We believe that churches should be pro-active in helping marriages so they reveal and reflect the love of Christ. We live in a world that needs to know God’s love. One way you can do this is to include a marriage tip each week in your church bulletin.
To help you do this, you will find the following Marriage Tips to be helpful. They compose of various quotes, which can be copied and used in church bulletins —one per week. You can also cut and paste what you can use in handouts during marriage events and such.
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- “I believe that when a mate comes into a marriage they have a ‘perfect’ picture of what that other person should be like in a marriage. But when reality hits, I’ve found you either tear up the picture or tear up the other person” (Howard Hendricks). “The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness” (James 3:17-18).
- Three words will help your marriage for the rest of your lives together: “Put her 1st … Put him 1st.” “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:3).
- “Even when you disagree, ‘honor the differences’ between you. You do that by listening carefully and respectfully to your partner. Listen. Suggest and discuss ideas. Then, make your decisions together” (Sherry Finneran). “Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification” (Romans 14:19).
- It’s not so much who’s right or wrong in this situation… it’s what’s right or wrong. How can this situation be handled so it’s resolved in a healthy manner. “A wise man’s heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction” (Proverbs 16:23).
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- “The killer of love is creeping separateness… It’s taking love for granted, especially after marriage. It’s ceasing to do things together, finding separate interests. And it’s ‘we’ turning into ‘I’. The failure of love might seem to be caused by hate or boredom or unfaithfulness, but those were results. First came the creeping separateness: the failure behind the failure” (Sheldon Vanauken).
- “Babies are loud about what they need. Marriages are not. It’s easy to neglect each other because other things are more urgent, but you have to save some time and energy for your spouse. Making time for each other may not be easy, but it’s essential. Schedule time together just as you would a meeting. Put it on your calendar. Even half an hour to talk and share your feelings will serve as a tonic for your relationship” (Teresa Parr, Parent Coaching Consultant).
- “We often hear it asked, What am I getting out of this marriage?’ But the more appropriate question is, what is GOD getting out of your marriage? God is seeking a colleague —a dedicated partner and coworker—in the ministry of loving your spouse, and YOU are the colleague he wants. Furthermore, He’s seeking a colleague to join Him in the ministry of loving you, and He wants your spouse to fill that role” (David Ferguson).
- “People only fight about the subject they’re angry about for about a minute or so. The rest of the time they’re fighting with how the other person fights” (Tim Downs). “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? (James 4:1) “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control” (Proverbs 29:11).
ADDITIONAL MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “Making your spouse a priority in your mind and a priority in your schedule are different. We can say our spouse is a top priority, but do we make sure we schedule time to spend with them? Also, our definition of how we “connect” can be different. We need to make sure we BOTH feel we’re connecting” (Tim Downs).
- “Trauma puts you at the wall of conflict” (Gary Smalley). Be especially “on the alert” during times of trauma in your life. The enemy of your faith will try in every way to try to pit you against one another in your marriage.
- “During tough times, think of why you fell in love in the first place. Dwell on those things. When something goes wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better next time” (Cindy Francis).
- WARNING: 80% of marriages don’t survive through times of trauma (such as losing a child). You need to strengthen your marriage BEFORE traumatic times hit (build your house upon the rock of Christ) so that you’ll have more of a possibility of surviving them. You need to guard your marriage because the enemy of your faith knows your marriage is especially vulnerable when tragedy happens.
- “There are TWO hindrances to good communication that must be overcome. There’s the bad habit of lazy listening and hasty speaking (John Lavendar). (Goes with James 1:19) “Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance” (Proverbs 1:5). “Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise” (Proverbs 19:20). “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19).
- “Respect is central to marriage, so don’t say things to your spouse that you wouldn’t say to a friend” (Sandra Aldrich). “Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God” (1 Peter 2:17).
- “Keep your eyes wide open before marriage and half shut afterward. Apply the principles in Philippians 4:8-9, “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy —think about such things.”
