Sometimes when we look at our marriages we wonder if we can live like this for the rest of our lives. We wonder, are we getting enough out of our marriage? And that’s a good question, to ask. But is it the right question?
I say this because of another question that was posed to us several years back. It sure made us think in a different direction. David Ferguson (the director of Great Commandment Network/Intimate Life Ministries) challenged my husband to instead ask a different question. He said, many people ask whether they are getting enough out of their marriages. But he said as Christ followers we should instead ask: “What is GOD getting out of my marriage?” Does God have a higher purpose and message He can deliver out our marriage? “What does God want out of our marriage?” Are we contributing, in a positive way, toward furthering God’s Kingdom work by the way we interact in our marriage?
Asking the Right Question
These are hard hitting questions to ask ourselves. But can we ask any less if we are really serious about living for Christ and glorifying God in our lives? It’s easy to say we are followers of Christ. But it’s difficult to actually live it (showing that we mean what we say).
In Colossians 1:16 we’re told that we were created “by Him and FOR Him.“ There is more to our Christian walk than just making our life work for our individual comfort and desire for happiness. Can’t God work good out of that which seems not so good? We refer you to Marriage Message #24 – How Big is Your God? We serve an awesome God who cares for you and everyone in this world.
Why should anyone want to become a Christian if they see that we serve such a puny God who doesn’t empower us to live above our circumstances? How can they see “the hope that is in us” when we live our lives in displaying hopelessness?
“You yourselves are our letter, written on hearts, known and read by everybody. You show that you are a letter from Christ… written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.“ (2 Corinthians 3:2-6)
Living God’s Testimony
Are you living out God’s testimony of love? Are you asking yourself the right questions? “What is GOD getting out of your marriage in the way you are living out your vows? Can He use your life to draw others to Himself? Are you living in such a way that others might say, “I want to know your God” —where God’s power and the Light of Christ is displayed for all to see?
I’m reminded of my brother Rick who died a number of years ago. Rick came to faith in Christ less than a year before he died. When he called me up to tell me that he “finally did it.” He finally asked Christ to be his Savior. He told me of how God drew him in to make that decision.
Rick told me that God used us to help him to see God better through how we lived our lives. Our “unconditional love” and our unwavering walk with God caused him to think deeply about the things of Christ.
And God especially used his precious wife, Linda to help him see who Jesus really is. He pointed out that she didn’t always live out her faith perfectly. But he told me that he consistently saw the love and power of Christ throughout her life. She LIVED Christ. And God used Linda’s unconditional love for my brother over many years of hard times, to draw him to the unconditional love of God.
Speaking God Through Our Lives
He admitted that many times he didn’t make it easy for her. But her love for him spoke volumes. And eventually God used her, and other people to get through to Rick until he wanted to know God as Linda and we know Him. How I thank God for her perseverance.
My brother was a tough one to love sometimes (as we all are in one way or another). But praise God, Linda saw beyond the surface and loved him and God enough to keep living for Christ, no matter what!
Together, let’s ask the right questions. “What is GOD getting out of my marriage? How can He use me to further the mission of spreading the Love of God to my spouse and a world that needs to know Him?
Together, lets live out the principles found in Philippians 3:13-14 where it says:
“One thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.“
“For Christ’s love compels us…“
Cindy and Steve Wright
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