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ROMANTIC TIPS For Husbands and Wives

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“Romance”… what comes to mind when you hear that word? Is it candlelight dinners, midnight walks along a beach lit brightly by a full moon, snuggling in front of a roaring fireplace on a cold winter night, or maybe it’s just holding hands and walking and talking together without thinking about a care in the world!?!

Whatever “Romance” looks like to you, as a married couple, it’s important to MAKE the time to keep it as a vital part of your lives together —otherwise your love relationship could eventually become stale and rusty and could even fall apart out of sheer neglect.

After all, part of what helped you to fall in love with each other in the first place was the romance you experienced with each other —doing fun things together and enjoying each other’s company. And yet after the wedding we forget that. We get so caught up in the busyness and inertia of every day living that we forget to “romance” each other throughout the marriage. That can be a HUGE mistake!

“Few couples expect to maintain the intense, supercharged, adolescent-style relationship that marked the height of their courtship. In fact, most couples feel somewhat relieved when life begins to settle into a more normal routine and they can get about the tasks of real life again. But many marriages settle down too much.

“Within a few short years the sparkle has faded completely. Feelings have become mere memories. Romance has become something to read about in cheap novels. Spouses relate like roommates who share an occasional one-night stand. And together they face future years of disappointment and frustration” (Bill Hybels, from the workbook, Marriage… Building Real Intimacy).

Does that sound like any of the marriages you know? Has this been true of your marriage? Is your marriage settling down a little too much? Is the “sparkle” leaving your relationship? Or maybe it left a long time ago.

Whatever the case may be we hope you will ask God to help you with the important mission of keeping (or re-igniting and THEN keeping) the “sparkle” in your marital relationship. God, whose very name means LOVE, is ready to teach you what it will take to TRULY love your spouse. And what better way to honor God than to show love to your spouse in a romantic way!

To further help you in this vital mission, we have a WONDERFUL tool to help you.

There is a web site which is put together by GTO Family Ministries developed by Harold and Bette Gillogly,  which helps couples “Grow Toward Oneness.” They offer many helpful resources for married couples through their ministry and on their web site (which we hope you’ll look into). Among them is a feature called: “Romantic Tips of the Month.” They offer “Romantic Tips for Husbands” and “Romantic Tips for Wives.”

To receive the best benefit of what they offer we will take you directly to their web site to read the wonderful tips they supply. When you get to their web site just make the selection as to whether you want the Romantic Tips for Husbands or for Romantic Tips for Wives. (And then arrow back to our web site if you want to return to Marriage Missions.)

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From the ministry of, the following are additional ideas for you:


The ministry of “The Romantic Vineyard” has some great tips for dates that you may be able to adapt to work for you and your spouse in your part of the world. To read what they suggest, please click onto the following web site links:




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5 Responses to “ROMANTIC TIPS For Husbands and Wives”
  1. AJAYI says:

    (NIGERIA)  Going through Internet today and every other day, you get to read a lot of things that are threatening to marriage institutions. But thank God for yours. Couples throughout the Globes need this. May God continue to bless you for you to continue to bless the world. AMEN

  2. Mikal says:

    (CAYMAN ISLANDS)  I have been married for over 7 years now but, my husband is very jealous, angry and can become very abusive at times. His habits are becoming worst, like he searches my phone, he drives me wherever I go, he constantly tells me that I am having sex with someone else if their number is in my phone and he does not know them, even calling that individual late at night. If my car is having a problem and I find someone to fix it, he goes around saying I am sleeping with that person.

    This is really getting to me and I am tired. I have always tried to stay honest in my marriage but recently I feel disrespected and abused; we still manage to have sex maybe twice per month but I am never happy when we do. I feel horrible, not that he does not perform well, it’s just that one feeling I can’t get out of my head “we don’t belong together.” I want my marriage to work because we still love each other and we have a 6 year old child that we adore but, now I am having second thoughs of having another relationship with someone else. I am feeling the need for romance, love, and care; I don’t know what to do? Can someone advise me before I make a bad mistake.

    • Christina says:

      (UNITED STATES) I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. If you feel like your marriage is worth saving then I believe it is. It will be hard to convince your husband that you are faithful but with determination you can do it. He must have experienced something in his life to act that way toward you. Only you can break the cycle.

      The only thing I don’t approve of is if he is putting his hands on you. Just keep reassuring him that you are faithful. It took seven years for my husband to realize how much I love him. I can truly say it was worth the wait.

    • HDW says:

      (USA) Strong jealousy is usually a personality trait that doesn’t go away. You can’t convince him that it isn’t true. My ex wife had a personality disorder and was paranoid of vaccinations. She thought they were poison. There was no way to convince her otherwise.

      Marriage is a equal partnership and if he refuses to treat you as a equal partner you should consider separation.

  3. Angelique says:

    (UNITED STATES) Usually, when someone is accusing they are often the one’s doing the things they are accusing you of! I don’t agree with divorce except with infidelity.Your husband needs to focus more on God and getting stronger in his faith so that he will focus on God and not you. It is the stronger of the 2 to help the weakened one.

    You may not see the reason you two are together but GOD see’s the whole picture. Your TEST will soon be your TESTIMONY. Please confide in our GOD and ask him to help you help him …be sincere and remember he has your best interest at heart …ALWAYS! Stay encouraged. He didn’t bring you this far to leave you! Praying for you sister in CHRIST.

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