- “You don’t have to ask for forgiveness for biting your tongue. ‘Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him’ (Proverbs 29:20). “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue” (Proverbs 17:28).
- There’s no such thing as a marriage without its share of troubles. As you walk down the road in marriage together, you can be sure that you will encounter a cross on it somewhere. “Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit” (Galatians 5:24-25).
- “What if your love for each other is dead? If you have a covenantal death of your marriage, pray for a covenantal resurrection. All things are possible in Christ” (Dr Tony Evans).
- “Staying faithful doesn’t involve just not sleeping with someone other than your spouse. It means putting your best effort and energy into enhancing the romance you have with your mate. In other words, faithfulness is more than just saying no to others; it’s also saying yes to your spouse” (Steve Chapman).
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- “Romance starts in the heart—with a servant’s heart” (Annie Chapman). “You were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather serve one another in love” (Galatians 5:13).
- “Without ever passing out a tract, preaching a sermon, or even saying a word, a Spirit-filled Christian home declares to all who come within reach that God will do for others what He has done for them, if they’ll only give Him a chance” (Jerry Jenkins).
- “When you read the Word of God, and it says to make your neighbor happy, to edify him and build him up spiritually, do your thoughts led you to the people next door? Did it even occur to you that this word might be in regard to how you should treat your spouse? The word neighbor’ in Greek, according to Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance implies one who is ‘near,’ or “close by.” For some reason, it seems easier to obey the Word if it doesn’t mean our immediate family, but nearly every home has someone within it who needs healing over a past hurt” (Joyce Meyer).
- “The biggest problems in relationships stem from having too much of ourselves on our minds and not enough attention on the other person. We seem to always have “us” on our minds. Love lays aside personal self-interest to attend to the other person” (Joyce Meyer). “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, does not boast, and it is not proud. It is not rude, self-seeking, and is not easily angered. Love keeps no record of wrongs” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
Even More Marriage Tips
- “Our abrasive words can cut off hearing, just as Peter’s sword cut off the servant’s ear. We just can’t come against people whenever we feel like justice is needed. We must be submissive to God” (Joyce Meyer).
- “The testimony of your love for each other can be used by God to win others to Himself. The mystery of how God causes you and your spouse to become one flesh in perfect agreement through marriage is great, but within your testimony of how God makes this happen lies a revelation of God’s love for you and the world. God is the Author of life’s greatest love stories. Let Him finish writing the one you have begun” (Joyce Meyer).
- “The difference between marriages that fail and those that celebrate silver and gold anniversaries, is healthy communication. All marriages have about 10 irreconcilable differences, but the successful ones learn to manage disagreements” (Diane Sollee).
- “Honor is like gasoline in a marriage. If you run out of it or run low your marriage is in serious trouble” (Gary Smalley).
- Someone once said, “If you can’t forgive your husband, forgive the father of your children.” And that applies in reverse as well, “If you can’t forgive your wife, forgive the mother of your children.” “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13).
- “God will almost always put you with somebody who is different from you, but that’s part of His plan so that together we complement each other with our strengths and learn to depend on each other for areas in which we are weaker (Joyce Meyer).
- “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips” (Proverbs 24:26).
TIPS FOR MARRIAGE:
- Ask your spouse: “What’s one thing I can do that will improve our marriage this week?” And another helpful suggestion: Ask your spouse, “What are three things I can do within this month that will improve our marriage?” These are simple questions that can be extremely helpful to keep your marriage healthy and strong.
- In our marriage, we may not be able to change our differences but we can change our response to those differences.
- The enemy of our faith tries to divide us because he knows that “united we stand, divided we fall.” “He fans the flames of rivalry and pride. How good and pleasant it is when brothers [or marriage partners] live together in unity!” (Psalm 133:1)
- “It’s easier to “fall in love” than it is to “STAY in love.” Falling doesn’t take as much effort as staying does. Staying in love or staying TO love takes commitment, strength in character, and it takes a conscious decision to be a promise keeper.
