In our culture, with all the emphasis on sex, you wouldn’t think the matter of lacking sexual desire would be a big issue. And yet it is. However, no one wants to talk about it. Except, of course, the spouse who is having to beg for sexual intimacy with their low drive spouse. So, what do you do when your spouse has little or no sexual desire?
This is a very difficult and embarrassing issue for the both partners. Add to that the hurt feelings and misunderstandings that often accompany the tension. As a result, these marriages are heading for disaster. That is, unless something is done about it.
My husband Tom has always said that our sexual relationship isn’t the most important aspect of US. But it is a barometer that reveals how our marriage is doing. If you and your spouse are struggling in regards to physical intimacy, whether it’s lack of time, fatigue, desire or any number of other reasons, please know that you both have work to do. And what’s great about this is that it’s for the good of your marriage. The additional good news is that there is much help available.
Bloggers Address This Issue on Sexual Desire
We are part of a larger community of marriage bloggers called the CMBA (Christian Marriage Bloggers Association). Many of these bloggers have become our dear and trusted friends. They have been writing excellent posts about all sorts of things regarding sexual desire and intimacy in marriage. We believe you will find them helpful to read. That is why we want to recommend a directory of their posts that you can scroll through to see if there are any that speak to your particular challenge. [Marriage Missions Note: There are a few additional posts added for your benefit, as well.]
It’s important to know that God created marriage. And it’s also important to know that sex was His idea. For this reason, we don’t want to make it more than it is intended to be. But we don’t want to sideline it either. Finding the balance where you and your spouse can express your uninhibited love with each other in this way, does more to strengthen your vows to stay committed for a lifetime than anything else can.
No one else can meet your spouse’s sexual needs. Additionally, no one else is able to encourage him or her to such a depth. What a privilege that we have been chosen to love our spouse in such a way.
Let’s not let the enemy of marriage find a single victory in our relationships.
DIRECTORY OF POSTS ON LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE & DIFFICULTY IN MARRIAGE:
Wife Who Feels Unloved
- My Husband Won’t Touch Me: Now What? by Sexy Marriage Radio
- What’s Your Excuse? by Journey To Surrender
Husband Who Feels Unloved
- Helping Her Grow Up – Sex, by The Generous Husband
- If You Want Her To Treat You Well, by The Generous Husband
- Your Marriage And The One Thing, by Scott with Journey To Surrender
Low Drive Husband, High Drive Wife
- I Am The Higher Drive Spouse (Yes, Rejections Hurts), by Hot, Holy and Humorous
- We Have Different Sex Drives, by Marriage Missions International
- How to Heal a Sexless Marriage, by Preach It Teach It
Low Drive Wife, High Drive Husband
- Did God Make Women To Want Sex…A LOT? by The Generous Husband
- When A Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex, by Marriage Missions International
- What To Do When You’re Not In The Mood, by The Romantic Vineyard (can apply to husband or wife)
Topics About Sex You Have Trouble Talking About
- What About Oral Sex and Novelty Items? by Marriage Missions International
- When Sex Hurts Her, by The Generous Husband
- When Your Sex Drive Putters Out, by The Romantic Vineyard
Some Causes Of Low Or No Sexual Desire
- Parasites To Marriage, by Marriage Missions International
- Forbidden Fruit, by Marriage Missions International
- Porn, by The Generous Husband (this is a combination of a series of posts on the subject of Pornography and the harmful effects it has on marriage. Make sure you read it in its entirety.)
Debi Walter of Theromanticvineyard.com wrote this blog.
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