Does your husband feel you love him? And does he feel romanced by you? Are you sure? Both are important to you and to him. Have you asked your husband about this lately? We’re asking you these questions because we’ve found the following to be true. And it may be true for your husband, as well:
“A husband considers romance to be one way and the wife considers it to be another. The wife may make many romantic gestures, which go unnoticed by her husband. That is because it wasn’t romantic to him. He didn’t feel the love in the same way it was given.
What is wrong? Are the gestures extended not romantic or thoughtful? No. Are the recipients ungrateful and self-absorbed? No. The wife is simply not romancing her husband in a way that is romantic to him!
“This is a great truth that once practiced is sure to produce lasting fruit. Study your spouse. Find out what romance means to him or her? It may surprise you! But if you do your homework you will become the master of what really turns your spouse on!” (Debi Walter, from The Romantic Vineyard)
Show Your Husband Love His Way, Rather Than What Makes Sense to You
So, we have a challenge for you! You may feel you do a good job of showing your husband that he is loved. But is it TRULY the way that he best feels loved? That’s what this challenge is all about. It will reveal what MOST speaks love to your husband.
So, to begin, we encourage and challenge you to look over the list below. And then make up a copy to share it with your husband. (Make sure you do this when you are alone together. Plus, make sure you do this at a time when he is not preoccupied with something else.)
And then discuss this list with your husband. Have him check the most meaningful suggestions listed below. He can then point out the ones that are most importance to him. Use this list as a basis for learning his views. Your relationship can be greatly strengthened as you use the suggestions.
But keep in mind that these are ONLY SUGGESTIONS. Don’t feel pressured that you have to use all of them. But look at them as ways to bless and romance your husband.
(ALSO… there’s a list in the “Romantic Ideas” topic, which gives husbands 100 ideas. It is titled, 100 Ways to Show Love to Your Wife HER Way. So don’t feel slighted. Just share it with him.)
SUGGESTIONS on How to Show Love to Your Husband:
1. Respectfully communicate with him.
2. Let him know in big and small ways that he’s important to you.
3. Plus, purposefully try to listen to his feelings—even when you disagree with him.
4. Show interest in his friends, giving him some time with them (if they’re trust-worthy.)
5. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
6. Make sure you tell him you love him AND that you like him.
7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely. (D Ramsey)
8. It’s important to protect his dignity on a daily basis.
9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings also.
10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
Other Suggestions:
11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion. And then give him time to adjust.
12. When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems. Have FUN!
13. Focus on what he’s doing right, instead of continually focusing on the negatives.
14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.
15. Give him special time with you apart from the children.
16. Ease into the negatives when he first gets home.
17. Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be more enjoyable. (Dave Ramsey)
18. Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.
19. Look for things you can compliment about your husband. Show your appreciation often.
More Ways to Show Love:
20. Be creative when you express your love, both in words and in actions.
21. Talk with him about having specific family goals to achieve together as a marital team.
22. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
23. Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.
24. Find ways to show him you need him.
25. Give him time to be alone. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)
26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.
27. Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk about him. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7).
28. Respect his desire to do well—not his performance.
29. Rub his feet or neck, or scratch his back after a hard day.
Other Ideas:
30. Take time for the two of you to sit and talk (schedule it when necessary).
31. Initiate going out on romantic outings.
32. Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him.
33. Surprise him with a fun gift that he’d really enjoy.
34. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family.
35. Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is.
36. Talk in loving, not in nagging or belittling ways.
37. Help your husband to be the Spiritual head at home (without “lording” it over him).
38. Reserve some energy for him so you’re not so tired when he wants you sexually.
39. Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities.
40. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life.
