show love to your spouse in a romantic way!
To further help you in this vital mission, we have a WONDERFUL tool to help you.
There is a web site which is put together by GTO Family Ministries developed by Harold and Bette Gillogly, which helps couples “Grow Toward Oneness.” They offer many helpful resources for married couples through their ministry and on their web site (which we hope you’ll look into). Among them is a feature called: “Romantic Tips of the Month.” They offer “Romantic Tips for Husbands” and “Romantic Tips for Wives.”
To receive the best benefit of what they offer we will take you directly to their web site to read the wonderful tips they supply. When you get to their web site just make the selection as to whether you want the Romantic Tips for Husbands or for Romantic Tips for Wives. (And then arrow back to our web site if you want to return to Marriage Missions.)
To Read, please click onto the Marriages.net web site link:
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From the ministry of LifeWay.com, the following are additional ideas for you:
The ministry of “The Romantic Vineyard” has some great tips for dates that you may be able to adapt to work for you and your spouse in your part of the world. To read what they suggest, please click onto the following web site links:
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