The In-Law Factor – Cutting the Ties that Bind

The underlying factor in establishing a proper postmarital relationship with parents and in-laws is in learning to prayerfully submit to the Scripture. It says: “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh“ (Genesis 2:24). It Read More…

Establishing Patterns For In-Law Relationships

In the first months and years of marriage, couples establish patterns of relating that, for good or ill, will likely be with them for life. What are the implications of this truth for in-law relationships? Simple —if you get off to a warm, positive start with your in-laws, the odds are Read More…

Parental Changes After Marriage

We think when we marry that we are just marrying our “intended.” That’s what we think. But in reality, there are a lot of other people who jump in to influence the marital relationship. Family and friends of the wife and of the husband show they are supportive or adversarial Read More…

Welcome To The Reality Of In-law Relationships

If you’ve never had problems with your in-laws, skip this article. But too often I hear sad stories of relationships that need a fresh touch. Most of the young couples I run into didn’t realize they were marrying the entire family as well as the individual when they took their Read More…

Continual InLaw Challenge – MM #188

“They often give unwanted advice. Play favorites. Demand control. Worst of all, you can’t get away from them —even if you try. Because when you got married, they became yours —for life! They’re inlaws. And unless you’re among the fortunate few whom enjoy a trouble-free relationship with them, an inlaw Read More…

Tough Persistence in Marriage – MM #185

Tough persistence means continuing to pursue a goal until it is achieved. (Gary Smalley) If there’s anything we’ve learned about marriage it’s that it takes an incredible amount of tough persistence to live with each other in “an understanding way.” Read below a few thoughts on the tough persistence it Read More…

Unlovable InLaws – MM #122

What can you do about unlovable inlaws? Sometimes you can do more than you may have at first thought. It truly is a Mission of Love—God’s love, as you try to do the best with those who are unlovable. Your focus is on “what would Jesus do” rather than what Read More…

Responding To A Critical In Law

A building block for good extended-family relationships involves learning to deal with disagreements and differences of opinion. Such conflicts are bound to arise with the merging of two families. It’s amazing how often parents, in laws and their children often end up in power struggles over small issues that become Read More…

Inlaws or Outlaws? – MM #78

We’re told in the Bible, that when we marry, “For this reason” we are to “leave” the primary allegiance we had with our mother, father and “cleave” to our spouse. We are “no longer as two” but were are to be as “one.” In other words, after wedding vows are Read More…

How Do You Live With Your In Laws and Still Love Them?

Living with your in laws (parents), or having them live with you, is a complicated situation. This is particularly true for those of you who live in parts of the world where this is a common cultural practice. This may work out fine in some households. However, some of you Read More…