Remember, all of these “ways to love” are only suggestions:
41. Take special notice of what he does for you and the family.
42. Brag about him to other people in front of him and when he’s not there.
43. Keep conversations brief when he’s tired—so he isn’t “flooded” by too many words.
44. Tell him 3 things you specifically appreciate about him.
45. Honor him in front of the children (differ in private when necessary).
46. “Look into your husband’s eyes when he talks to you. This makes him feel that you’re interested.” (J. Clain)
47. Get up with him, and pray with him to start your day together.
48. Be his “help-mate” in whatever ways you sense he needs it.
49. Participate in shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him without talking. Sometimes men just like to BE with you and not talk.
50. Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it.
Plus, here are More Suggestions of Ways to Show Love:
51. When your husband is in a bad mood give him time and space to recover.
52. You can bless him by helping him to finish his goals, hobbies, or education.
53. Treat him as if God has stamped on his forehead: “Handle With Care.”
54. Work to get rid of your own habits that annoy him.
55. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.
56. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
57. Thank him for things he has done around the house. We all want to feel appreciated.
58. Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do these things as “unto the Lord.”
59. Make sure he agrees with everything important that you’re planning to do.
60. Do little things for him. This may include letting him sleep in, bringing him coffee, etc.
61. Don’t belittle his intelligence or be cynical in your words with him.
Want more suggestions? Read on…
62. Initiate sex periodically. And respond more often.
63. Sometimes let him enjoy his day off work without having to “work” at home.
64. Get to the point in your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them.
65. Discover his sexual needs (as long as they do not violate God’s ways).
66. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work.
67. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function.
68. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he mis-speaks.
69. Don’t quarrel over words.
70. Be kind and courteous with him. (Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him.)
More Suggestions to Consider:
71. When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better.
72. As a kindness, don’t say, “I told you so.”
73. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
74. Take him out on dates—pre-planning all of the details ahead of time.
75. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public.
76. Praise his good decisions; minimize the bad ones.
77. Tell him you love him more often.
78. Put love notes in his pockets and brief case.
79. Sit with him while he’s watching TV—even if the program doesn’t interest you.
Here are the Last 20 SUGGESTIONS… Keep Gleaning:
80. Don’t expect him to read your mind (despite your thinking he should— extend grace).
81. Periodically, give him time with his family alone.
82. Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff, when possible.
83. Put effort in to keep yourself in good shape so he’s especially proud to be with you.
84. Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
85. Carefully choose your words. Remember to “speak the truth in LOVE.”
86. Don’t criticize him in front of others—keeping his dignity in tact.
87. Visit his childhood home with him.
88. When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment.
89. Pray for him.
90. Make him homemade soup when he’s sick.
Other Suggestions:
91. Look your best—dress to honor and make him proud to be seen with you when you’re out together.
92. Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheer leader.
93. Don’t disagree with him in front of the children.
94. Take him for a weekend get-away without the children.
95. Cheer his successes whether in it’s related to business or other areas of everyday living.
96. Graciously teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.
97. Give him coupons to redeem. They could be for a back scratch or a shoulder rub, etc.
98. Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet.
99. Hide notes for him around the house where only he will find them.
100. Thank him for just being himself.
The author is unknown, for the list of “100 Ways.”
— ALSO —
In addition, below are links to other web site articles centering on this subject. We encourage you to glean through them, and apply what you believe will work for both of you:
• 50 IDEAS TO INSPIRE YOUR HUSBAND
• 50 THINGS TO SAY TO YOUR HUSBAND TO MAKE HIM FEEL GREAT
Filed under: Romantic Ideas
(USA) Erin, It doesn’t come naturally because God created us as two completely different genders. Women need to feel LOVED. If you pamper your husband the way that comes naturally to you then it would be all wrong. He knows you love him but he wants to be reassured you respect him and by using this list it would help women communicate that to their husbands and vice versa.
If our husbands tried to make us happy by doing things that would fulfill their needs we would be hurting because they would treat us like one of their guy friends because this is what comes naturally to them. That is their instinct.
