The following are testimonies from those who are “Single, Yet Preparing” in the event that God may unite them with a lifelong partner in marriage someday. It is their focus to be prepared, should God bring a marriage partner their way. We pray these articles are a blessing to you.
Please click onto the links below to read:
• SABRINA’S WEDDING: THE CALLING
• SABRINA’S WEDDING: INCLUDING THE FATHER
• SABRINA’S WEDDING: THE COVENANT
• WE ALMOST MARRIED BUT WE DIDN’T HAVE PEACE
If God has given you a testimony — a personal experience you have lived through on this issue — one that could help and encourage others, we would appreciate it if you would write it down and send it to us. Even if what you have to write isn’t very long in length, we can possibly use it. You can do this by going to the CONTACT US section of this web site. Next, we ask that you click on “Contact Us” and then write it out for us there.
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It may be that you have tips you could share to help others in this area of preparing for marriage, or you want to share requests for prayer, and/or ask others for advice. If that is so, please “Join the Discussion” by adding your comments below or below one of the articles we have posted on this web site.
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3 responses to “Single Yet Preparing Testimonies”
(UNITED KINGDOM) Hello, please could somebody answer my question please. I am currently engaged to be married. I was wondering if it is ok for us as a Christian couple, for my fiance and I to discuss sex before we are married. Or is that impure to do that? I have heard some Christians say that you should discuss it before you get married so that you don’t have the wrong expectations about it when it comes down to it, is this right? If so then how far are we allowed to go, is it ok to talk about our likes and dislikes or is that going too far? Could some wise individual give me any sound advice on this subject, please.
(USA) Matthew, You make a good point, which we’ve been praying about since reading your posting. What comes to mind is to have you first study what married sex is about, in the context of God’s ways, not mans. Pray together that the Holy Spirit, our Wonderful Counselor will guide you. And then we recommend you read through the “Sex Before Marriage” topic on this web site, starting with the “Quotes” that we make available. Make sure you talk about them, whether you agree or disagree and why or why not. It’s important to be completely honest with each other. Even if it causes tension between you, it’s better to get things out in the open and work to build bridges, rather than smooth things over now, only to have it come up and cause problems later.
And then go through the “Sexual Issues” topic… having the Holy Spirit guide you as to what to read. Not all of the articles will be ones that you should read ahead of time, but some would be good to read. Be careful about sexual arousal, which comes very naturally when you love someone. It’s important NOT to read and discuss things in places where you may fall into temptation. Ask God to help you NOT to open the gift of sexual intimacy before you marry (and if you have, stop). Save the best God has for you later, when God will bless it.
And then, there’s a book we recommend you obtain and read together because it will put sexual issues within marriage, within the context of how it SHOULD be, rather than how the world presents it. The book is titled, Sacred Sex: A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage and is written by Tim Alan Gardner, published by Waterbrook –a division of Random House. We’re fairly sure you can find it somewhere in the United Kingdom.
Although this book is written primarily for married couples, it will be good for you to read it, as well. Plus, it has questions you can talk about together. The things the author writes about will give you a healthier vision of the sexual relationship, as it SHOULD be — apart from what those outside of the faith believe. Being physically intimate with each other is a GREAT gift God gives us, but if we go against God’s order, problems are inevitable.
And then, Cindy is going to work on putting together an article aimed at discussing sexual issues, as they pertain to talking about them BEFORE marriage. But it will take a while (because of personal reasons, as well as the research it will take to put it together). This is a sensitive subject and will take prayer, time, and a lot of digging to find the info that will best help couples such as you and your fiance. So, please be patient and keep an eye on the “Sex Before Marriage” topic, to see when it will be posted. But in the meantime, the other reading material should keep you busy for a while. We hope this will help. God bless!
(NIGERIA) Yes, it’s very necessary to discuss sex before marriage. Note! Discuss. This has been an issue in many marriages threatening, struggling and breakups.