- “Our marriage becomes a byproduct of what’s going on in our lives spiritually” (Travis Turner).
- Is television coming between you and your spouse? Are you allowing it to communicate to you to such a degree that you don’t have the time to communicate with each other? Turn it off for 20 minutes. And use that time to talk to each other and build a closer communication within your marriage.
- Can you look at loving your husband as doing it for the very heart of God? (This idea goes with Matthew 25:40.)
- “Everyone who thinks they’re “winning” an argument, needs to consider how it’s affecting their partner. Think about it —how can it be a winning situation if in order for you to win, your spouse has to lose?” (Dr Phil McGraw)
MARRIAGE TIPS TO CONSIDER:
- “Your children’s activities are important, but don’t allow yourself to become a slave to your parenting role and forget your partner. Take some time right now to refocus on your partner. Your marriage will be stronger for it. And you’ll be a great role model for your kids!” (David and Claudia Arp)
- “We can take a stand against any negative influences in our marriage relationship and know that God has given us authority in his name to back it up. You have the means to establish a hedge of protection around your marriage. Jesus said, ‘Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven’ (Matthew 18:18). You have authority in the name of Jesus to stop evil and permit good. You can submit to God in prayer whatever controls your [spouse] —alcoholism, workaholism, laziness, depression, infirmity, abusiveness, anxiety, fear, or failure — and pray for him (or her) to be released from it” (Stormie Omartian).
- “Kindness and decency SHOULD begin at home. Why should we be kinder to strangers than we are to those we claim to love? Like letting someone with only one item go ahead of you in the supermarket line, bring home to your spouse the decency and kindness you would show to someone you just met” (Michele Weiner-Davis).
- The Bible tells us that God’s “divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of Him.” And that includes what we need to maintain a good marriage that honors the Lord. As followers of Christ, we are called to participate in the “divine nature” and escape “the corruption in the world caused by evil desires” (Cindy Wright).
- “Make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge. To knowledge, add self-control; and to self control, perseverance. To perseverance, add godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness. To brotherly add kindness, love” (2 Peter 1:3-7). These are great attributes to carry over into your marriage relationship —a living picture of Christ’s love for the church.
- “When you live with someone day in and day out, it’s easy to ‘nit-pick’ at each other’s faults. BE DIFFERENT! Celebrate the positive things in the relationship. Notice and comment on what’s going well. It’s not just that positive reinforcement is the best way of changing someone else’s behavior, when partners feel valued, they’re less inclined to jump to negative conclusions when something goes wrong, and more likely to give each other the benefit of the doubt.” (Diane Cole).
- “Two are better than one, because they have good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). May your marriage be three cord strong –with God, you and your spouse pulling together!
- “Relationships are living entities. If left alone, they’ll atrophy. Marriage is never a finished product. It requires attention and a time commitment. You have to find time that’s devoted to the relationship so you don’t drift apart and live separate lives. Those who can go the distance are intentional about the relationship and make the commitment not to let it deteriorate” (Renee Hinson).
ADDITIONAL MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “The first duty of love is to listen” (Paul Tillich). “Like an earring of gold or an ornament of fine gold is a wise man’s rebuke to a listening ear” (Proverbs 25:12). “Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance” (Proverbs 1:5). “The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice” (Proverbs 12:15).
- “Love is no assignment for cowards.” (Ovid) And neither is marriage. Don’t marry until you’re brave enough to do what it takes to make it last.
- “Build a close-knit family through teamwork! Picture yourself in a rowboat, gliding down the river with your family. Suddenly, an argument erupts. You see a hammer, and to make your point, you grab the hammer and start punching holes in the bottom of your boat. You might get your point across –but what happens to the boat? It sinks. And who’s in the boat? Your family and you. What a fine time you’ll have, celebrating your ‘victory all the way to the bottom of the river!