If you look and compare the two lists, women’s and men’s, the list are so different on how to communicate love to your spouse. Whoever convinced you that marriage should come “naturally” obviously misled you. I am 22 and only been married for almost 7 months now and throughout Pre-Marital counseling and reading up on marriage constantly I have found this to be true… Read Dr. Emerson Eggerichs book, Love & Respect
it gives wonderful insight.
God created us with a purpose and a plan and as time has gone on society has botched his plan into something they think it should be… and with the divorce rate as high as ever I would say we should probably revert back to our creator’s plan. In today’s society “Feminist ACTIVIST” proclaim independence for women. While it is ok to an extent, God has called men to be the head of the household, but that doesn’t make us less of a human or as a woman that is us submitting to our husbands and to Christ. We are still equals but there are roles to be played in his plan. God Bless!
(MALAYSIA) I have been married for 6 years. Until now, I still love my husband. Well, the problem is sometime ago I found a condom in his luggage. He often flies abroad due to his work. He says that he uses them for masturbating for cleaning proposes. I just go for his word and even I passed some condoms.
I believe him but my heart is still sad. My heart still can’t believe it. How can I believe it’s true that he has been honest with me? I am clueless. I am very sad when I think about this. He will call me and says he loves me. An issue is, he uses a different mobile when overseas, which only operates in other countries. I never check his h/p or his messages. How can I know that he has been totally honest with me?
(USA) Dear Devi, Personally, your husband’s story sounds pretty suspicious, to me. If he’s worried about the “cleaning process” while he’s in a motel, then bring paper towels and take a shower. His masturbating with a condom on is not something I see as believable –pretty difficult to keep it in place and also just doesn’t seem credible. And can’t he keep it zippered up until he’s home with you again? It will make him more desirous of getting back home to you. This is a part of intimacy that is supposed to be saved for husbands and wives to do together. I think he needs to take cold showers instead. And if that won’t work, I’d suggest he start looking for another job, which will keep him home. I would be pretty mad at my husband if he presented that scenario to me.
And as for his mobile, I can’t tell you what to do. I can only tell you what I would do. The discovery of the condom would put him suspect in my eyes. I would do all I could to try to check up on that story. I wouldn’t hesitate to check on his h/p or his messages. To me, that is being wise –not invasive. If something isn’t settling well in your spirit, I wouldn’t squelch it. I’d go with it. When my husband and I said “I do” in marriage, he and I laid aside our “rights” to have private lives apart from one another. It’s not that we aren’t to be courteous to each other, but when it comes to intimate issues, such as whether he’s using condoms with someone else, I wouldn’t hesitate to use every method I could to make sure that’s not an option he’s taking.
I wouldn’t tell him I’m doing it — that would cause him to sneak more, if he’s guilty. But I would get wise on how to check his history on his computer and phone and such. I think it’s your right to protect your marriage and to protect yourself. Condoms don’t guard against most STD’s and they also aren’t fool-proof. If he’s betraying you, you need to know it. Ask the Lord to reveal truth — to bring out that which is hidden. I’ve seen time and again where He has honored that prayer.
If the Lord settles your heart and spirit down, as you look around at his personal information, then do what you can to NOT be suspicious when you shouldn’t be (although, still be discerning). Keep your eyes open, at this point, however. I believe you have reason to be concerned. Don’t allow sadness to take over now, if you can. Turn that emotion in another direction. Ask God to help you to be wise and to show you if you have reason to be sad. Right now, sadness may be premature, or unnecessary, if you discover he is a faithful man. There is a different posturing of a faithful man who has nothing to hide. If he’s secretive with his personal gadgets or finances, beware.
I’m sorry to have to say this to you, Devi. No wife would want to think her husband would do this to her. But it’s better to approach this matter wisely and deal with truth than to be filled with sadness (especially if you have no reason to be sad), or to eventually find out he played you for a fool over a long period of time, and you should have known this sooner, rather than later. I truly hope and pray the best for you.
