I remember reading the advice that an older woman was giving to someone, concerning marriage. She came from one of those inspirational marriages. She said that lots of people give the excuse that they never had a good marriage modeled for them while growing up. But she didn’t buy that excuse.
She said that with all of the great marriage advice that is available to us, and with God being available to guide us, there is no reason why we can’t work out our differences. That is, if we truly apply ourselves to learn.
As she said,
“If you didn’t have a good example of marriage being lived out while growing up then do what it takes to learn how to BE a good example. We need more good examples.”
To that I say amen!
It’s especially important to weather the tough times in our marriages so we are an inspiration to others, as well.
I read a Today’s Christian Woman article titled, In This Thing Together, written by Ken Tada. Ken is married to Joni Erickson Tada. Joni is quadriplegic and often faces many challenges. But I love how her husband Ken stands by her with all of the trials that come as a result of her paralysis.
In this article, Ken wrote the following:
“My wife and I aren’t marriage experts. We aren’t even experts at doing the disability thing. But we know this: suffering can either drive people apart in a marriage, or it can bind them together.
“And just as God reveals tender, intimate things when we patiently hold fast to him through our personal suffering, a marriage is tenderized when a couple patiently holds fast to God—and to each other—through hardships.
“I say this to any husband and wife going through tough times. God reveals himself to us when we come together, needing him desperately. And when we cling to God out of need, one of the most satisfying fruits of the Holy Spirit —the fruit of patience —can’t help but take root in a marriage.”
What an inspiration… and again, Amen!
Another inspiration was told by Pastor Ray Pritchard, in his Keepbelieving.com sermon, “Forever and Ever Amen.” Here’s what he relates about someone that he claims to be “the greatest lover”:
“Let’s begin with a little quiz. What television actor said the following? ‘To me the greatest Latin lover in the world was my Dad, who married my mother. He was faithful to her until the day he died 55 years later. Now, that’s a great lover! I’m talking about a man who’s intelligent and romantic enough to keep one woman interested all the time.’ Do you know who said that? I’ll give you a hint. You’ve seen him on commercials talking about rich Corinthian leather.
Still don’t know? He is most famous for his starring role on ‘Fantasy Island.’ His name is Ricardo Montalban and he has followed in his father’s footsteps. He has been married to the same woman for over 45 years.”
Ricardo and his son can be inspirational to those who truly want to reach for the goal of being “the greatest lover.”
And then lastly, a question that was posed by someone (unknown), with an answer following that can be an inspiration to us all:
“Is there anything more beautiful than a young couple clasping hands and pure hearts on the path of marriage? Is anything more beautiful than young love? Yes, it’s seeing an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path. Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped. Their hearts are physically tired, but still strong with love for one another. A more beautiful thing than young love is old love.”
May these examples be inspirational for all of us to live out all the days of our marriages. That way, not only are we blessed, but others are blessed, as well.
May we live out our married lives in such a way that we follow what we’re told in God’s Word:
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:34-35)
“Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” (Ephesians 5:1-2)
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this blog.
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