- “No matter what kind of conflict happens in your family interactions, you can’t win unless everyone wins. Why? Because you’re a family. Your goal should be unity and a commitment to love one another. In your effort to be ‘right,’ punching holes in the boat may help you feel better, but your family is stuck bailing water and struggling for the shore. When you choose to build a close-knit family, you must focus on becoming a team. Your actions will decide whether your team’s going to succeed or fail. Successful teams don’t have dictators and hole-punchers. One of the most important steps of being a team is serving one another” (Dr Gary Smalley).
- “Commitment has kind eyes.” (J. Ruth Gendler)
- “Love doesn’t commit suicide. We have to kill it. It often simply dies of our neglect” (Diane Sollee). “Be very careful how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity because the days are evil” (Ephesians 5:15-16). “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9).
- “Some couples get stuck for so long they forget what a good marriage is like. They begin to settle for a mediocre marriage, or even for a miserable one. They need somebody to refresh their minds and teach them how to get back to a healthy, positive loving way of relating” (Bill Hybels).
- “As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity” (Colossians 3:12-14).
- “I firmly believe that nothing makes the Enemy happier than a loveless marriage. Which leaves only one option – fighting back. Stand up for your marriage. Give your concerns, your guilt, your insecurities, your fears and your past to God.” (Betsy St Amant).
- MARRIAGE TIP: Marriages heal when we stop looking at what our partner should do to make our marriage better… and instead, look at what we need to do.
- The shortest distance between a problem and a solution is a distance between your knees and the floor. Those who kneel to the Lord can stand up to anything.
MORE MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8. One of the enemy’s greatest tricks is that of subtlety. You give an inch, he’ll take a mile. But you can beat him at his own game —with a lot of prayer and altering of your entertainment habits. Filter what you pour into your mind —it’ll eventually seep into your heart. Be sensitive to the emotional and physical needs of your spouse. And remember, within the constraints of marriage, sex is not a four letter word but a unique blessing from God. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights…” James 1: 17 (Betsy St Amant).
- Jesus loves us with ﬁdelity, purity, constancy, and passion no matter how imperfect we are. If a man doesn’t love his wife in that same way, he will abuse his authority and his headship and as a result will abuse her. Because you are one with your wife, you must treat her the way you would your own body. You wouldn’t do anything to deliberately hurt or destroy it. You love it and care for it (Stormie Omartian). “Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself” (Ephesians 5:33).
- “The Bible describes marriage as two becoming one. Ideally it is a partnership of two distinctly different individuals who are stronger together than apart. But this won’t happen until we swallow our pride, praise each other’s uniqueness, and encourage each other’s strengths. And a little humor helps too” (Phil Callaway).
ADDITIONAL MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “Marriage is hard enough without one of the parties being rude, cruel, or inconsiderate. Nothing is more upsetting, tormenting, suffocating, or emotion-provoking. Nothing does more to bring out the worst in us, than a marriage where one of the partners is lacking in common courtesy. We have to care enough about our mates to stop doing things that hurt or upset them.” (Stormie Omartian) “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18). Choose your words carefully. “If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless” (James 1:26).
- “Don’t let your words turn into weapons of criticism that destroy what you want to preserve. Even when we don’t mean to, our impatience or exhaustion can make our words seem less than courteous. Remember, “the kingdom of God is not in word but in power” (1 Corinthians 4:20). It’s not the words you speak, it’s the power of God behind them that will make the difference. Praying ﬁrst, before you talk about a sensitive subject, will give your words power and ensure that you speak them from a right heart.
- “No matter how great your marriage is, God wants it to be better. Since God tells us to ‘be transformed,’ that must mean there is always room for improvement (Romans 12:2). Therefore it stands to reason that, as we improve individually, our marriages will also improve. Next to your love for [your spouse], the greatest gift you can give is your own wholeness. Ask God to make you everything He created you to be so you and your [spouse] will always be a winning team (Stormie Omartian).