(S.AFRICA) Dear Cindy, I am releaved to hear what your response would be in the above situation. I have lived with the guilt of checking up on my ex-husband and have wondered if my actions could have caused many of the problems that ensued as a result. Once the truth was revealed it was hard to keep it to myself and not confront him looking for answers. Everything I found pointed to his unfaithfullness and my trust withered away as a result. You are so right there is different posturing in one that has nothing to hide. Honesty was all I was looking for but sadly it was not to be.
(USA) So sorry Rose. I’m glad you did not have to continue on in his betrayal, but sad that your husband didn’t have the strength of character to be faithful. I grieve for you that he treated you this way.
(USA) This list is ridiculous. To be perfectly honest, half the junk on the list for, “100 Ways You Can Love Your Husband HIS way” is not showing me anything. These are hardly different from the list of what husbands should do for their wives. Ask 100 men how important sex is to their relationship, and I guarantee that 80 of them will mention that they feel their wives do not satisfy their sexual needs. I’m sorry, but the number of friends who have sex with their wives 1-2 a month is astounding. I for one need to connect with my wife more than this. I feel closer to my wife after we make love more than at any other time in our marriage. This is how God made us as men, yet it is often and almost always overlooked. Sex with your spouse (when properly done, ie not making the wife feel cheap or used) is what God intended married people do to. I cannot imagine him giving a gift that he only wants us to use 1-2 month!
(USA) I’m amazed to see the negative responses to this post. Firstly, the top of the list said: “Discuss the following list with your husband. Ask him to check the ones most meaningful and then arrange them in order of importance to him. Use this list as a basis for learning his views. Your relationship can be greatly strengthened as you use the suggestions, which work for your marriage —but keep in mind that these are ONLY SUGGESTIONS —not all or any of them have to be used. ” Conversely, there is another list of how husbands can show love to their wives- you should review that with your husbands as well so it is not completely one-sided as so many have complained about in the comments.
The suggestions provided in this may apply to some and not others. For instance “email your husband while he is at work”- well, that won’t be beneficial if you work and are unable to email throughout the day, or if your husband is unemployed (as we see too frequently in this economy).
The simple fact is that we as women are charged to be our husbands’ helpmates. One of our purposes is to help our husbands- but how that looks in each household is going to vary. In my home I am the breadwinner. My husband was injured and is currently out of work- but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have my responsibilities as a wife and helpmate. I still make meals- but he can help by grocery shopping or deciding what we’re going to be having. I still do chores- but he helps more now than when he was working full-time.
A woman’s responsibility is 1st to God. After that- here is a great resource I’ve found that breaks things down nicely: http://www.gty.org/resources/Questions/QA115/What-should-a-wifes-priorities-be-Can-she-work-outside-the-home
But basically- the point of this post is to encourage all to love their husbands and to emphasize that we should not get caught up in our check-lists or be legalistic by following a list of “100 ways” as a sign of our “spirituality”. Shepherd your hearts, work with your husband to be transparent and communicate in a way that each of you understands as to avoid conflict, and above all: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind” (Luke 10:27).
(NIGERIA) I’m 22, been married for about a year and 6months with a son. Frankly speaking the first year was rough because both of us were stubborn and full of empty pride. We always wanted things our way and trust me there can’t be two captains on a ship. True every marriage is different and each one of us knows what works best for the other. All my husband needed was respect, understanding and submission which I withheld from him. I came across this article and tried some of the things and believe me, my marriage has never remained the same. My husband is the happiest he’s ever been and he showers me with all the love and care so why would I turn back from giving my all? Life is too short to manage a relationship or live a lonely and empty life. Marriage is giving a 100% and I would speak for myself I’m receiving a 100% in return. Don’t forget also that for things to work for you, you have to put God first because he is the ultimate.
As for all you haters and feminists, get wise or you will end up sad, lonely, and miserable. I do appreciate whoever it is that took time out to write this article, you are a blessing to this generation and the upcoming ones.
