No More Headaches

I recently listened to an interview with Julia Slattery, on a Focus on the Family broadcast concerning Julia’s book, No More Headaches! It was SO interesting —particularly for us. We receive so many emails, and post a growing number of comments on the web site on the subject of “enjoying sex Read More…

My Spouse Has Little or No Sexual Desire

In our culture, with all the emphasis on sex, you wouldn’t think the matter of lacking sexual desire would be a big issue. And yet it is. However, no one wants to talk about it. Except, of course, the spouse who is having to beg for sexual intimacy with their Read More…

What Do I Do When I Don’t Want To Do It?

In The Message, verse 4 (of 1 Corinthians 7) is paraphrased: “Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.“ The Sexual relationship between a husband and wife is God-ordained. Failure of either to take this seriously to serve each other in this intimate way, brings dishonor Read More…

Soul Ties

A while ago, we sent out Marriage Message #267 on the subject of Soul Mates. But this time I want to elaborate more on this issue concerning soul ties. I want to say right here that my husband Steve and I (and other marriage educators) believe that the closeness of Read More…

Gender Differences in Our Approach to Sex

There are gender differences that can affect every aspect of married life. But it especially shows up in our approach to sex.  Approach to Sex: Gender Differences Today, believing that there are no differences between men and women has become so evidently absurd that few people can proclaim it with Read More…

SEX: When The Husband Doesn’t Want To Make Love

What do you do when your husband doesn’t want to make love? You will find this question plus an answer to it given below by sex therapists, Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner: Question: My husband and I are newlyweds, but we only have sex about three times a month. My Read More…

When You Don’t Want Sex With Your Husband

When you don’t want to have sex with your husband, what do you do? Maybe you can relate to the wife’s thoughts expressed below. “I have already gotten settled in bed, wearing my flannel nightgown and reading my book. Now that you’re in the mood, I’m not sure I want Read More…

How Much Sex Is Normal?

So, you haven’t had much sex with your spouse lately, huh? How much sex is normal? Well, one in five couples are living in “sexless” marriages, sex experts say, meaning having sex fewer than 10 times a year. And one-third of married couples struggle with the problem of mismatched sexual Read More…

We Have Different Sex Drives

On the issue of having different sex drives, the following is an article written by Michele Weiner Davis. It is written in a question/answer format: Hi Michele: I’d like to ask your advice about sex. My husband and I have very different sex drives. For him, everyday would be great, and Read More…