Protecting Marriage from Infidelity

Very few people who marry think infidelity will ever enter their marriage. They can’t even fathom that it could happen because they’re so in love at the moment. That is why they fail in protecting marriage —particularly, protecting their marriage from infidelity. But tragically, that’s what happens in more marriages Read More…

Focusing on What Really Is

Focusing on what “really is” isn’t always easy. That’s because sometimes our view gets obstructed. Or it could be that what we think we see, we actually don’t! That became clearer for us after having gone through eye exams recently. When asked, “Which is clearer —this or that?” you’d think it Read More…

A Healthy, Growth Focused Marriage

This is a great time to grow your marriage so it’s healthy, loving, and strong. (Actually, it’s always a great time to make that your goal! We all can improve upon the health of our marriages—even good ones.) And the way to do that is to lean into having a Read More…

Celebrating Love Daily: The Art of Marriage

On October 18th we celebrated the day we met each other. In 1969, we met at a small college in Michigan. Steve was a disc jockey at our college radio station. And later in the evening I tuned in and enjoyed being a listener. I called in a song request; Read More…

Newlyweds: A Lifetime Work in Progress

Are you newly married? Did you finally get past the wedding day, and now you are considered newlyweds? Congratulations! So, now that you are married, the following is a way to look at your new marriage: “Here’s a good Motto to live by for the bride and groom [and beyond]: Read More…

Marriage is for Grownups

“Marriage is for grownups!” This is a statement we have made over and over again when we talk to those who are marrying. It’s also one we tell those who are married. If you don’t want to grow up, don’t get married. It’s as simple as that! Don’t enter into Read More…

Growing Through Marriage Problems

What couple doesn’t encounter marriage problems as we try to fit our lives together to “cleave” as God tells us to do? Cleaving isn’t just referring to sexual intimacy. It also refers to being partners heading together down the same path of life. We are to cleave together despite our Read More…

The Evolution of Marriage

All marriages evolve. No marriage relationship stays stagnant. Sometimes the progression of this evolution goes in a healthy direction; and sometimes in an unhealthy direction. Honestly, Cindy and I (Steve) have been in both camps. Probably you have, too. We aren’t talking about evolution regarding the creation of our world. Read More…

The Marriage Box Myth

There is a marriage myth that few people know about before they marry. (We sure didn’t!) But spouses NEED to recognize it. That’s because the health of their marriages depend upon it. We’re talking about the Marriage Box Myth. It’s a myth we fell into and then climbed out of Read More…

Going Back to the Same Old Way

We just saw a T.V. commercial that challenged people NOT to go back to the same old way of doing things after this crisis ends. This brings to mind the phrase, “Don’t ever waste a crisis.” And that seems to be especially appropriate at this time in our world’s history. Read More…