- People are often enamored with my Super Bowl ring. But it’s my wedding ring that I’m most proud of. Having a good marriage takes even more work than winning a Super Bowl (Trent Dilfer, Seattle Seahawks quarterback).
- “You can build a house that ‘looks good’ on the outside but the foundation is crumbling; and that almost always leads to a house that will be condemned and torn down. Our marriage may ‘look good’ to others around us, but we know if the foundation is crumbling and if the marriage is close to being torn down. Isaiah 33:6 tells us, ‘He (God) will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the Lord is the key to this treasure.’ Psalm 127:1 says, ‘Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it…’ If the foundation of your marriage is built on anything other than on God’s Word it’s time to tear out the old and put in the new foundation” (Charles Swindoll).
- The best thing parents can do for their children is to love each other.
- “Even if marriages are made in heaven, man has to be responsible for the maintenance” (Kroehler News).
- “Coming together is the beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success” (Henry Ford).
- “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time” (Thomas Edison). “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9).
MORE MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “There are times when one wonders if they married too young. In every case I’ve either been in contact with or heard about where the husband and/or wife was feeling that they married too young, age actually had nothing to do with it. Instead it was about how one or both did not feel cared for after they married. If two teenagers get married and successfully care for each other for the rest of their lives, neither will think twice about how young they were in the beginning of their lives together” (Steve Harley).
- “Being intentional with your rituals helps you stay the course and weather the storms of life. There’s a sign on an Alaskan highway referring to the snow-packed roads that reads, ‘Choose your ruts well. You’ll be in them for the next 200 miles.’ Marital rituals are ruts that help you stay connected and on-course, even when it’s chilly outside. Choose to be intentional and work at maintaining your rituals. When you do, you’ll find that you are adding significance to your marriage” (Ron L. Deal).
- “A couple over in Alabama entered a contest, winning it with this description of marriage: ‘We gave when we wanted to receive; we served when we wanted to feast. And we shared when we wanted to keep. We listened when we wanted to talk, and we submitted when we wanted to reign. Each of us forgave when we wanted to remember; we stayed when we wanted to leave.’ And it’s that kind of marriage that you need God to help you have—with that kind of attitude, that kind of spirit, and that kind of staying power” (Dr. Fred Lowery).
EVEN MORE MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “There are dozens of elaborate home security systems on the market today. They’re all designed to create an electronic wall around your house and family. Your marriage needs the same type of protection. They need a barrier that will ward off the powerful forces that work ceaselessly to intrude and destroy everything you’ve built into your relationship. This marital security system has a name. It’s affection. And every time couples give and receive affection they’re actually wrapping a shield around their marriage. At the same time they’re meeting one of life’s greatest needs —the need to ‘feel loved’ within a human relationship” (See: Genesis 2:18, Ephesians 5:25) (Dr. Randy Carlson).
- “Listen to what your spouse is saying. Don’t jump to conclusions. What is it that usually drives you crazy when you talk to people? Isn’t it being cut off when you’re trying to get your point across? In the same way that you don’t enjoy being interrupted, your spouse won’t appreciate not being listened to. Even more, learn to respond to what your husband or wife actually said —not with what you think your point should be. Nothing says, ‘I care’ more than replying to your spouse’s words with careful consideration” (Randy Carlson).
- Keep in mind as you weather those marital storms, what we’re warned in 1 Corinthians 7:27-28. “Those who marry will face many troubles in this life.”
- “A sad reality in marriage is that, because of your comfort level with one another, you can treat your own spouse with less respect than complete strangers. Not only that, you tend to judge them more harshly, too!” (Randy Carlson) “Serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Galatians 5:13-14)
TIPS FOR MARRIAGES:
- “Little things make the big difference in a marriage. Somehow, with the big things, we’ll bow up and somehow work through them. It’s the little stuff that destroys relationships, because they’re so subtle. It works another way too. It’s the little things that destroy a relationship, but it’s the little special things you do that makes the relationship a lot better” (Dr. Fred Lowery).
