Disaffection and Disconnection in Marriage

It happens in every marriage. Sometimes it slams into our relationship; other times it creeps in. It’s called Disaffection and Disconnection. When this happens it “can” destroy a marriage. But if we’re aware it can happen to us and we take action, our marriages can actually grow stronger. See what Read More…

Disaffection and Disconnection in Marriage

Are you going through a time of disaffection in your marriage? For clarity, here’s a definition that Dr Tim Clinton gives: “Disaffection refers to the negative transformation of marital love and commitment. It’s the process by which love grows cold and the desire to leave the marriage or hurt one’s Read More…

Flirting with Your Spouse

Are you still flirting with each other, even though you are married? You DO know that you should not stop romancing each other just because you’re now married… don’t you? And it’s certainly not something you should only do on your anniversary, or Valentine’s Day, or something like that. Saying, Read More…

Love And Affection Are Different

I repeatedly referred to love and affection separately whenever I speak. That’s intentional—because love and affection are not the same thing. Love is a biblical mandate and is foundational to a successful marriage. I’m convinced every reasonably healthy person is equipped to love others the way God designed. You choose Read More…

Misguided Affection – MM #359

“Affection is the kind of love that leaves you feeling close, safe and cared for.” (Dr Randy Carlson) So MISGUIDED affection could make a spouse feel the opposite. You feel distant, unsafe, and not cared about. It’s important to note that affections can be misguided in many different ways. One Read More…

PDA – Public Displays of Affection

When you first fell in love, and before you married, was your love for each other evident? Did you speak and show love to each other through affectionate words and actions? We sure did. PDA was something we never hesitated to do. As a matter of fact, it probably sickened some Read More…

Holding Hands and Kissing Spouse

“For loving married couples, kisses are conversations. Their lips speak in a different way but speak just the same.” (The Pure Bed) This is SO true. You can call it the Kissing Spouse Communication Language. Kisses ARE a type of conversation. In our married lives, sometimes it’s important to speak with Read More…

Marriage: A Vow of Small Things – MM #171

“Small but frequent gestures of affection and care may appear to be insignificant. But grouped together over days and years they become the undeniable evidence of your highest love and deepest devotion.” (Dr. Ronn Elmore) It’s all the small things done over time that is most meaningful. If there’s something we’ve Read More…