(USA) Okay, there are a lot of people on here commenting on either you need to follow this entire list to the fullest or it’s a crock. Well, I thought it was a nice list of things to do for your husband. Mine recently voiced that we are in a rut, and after thinking about it, he is right. I go about my everyday routine, I work, clean the house, take care of the baby, all the things a wife does-or should do… just my opinion. I’m young, but I was also raised a bit old fashioned. I cook and clean and take care of the house. I do work, but not because it is necessary, but it gives me my time away and I contribute.
Anyway, the point is, my husband was starting to feel neglected. He comes home from a 12 hour shift and is sweet and brings me flowers and loves on me. I have been blowing it off recently without even realizing it. So, although I won’t do every single tip on this list, it sure has a few nice ones that I am going to be more conscious to use just to make him feel a little more special and to show him that I do appreciate everything he does for our family.
It’s not a crying shame to do small things to show your husband you care and he is the only one you see and making him feel special. I was really embarrassed at how selfish some of the women sounded by basically saying “there is no way I’m going to go out of my way to make my husband feel special.” NO WONDER the divorce rates are so high. I would divorce the ungrateful women too. These are our MEN. Our best friends. Our partners. Our other half. Get off your high horse and do something a little special for the man who most likely, financially takes care of you and your family. Not all of them, but I bet picking 5 off the list wouldn’t kill you.
Thank you.. thank you… thank you Nicole.
(INDIA) Thanks for your post. I am a working mother, and a wife to an overtly critical husband who does not help me around the house. He helps me in 10% of my overall work. He says that I don’t keep a clean house, I shout the most in the neighbourhood. I used to criticize him, but that was of no use; no tears or pleading worked either.
Now I have asked strength from God to help me. I will do all the work myself with God’s help and try to be his ideal wife. I was also having trouble at work because I am not able to manage all the housework plus demands of my high pressure job which require I put in 9 or more hours. My boss expects me to work one hour at home, which I am not- due to sheer exhaustion. After preparing dinner, giving bath to the baby, feeding, putting her to bed, serving my husband his dinner, washing vessels and packing the next day’s lunch I don’t think I am unjustified getting angry with my husband.
He throws trash and puts clothes in the laundry while I fold and organize them. And then he expects me to keep a clean house and go to bed by 10 pm. Needless to say, our marriage is a troubled one. I was feeling unhappy with this life till I thought that- With great challenges come great opportunities. Here is an opportunity to be a better person – I have a critic who looks at me with magnifying glasses. So my plan for the past three days has been work on my husband’s criticism with God’s help, all the while praying to God that my husband should help me out. And once I am his ideal wife, who knows? I may even see a reformed husband. So ladies, wish me luck and pray for me that my life both personal and professional, improves.
P.S He works hard at his job, but says he hates housework. Given a choice I would not do housework either. I too would like to come home, have the TV remote in my hand and sit on the rocking chair. But that is just what is not going to be my life. I have left everything in God’s hands and I am following a few things you have said here to make my husband feel loved, maybe he is insecure because of my nagging.
(MALAYSIA) Thank you very much for the tips… They will be very good way for me so that I can be a good and lovely wife to my future husband. This is our family arrangement wedding and our marriage will held next year… January 28th 2012. He worked as a Manager in one of the most popular Cinema theaters… He was stranger for me at the 1st… and I was so confused if I could accept him as a husband!!!
After knowing him better I understand that he really needs LOVE. From the history of his life, what I know is… most of the time he was lonely… without parent’s love… and childhood friends. What happened was in a past tense life. Now I want to give my full love to him… and I don’t know how to express my love to him. I was thinking to myself…. don’t understand it… and I will try to browse online. Suddenly I got these 100 ways tips. It is a really good support for me and is making me more confident to start my married life easily and happily… (I am not so good in English… sorry if I made any mistakes).
