Surviving the Holidays in Your Blended Step Family

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One response to “Surviving the Holidays in Your Blended Step Family

  1. Hi, I am a 55 year old female. Was married for 19 years and have two sons and one granddaughter. We divorced in ‘08 when our kids were teenagers. We are both remarried, him 7 years now to a woman who was married before but never had children. My husband of 8 years was married before and has 3 adults sons and 5 grandchildren.

    The holidays can be hard. My son, daughter-in-law, granddaughter, and my other son and girlfriend go to their dads and his wife on Christmas Eve and my house Christmas Day. This year due to my younger son’s work schedule, went tonight to exchange gifts and will go tomorrow for a quick dinner. Then my older son will go to his wife’s dads family (her parents are divorced also)… lots of splitting time that they have to do when they come in as they live two hours away.

    Just having a hard time this evening because since my ex husband’s house was the first they were all at.. my kids already exchanged their gifts and my younger son already gave his niece, my granddaughter (who’s 20 months old), her gift. I’m not making a big deal about it. Next year, I’ll suggest they exchange them at my house.

    It’s just hard sometimes.. you get married and have a family. Then when it doesn’t work out you don’t realize all the things in the future that can and probably will happen. Your kids grow and get married; they start having kids. What should have been a family isn’t. I had no choice but to divorce. I tried and tried. My husband cheated twice. Then there was a flirtation with the woman who is now his wife, so she gets my family sometimes. I know I shouldn’t feel the way I do but I do.