Angry Stuffers and Spewers in Marriage

When we’re angry we’re often tempted to deal with our anger in two improper ways. We stuff it or spew it; or, put another way: we hide it or hurl it. There are angry stuffers and spewers. These are two extremes, two ruts on either side of the road. (Dr Read More…

Yelling Shuts Down Reason

Do you and/or your spouse yell at each other when you fight? Did you know that yelling shuts down your ability to reason in healthy ways with your spouse? “When you yell at someone there’s a part of the brain that shuts down. It’s the part of the brain that Read More…

De-escalating Fights in Marriage

If Cindy and I (Steve) are going to be transparent with you we did not fight in healthy ways earlier in our marriage. In fact, our approach was quite toxic. It was all about “winner take all.” Does that ring familiar with how you and your spouse argue? If so, Read More…

De-escalating Fights in Marriage

It’s confession time. We did not fight in healthy ways with each other in the first years of our marriage. In fact, our approach was toxic. It was all about, “Winner takes all.” And that is anything but healthy. We yelled, screamed and acted childishly. And we are not proud Read More…

Calming Down Arguments in Marriage

Are you finding yourself involved in arguments with your spouse, where it would be best to calm things down before you continue any further? You know if you don’t something will be said and/or done that would be anything but godly. Calming down arguments is a good thing to do Read More…

Explosive Anger in Marriage

A few weeks ago we wrote about the War of Words that goes on in many marriages. This week we’re going to touch on the destructiveness of explosive anger within marriage. One can lead to the other, or be entirely separate if that “war” is waged in healthy ways. However, Read More…

Triggered Anger

Have you fallen into the marital trap of unquieted anger? When it occurs, we let loose. Sometimes it surprises even us. I sadly confess that I’ve been there and have done that myself. It’s not something I’m proud of. How I wish I would have worked on my triggered anger Read More…

Managing Your Anger By Using The Triple P Method

Anger properly channeled and controlled is a good thing —a God-given thing. Like a gas flame on the stove, anger is not inherently destructive. It’s a legitimate emotion that has a legitimate function. But it can be helpful or harmful, depending on how we use it. If we don’t learn Read More…

Dealing with Anger

Do you have a temper? Are you frustrated? Do you lose your cool over little things? Do you have “road rage?” Is it common that you feel angry most of the time? Do you try to control your anger, but have times when it comes out and hurts others? Do Read More…