Dear Jamuna, I’m so glad you feel the tips will help. That’s why they are posted. But please keep in mind that even with these tips (whichever ones you feel led to use) and other marriage tips, you will never start your “married life easily and happily.” Oh, maybe it will start out that way, but as time goes on, it’s going to be a continual struggle (sometimes a very pleasant one) to learn how to best love each other — you showing love to your husband and your husband showing love to you. I don’t know of anyone who finds married life “easy” and always “happy.” Things can get tough sometimes.
Please keep in mind, so you aren’t so surprised when it happens that: “Relationships go up and down while love comes and goes. Someone once asked Alan Alda, the famous TV star, how he managed to have such a long and successful marriage. His answer was that most relationships begin with a ‘vibrant’ love, but soon fade into ‘utter discontent.’ It’s easy to give up and forget that ‘love returns in waves… you just have to wait it out.’ Alan Alda was right; love is like the tides of the ocean. Sometimes they come in and the passion is high. You feel the love and the relationship is wonderful. Then there are times when the tide is out—sometimes way out. The relationship is dry and lifeless. The love is gone. You look out at the sea and wonder if the tide will ever return. But if you’re patient and stay at the beach, romance will return. You will feel love again (Dr Steve Stephens, from book “Marriage: Experiencing the Best”). Love takes work, but it’s a rewarding work! I hope the best for you, in this upcoming marriage. May God bless your every effort!
(INDIA) By looking at the tips mentioned I can clearly tell why marriage isn’t that great. I guess we have just let a man be a man. Thanks for posting.
(USA) Sorry Brothers and Sister for my edit errors I correct most of them, well you’ll get the point. It’s just placing right principles where they’re needed the most!!!
You must test the fruit before you eat the fruit. There are many signs women and men give off. All too often the fruit of the eye deceives the fruit of the heart. Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ teaches us that we need a suitable partner and an even yoke. We assume that the person we pick was the right fruit; God never picks the wrong fruit for us. Our eyes deceive us, therefore live by faith and not by sight. I’ver learned to look for certain qualities that are suitable for me:
#1 I’m spiritually born in Jesus Christ. I give my all to Jesus Christ first. I read and write out the teaching of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ daily into my heart. I meditate day and night and fast periodically, and pray earnestly. I bend myself on obeying the laws of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, therefore it is wise to pick a suitable partner who does the same; if they are not, then move on!
So, good godly morals must be into place in myself and the partner I am yoking with!
#2 I believe in being independent, taking care of my own, debt free lifestyle is a goal that will take some time. Paying for my own car note, house note or rent, and anything else that falls under my responsibilities — never going to Mommy or Daddy or a rich uncle or The Welfare System of this world. If you are “married” to the government then how can you be faithful and true in your marriage to your partner. Two independent people can ride a canoe up stream together if they are paddling the same. If not, the boat will flip over.
Two must be as one in all things. If one person is on welfare and the other is working, it usually ends in divorce, cheating and separation and a continuing line of many “baby daddies” by one mother who doesn’t care about financially supporting their children as well as communication. Therefore I make sure the person is financially prepared to yoke with me.
If parents learn to be independent and financially responsible and teach their teenagers to be the same, we wouldn’t have half the young population on welfare and government programs today. Most successful relationships that last for years are independent relationships whose trust is bent on good moral conduct.
#3 I believe in having a workable certified skill that can help you in your career for a lifetime. Get that out of the way first before saying “I do” and making babies. Because when you say “I do” and make babies, you better be prepared to work 6 days a week and work very, very hard. It doesn’t make sense in getting married and making babies when you’re still trying to go to school.
It’s one thing that you are going back to school to get a higher degrees known as continuing education, but when you are starting out please become certified in a workable skill that can land you a career for a lifetime, hopefully with a pension plan. Most divorces are due to non-education and co-depending on other people to take care of you. Get off welfare; get off the government programs; stop gambling; stop drinking; stop smoking; stop spending your money in sex clubs. Get help for all your addictions and conflict in thoughts and heart.
