Heroes in Marriage

Heroes Pixabay love-687646_1920I was thinking about the Super Bowl Football Game (a sports event, which is a HUGE deal, here in the United States). Because it’s such a huge deal, its “heroes” often are propelled into the forefront of our attention. But they aren’t the only heroes we can look up to.

Today, as I was praying about what to write in this blog, the Lord brought to mind the football “hero” Drew Brees. He was was voted to be the MVP (Most Valuable Player) of the 2010 Super Bowl game. But I’m sure to his wife, he is a MVS (Most Valuable Spouse) in how he approaches his marriage. You could call him a football hero, but also a “marriage hero.” Let me explain why he would hold such a title.

I came across a testimony, written by someone on a web site (Justmyconcerns.com). The author writes something noteworthy to prayerfully consider. The testimony starts out (and then continues):

“Thanks Drew Brees for your witness on marriage.”

“I was reading a Sports Illustrated magazine at my Dentists office. I’m not sure how old the issue is but it has Drew Brees of New Orleans Saints football team selected as Sports Man of the year.

“While reading the article I came across the following quote from Drew. ‘…When I put the wedding ring on Brittany’s finger, I said, for better or for worse, till death do us part,’ Period. No matter how bad it could possibly get, I am committed. It’s not about happiness. It’s not about feeling. I committed myself to her for the rest of my life, and I promise never to walk away.’

“I was surprised to hear this because usually you only hear negative stuff about sports figures, especially on relationships. Drew certainly speaks as a true champion. That’s because he takes his personal life just as serious as his professional life.

“Drew brings up a good point. Marriage will not always have happiness but certainly we strive for that and will get it through grace of God. There will be times when feelings for our spouse is dry. But we need to remember it’s not about feeling all the time and have to grind it out and believe that is what Drew is talking about.

“…We should try to get in tune with our feelings and if they are not there, then make a choice to ‘Love’ when we don’t feel like it. So thanks Drew for reminding us all out there that our marriage is work in progress and we are ‘never to walk away.’”

Not a Walk Away Spouse

Not being a “walk away” spouse also makes Drew a hero to his wife, for sure. It makes him mine, as well.

Recently, we had a man post a comment on this web site where he has decided to stay in his marriage. He decided to keep working on his relationship with his wife, when she appears not to have the same resolve to work through their issues. She ignores his pleas. And yet he still stays and has pledged to love her as Christ loves the church. As I read what he wrote, I thought to myself, “This man is a hero in my eyes. Whether his wife ever recognizes it or not, he is a hero.”

Drew Brees, this man, other (non-walk away) spouses who leave comments on this web site, and my husband Steve, are all heroes in my eyes.

Steve shows me continually that he is my hero, in the way that he joins with me to work through our issues. He also goes the extra mile to show me he cherishes me. Every day in little and big ways he makes me feel like I am the most loved and cherished wife in the world. I feel secure in his love.

There are Not A Lot of Heroes Out There

That’s not something that I hear a lot of these days —where husbands are able to accomplish that task. To me, husbands and wives who are able to do this show heroism. They go the extra mile in loving and giving grace, and it isn’t for the reason of being recognized, that they do what they do. They go the extra mile because the love of Christ compels them. And they would go that distance in showing love and grace whether anyone else ever knew about what they do, or not. Silent, unselfish heroism… I love it! And I love and admire those who live by those standards.

Thank you Steve, and Drew Brees, and all those other heroes in marriage. You are a living example of love in action.

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. ‘This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you’(John 15:9-12).

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love(1 John 4:7-8).

Living Out Heroism in Marriage

May we all show heroism in the love and grace we live out, within our marriages. May we live in such a way that the love of Christ is revealed and reflected within our marriages. Love is to be shown by our words and our deeds, both behind closed doors and outside of them.

If your spouse has shown heroism in your marriage, could you please share it with us? This way we can be inspired all the more, and rejoice with you.

Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this blog.

Print Post

Filed under: Marriage Blog

Join the Discussion

Please observe the following guidelines:

  • Try to be as positive as possible when you make a comment.
  • If there is name-calling, or profane language, it will be deleted.
  • The same goes with hurtful comments targeted at belittling others; we won't post them.
  • Recommendations for people to divorce will be edited out–that's a decision between them and God, not us.
  • If you have a criticism, please make it constructive.
  • Be mindful that this is an international ministry where cultural differences need to be considered.
  • Please honor the fact this is a Christ-centered web site.

We review all comments before posting them to reduce spam and offensive content.