Marital Junk Mail: Stinking Thinking

Are you getting a lot of junk mail lately? We sure are. We’re being sent invitations to “vacation opportunities” and so much more. I’m so tired of throwing out glossy advertisements, and catalogues. But throwing it all out is better than letting it pile up all over the place. They Read More…

The Spouse with the Hammering Attitude

Have you ever picked up an attitude and used it in a way that has pounded away at your spouse, almost like swinging a hammer? It’s called having a hammering attitude. Sadly, I have to confess that I sure have done that to my husband more than a few times. Read More…

Lazy Marriage: You Are What You Do

Are you living in a lazy marriage? A while back we received a marriage tip from relationship expert Mort Fertel that got me thinking on this issue. Here’s what he wrote: “Have you ever heard the phrase ‘You are what you eat?’ This catchy slogan from the fitness industry reminds Read More…

Understanding Your Husband After a Move

Bill and I have always had a “moving marriage!” We moved 14 times during the prime of his career in the hotel/restaurant business. Going through the transition and adjustment of relocating was always a roller coaster ride for me emotionally. I write about my experiences and what God taught me Read More…

Looking Through Manure Colored Glasses

A few weeks ago, I mentioned a term that I’d like to highlight a bit further (because it keeps coming up in conversations). It’s the term of looking at your spouse through “manure-colored glasses.” What that means is that when you are viewing your spouse with a negative outlook, it Read More…

Do You Hear Your Spouse Correctly? – MM #298

Do you hear correctly, as it pertains to what your spouse is trying to say to you? The saying goes, “God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. He wants us to be better prepared to listen than to speak.” That sure goes along with the Bible Read More…

We Find What We Look For in Marriage – MM #209

What do you look for in marriage? Are you looking to live your life with your soul mate? “An enduring marriage requires possibility thinking, elasticity, and resilience. It needs continual attention and adaptation. It requires a shift in interest as our partner’s interests shift. Marriage, to remain good, involves a Read More…

Spouse Appreciation and Depreciation

They say that once you drive a new car off the car dealership lot, it immediately starts to depreciate in value. Somehow, that doesn’t seem right. And yet, it seems like the same principle applies to the “depreciating value” of a spouse after the wedding day extravaganza is all over. After Read More…

Too Busy to be Kind?

“If you’re too busy to be kind, you’re too busy.” It’s a simple statement, profound in its truth. And even though the one Christmas song says, “Tis the season to be jolly…” If you look into the eyes of many around you, there isn’t a whole lot of “jolly” going Read More…