Make the two one; then you’ll know life can be fun!!! Bottom Line, make sure your and your partner are on the same, level OK!
#4 when you have master the 3 steps above you’ll make a good suitable partner and therefore make sure your partner is suitable like you, if not move on !!!
When you practice these principles that are goodly in Jesus Christ, 99.9% of the time you’ll build a wealthy marriage of a lifetime.
Use common sense. If the fruit is rotten with worms why would you taste it or eat it? Stop eating rotten fruits that are infested with parasites! Sweet fruit comes from a good tree and rotten fruit comes from a dead rotten tree. But for some reason people love to eat worms and maggots, If you lay down with a Dog with fleas, do you not think you’re going to get fleas? Stop lowering your standard. Put these god giving principle to work, I guarantee they’ll work!!!
(BANGLADESH) Salaam/Peace. Husband, Love Your Wife!!!
Love her … when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for you.
Love her… when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too.
Love her… when her cooking is bad. She tries.
Love her… when she asks you to play with the kids. She did not “make” them on her own.
Love her… when she buys you gifts you don’t like. Smile and tell her it’s what you’ve always wanted.
Love her… when she has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help her change.
Love her… when she suffers from PMS. Buy chocolate, rub her feet and back and just chat to her (trust me this works!)
Love her… when she tells you how to drive. She only wants you to be safe.
Love her… when she argues. She only wants to make things right for both
Love her… when she “pushes” you to pray. She wants to be with you in Jannah (Paradise).
Love her… she is yours. You don’t need any other special reason!!!!
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessing of Allaah be upon him) advised concerning the woman:
• Treat the women well.
• The best of you are those who are the best in the treatment of their wives.
(USA) I think that these ideas are great… I am not married yet but they can be useful in the future for the couple to overcome large obstacles in the marriage through prayer and thanksgiving to LORD, in Jesus name. Amen.
(USA) I have been married for almost 8 months, and I have absolutely nothing wrong with my marriage. My husband and I have so much love for each other. But I am always wanting to find new ways to make him happy. There is not much time we have alone. He has 3 kids and I have 2. Together with our 5 children, we stay pretty busy. He does the same for me. He is always doing whatever he can to make me happy too.
(INDIA) After I had problems in my last relationship I thought that I wouldn’t be able to love a girl again. I was frustrated, depressed and dissapointed that girls cheat and love to break hearts. As a person who is very devoted towards love,respect and peace I was sad at the fact that men and women are going astray, neglecting their duties to make a relationship a happy one.
But after reading the comments of some of the ”egoless’,”sweet” and ”intelligent” ladies I am convinced that good women still exist. A women who will respect me and love me unconditionally and thus I will love her from all my heart and will be willing to do anything for her, I would bring the stars for her and treat her with respect and affection. I am very happy to have my trust in women being revived again.
Thanks to this amazing post and for all those women who say that they are not treated equal or it is stupid to treat husbands like lords are the ones who know nothing about family life. You see for me, respect is not how a girl says that I’m “hot” or I am intelligent. These are materiallistc compliments. I would rather be happy if she understands what I have gone through and how much I have struggled and what all I do to keep the family happy.
As a man, I wont be waiting for my wife to respect me first or follow these points, but I will make sure that I am a loving and helping husband and that she means the world to me.
So, women who have problems with your husbands, start following these points. Any man except a devil worshipper will start giving you the kind of love you want!!! So be happy and all the best everyone!
(INDIA) Hi, I am getting married this March, 2012. I am marrying my only love but still, I was in confusion after marrying whether I would be able to be there with him in his happy and sad movements and how to be with him after marriage. But after reading all these ways, I am very happy that I will be able to support him in all ways with a true heart and with true love. I love him soooooooooo muchhhhhhhhhhhhh.