- “The key to communication is listening. When you listen to somebody, you’re saying, ‘I care about you. You are important to me. I want to hear what you have to say. I want to understand.’ You can’t give your mate a better gift than the gift of listening, and men have to really work on this thing, because we’re not very good at that. Women handle their stress by talking things out. Three magic words for men to say to their wives are, ‘Tell me more.’ When the wife pauses, you say, ‘Tell me more.’ (Dr. Fred Lowery) “He who answers before listening—that is his folly and his shame” (Proverbs 18:13).
- One couple walking alongside another couple to help in their marriage can make a great difference. It can cause a positive ripple effect in families for generations to come. And as each one, reaches one, a wonderful, positive ripple effect can change this world for the better. (Cindy Wright)
- Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage. He didn’t have to hear about all the men she could have married, and she didn’t have to hear about the way his mother cooked. (Unknown) “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18).
- Our marriages are messages seen by others, which may speak more to their hearts than anything they may ever hear or read.
ADDED MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “Marriage is meant to point people to God. The family is God’s laboratory where his grace and provision are put to the test” (Margie Zacharias).
- “If the mountain was smooth you couldn’t climb it” (A southern saying). “The application is: The bumps and cliffs in marriage help us grow and mature as partners and as Christians.” (Delores Stone)
- “I believe people should be reeducated in the goodness of marriage because our upbringing and modernization is killing this holy union.” (Cherotich)
- “The strength of your marriage depends on the choices you make to improve it” (Doug Fields).
- “Settle the fact that your vows do matter. Your marriage commitment was meant to be for a lifetime. You said, ‘I do.’ You need to live as though you meant it. Therefore, you must set aside all other priorities to make your marriage work. That’s what a marriage is, by the way. It’s work. You want to think of it as being nothing but pleasurable, existing to meet your expectations. But that’s not reality. Think of it like a bank account. Your marriage is only going to grow as long as your depositing more into it than you are withdrawing from it. Ask yourself, ‘What more can I put into my marriage to show my spouse that I am truly committed to this relationship?'” (Randy Carlson)
- “Don’t settle for the same old routine all the time. Create some excitement in your marriage by what I like to call planned spontaneity. All planned spontaneity means is that you think about what you want to do, create the time to do it and then do it. But do it together!” (Dr. Randy Carlson)
EVEN MORE MARRIAGE TIPS:
- “Having a sharp tongue can cut your own throat” (Unknown). “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18). “The wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil, but a fool is hotheaded and reckless. A quick-tempered man does foolish things, and a crafty man is hated” (Proverbs 14:16-17).
- “A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly“ (Proverbs 14:29). “An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins ” (Proverbs 29:22). “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control” (Proverbs 29:11).
- Love is an act of will, both an intention and an action. “Let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth” (1 John 3:18).
- “Marriage is difficult! Somewhere between ‘We are gathered here today’ and ’til death do us part’ there is a lot of real life going on—ups and downs, highlights and failures, dreams attained and dreams lost. Real-life marriage is hard, a balancing act of jobs, children, friends, in-laws, paying bills, cooking meals and maintaining a home. Not only these, but we also deal with transitions to different stages of marriage—adjusting as newlyweds, working dual careers, having kids, kids growing up, moving, changing jobs, and growing older. Often the one we’re supposed to love most is lost in the confusion of life. You need to put activities into your life together to help you to enjoy and encourage each other as husband and wife as well as to foster talking, learning and growing together” (From “HELP! WE’RE MARRIED… An Activity Calendar for Couples).
A FEW MORE TIPS:
- “A husband and wife are like the gas pedal and a brake in an automobile. We need both in a car to make it work” (Dr. James Dobson).
- “If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other” (Galatians 6:15). “But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matthew 12:37).
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Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International compiled these marriage tips.
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