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We’re asked the question often, “Should I get a divorce?” Our answer to them is, “that’s not for us to tell you. We’re told in the Bible that “what God has put together let no man tear apart.” That includes us. Instead, we encourage them to pray and to read the Bible, asking God to lead them. This is a personal decision between them and God —”a cord of three strands.

With that in mind, here is a starting point for you as you carefully and prayerfully read the following scriptures that concern divorce:

Deuteronomy 24:1-4:

If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.

Malachi 2:13-16:

Another thing you do: You flood the LORD’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accept them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring.

So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself [or his wife] with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty.

Matthew 5:31-32:

[Jesus said] It has been said, “Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.” But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Matthew 19:3-9:

Some Pharisees came to him [Jesus] to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

Mark 10:2-12:

Some Pharisees came and tested him [Jesus] by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” “What did Moses command you?” he replied. They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.” “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”

Luke 16:18:

Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Romans 7:2-3:

By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress, even though she marries another man.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11:

To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

1 Corinthians 7:12-14:

To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

1 Corinthians 7:15-16:

But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7:27:

Are you married? Do not seek a divorce.


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  1. Bill from United Kingdom says:

    Just a short a few thoughts I’ve written regarding Divorce to my wife, as I may be heading there soon :-(

    No marriage is perfect or exempt from marital tribulations, Christian or otherwise. Yet ours has undergone so many spiritual onslaughts on top of everything besides. However, our marriage would not come remotely close to the many I’ve been copiously researching, and yet by God’s Grace they were saved. Our marriage is precious to the Lord as we both desire to love and serve him. “In the day of prosperity be joyful, but in the day of adversity consider: God also hath set the one over against the other, to the end that man should find nothing after him.” (Ecclesiastes 7:14). “Shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil?” (Job 2:10)

    Divorce is a most sinister and destructive evil to befall any family, and that has been made so encouragingly easy and appealing by today’s apostate church liberalism and also, which is shamelessly glamourized by the world of celebrity and by the godless secular philosophy and humanistic reasoning of the day. And without due warning or any conscious consideration, countless marriages have fallen needlessly headlong into all sorts of lifelong and devastating miseries and regrets, which divorce carries with it in its wake. It has also been described as the sin of unforgiveness.

    Christ said the reason divorce even existed was because of the hardness of the heart. Where most marriages, no matter how beyond repair they seem, are and can be restored, with proper Christian support and prayer, and above all the ‘Spirit of forgiveness’, which is of Christ. For a bruised reed shall he not break, and smoking flax shall he not quench.

    The Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), Reconciliation and forgiveness in Christ is the most honourable resolution with Him (Ephesians 4:32), (Colossians 3:13) We have all of God’s promises at our disposal. It’s Satan who deceives our minds into thinking that there is no way forward. We mustn’t let him rob us of our family and our beliefs in God’s covenant promises for us. “What therefore God has joined together let not man separate” (Mark 10:9), and “till death do us part.”

    Comments & Prayers are very much appreciated during this dark time in my life. Thank you! Bill

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