Are you separated from your spouse? Does reconciliation look hopeless? Perhaps you’re even divorced. If so, there’s no doubt that can make marriage restoration look impossible. But God specializes in turning the impossible upside down. He isn’t bound by human restraints. That’s why fighting divorce with prayer should be your first approach to all you are dealing with.
Please know that the restoration of your marriage may look hopeless right now. But that doesn’t mean it is. We’ve seen many, many marriages fully restored, resurrected and given new life! But in each marriage that successfully gets to this place, their reconciliation started in prayer. It started in humility, self-reflection, and then going in God’s direction.
Fighting Divorce with Prayer
Here are a some links to just a few of them—hoping what you read and view will encourage your heart:
You will find several more testimonies in the topic. The first has testimonies you can pick from to read. And the second is a video testimony:
If you are separated or divorces we encourage you to fight for your marriage in prayer. Know that God wants your marriage to be restored. He wants your marriage relationship to be loving and healthy—not torn apart. But He will do little to help you if you don’t lean into Him.
Yes, we know that many who are reading this have spouses who won’t join them in praying. They may be going in a much different direction. It’s also true that it takes two to reconcile. But you have to start somewhere. And you may be amazed at what can happen when you and God join together in fighting divorce in this way.
As you are fighting divorce with prayer, please know:
“Your finest hour is not when everything is going well and you’re on easy street. Truly, your finest hour is when times are tough and you stick it out, and fight for your marriage. It’s when you function under pressure, and make it to the other side—triumphantly. If you’re going through a difficult time, remember that there is no better cause than the person you have sworn to love. There is no more valiant goal than to fulfill the vows you made to your spouse. Though it may feel like your worst disaster, it is when you begin to fight for that cause and that goal that you will experience your finest hour.” (Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott)
And the best way to fight for your marriage is to start down on your knees. At this point you fight—not with verbal weapons being thrown back and forth at each other. That only makes matters worse. Haven’t you seen this to be true?
From this day forward, instead fight in prayer. The scripture comes to mind: “’It’s not by might, not by power, but by my spirit’ says the Lord.” In all humility, look up to God and ask for HIS help in fighting for your marriage.
Get alone with God. Confess your own wrongs to Him. Start with something like this:
“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalm 139:23-24)
“Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground.” (Psalm 143:10)
Pray and get into God’s Word—the Bible, so He can talk to you that way as well as other ways. And then line your life up with God’s ways. They most likely won’t be “your ways” of doing things as God tells us in Isaiah 55:8-9. “‘For my thoughts are not your thoughts; neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord. ‘As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.‘” But God’s way of doing things is the best way of approaching every aspect of life—especially as it pertains to reconciliation.
Yes, it’s true; God will not MAKE your spouse work with you to reconcile your marriage. We don’t want to give you false hope here. But again, you never know what God can do in and through you if you don’t take it to Him. And not just once either! Persevere in prayer and pursuing God in lining your lifestyle up with His. No matter what happens with your spouse, you can never go wrong in changing your ways to go in God’s way.
Your Prayer Journey
To take you further in this prayer journey (and lifestyle change) here is another prayer we encourage you to use as a launching point. Pray it, change it, and/or add to it. Make it your prayer for this point in your marital journey as you fight divorce with prayer.
Fight Your Marital Division in Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I come to you humbly seeking Your forgiveness and help as my marriage is in trouble. First, I want to confess my part that has led up to being here. Forgive me for any unkind words or actions that has hurt my spouse. Please show me anything else I need to confess so I can do so now and in the future. And forgive me for not coming to You sooner for help.
But here I am standing in the need of prayer. You are the only One who can truly help me to do my part. I can’t fix what is broken on my own. I’ve tried; and I’ve failed. I also can’t run away or hide any longer. I know it won’t be easy to do what you direct. But I know it is the right way and that you are a good God who loves me and my spouse.
I acknowledge that with You ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE; and NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE with You. So, I stand on those promises. I also want to ask that You open my mind and heart so I recognize Your Truth. Please work within my spouse’s life and heart so he/she recognizes your Truth, as well.
Next, please work within me, and eventually us to apply it to our situation (when and if my spouse eventually gives into Your promptings). Help us to be honest and transparent with each other …and with You. I admit I’m a little scared to start this process. I don’t want to be hurt, and I don’t want to hurt my spouse. And in the areas that I do want to hurt my spouse, please work with me so I release it all to You.”
In an act of releasing and submission to God open your hands and pray:
Now, God, In Jesus Name I release my past to You and open my heart to what you have for me and eventually to us as a couple in the future. Heal us, O God. Work within us individually. Search our hearts, and cleanse us from any unrighteousness. And then FILL US WITH YOUR HOLY SPIRIT as You take me and then us on this healing journey. For I ask all these things in Your matchless and Holy Name, Amen.
And then here is a link to an article that has prayers for you concerning additional areas of your marriage you can pray for:
Our Prayer for You
As you go to God in prayer, the following are scriptures I have prayed for you and for your marriage:
“May the Lord direct your heart into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.” (2 Thessalonians 3:5)
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ!” (Romans 15:5-6)
“May mercy, peace, and love be multiplied to you.” (Jude 1:2)
Cindy and Steve Wright
Marriage Missions International