Is your spouse driving you half crazy with the things he/she does that make no sense to you? It may be difficult to understand why these habits would make sense to anyone. What are you to do with an imperfect spouse?
“Even if I’ve never met you, I know one thing is true about you: you’re married to an imperfect mate. And here’s the spiritual reality that flows from this difficult truth: even though our mate disappoints us and hurts us, the Bible still calls us to respect and appreciate our imperfect spouse.
“This is true whether you’re a husband (1 Peter 3:7) or a wife (Ephesians 5:33). How do we do this, in a practical sense? How can we honestly and sincerely respect and appreciate someone who is so imperfect?”
What Do You Do With an Imperfect Spouse?
The statements above come from an article titled, “Feeling Let Down? What to Do With an Imperfect Spouse,” written by Gary Thomas. It was featured in a past issue of Marriage Partnership Magazine.
What Gary writes about may seem a bit puzzling and radical, but we encourage you not to close your mind to learning more on this issue. The truth is, you can either do the same thing you’ve been doing, which probably isn’t working or you wouldn’t be searching for help, or you can adjust your thinking and try to look at and approach these “imperfections” in a different way —hoping you will get a better result —a spouse you can better live with.
In the above mentioned article, Gary Thomas makes 7 thought-provoking points which are worth reading! They truly could help to save your relationship!
Pray before reading, that God will teach you what you need to know, to apply to your marriage relationship in particular:
In another article, Gary Thomas takes that challenge further and goes on to write”
“Even if I’ve never met you, I know one thing that is true about you and your spouse: you’re both married to an imperfect mate.
“I also know another truth about you: the Bible calls you to still respect and appreciate your very imperfect spouse. This is true whether you’re a husband (1 Peter 3:7) or a wife (Ephesians 5:33).
“How do we do this, in a practical sense? How can we honestly and sincerely respect and appreciate someone who is so imperfect?”
To learn more, please read:
In this next article, Becky Zerby learned what an inventory of her husband’s shortcomings taught her. It was different than she thought. There was a twist involved, and it may be for you too, as you pray and then read.
Please click onto the web site link below to read:
The following is something that John and Robin Ackison wrote (in their article, “Finding the Perfect Marriage, Through an Imperfect Spouse”). It’s great advice that we all need to prayerfully consider:
“None of us are perfect, and none of us married a perfect spouse. We have to determine within our hearts that we will work it out with our spouse, whatever our IT may be, in prayer. For those who are single, find out as much as you can but recognize that there is always more that you will find out later. For those who are married, in a traditional or blended family, and are pulling back the layers of your spouse, remember that you married an imperfect individual but know that we serve a perfect God who has begun a good work in your spouse and He is faithful to complete it.”
We’re told in Philippians 1:6:
“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions wrote this article.
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