We hear from so many people who are frustrated and also who feel disgusted with themselves. They just can’t seem to break free and escape the trap of pornography. There is a continual pull that draws them to it, and somehow they fall into it’s clutches, time after time. As a result, they feel chained and imprisoned by that, which they know they should not do.
They ask the question, “how can I escape it?” … “How can I stop doing what I don’t want to do?” Do you feel that way?
It’s like the Apostle Paul’s struggle, “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.” (Romans 7:15-16)
He went on to say, “As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that it, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do —this I keep on doing.” (Romans 7:17-19)
Escape the Trap of Pornography
The Apostle Paul eventually recognized that it was the “law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God —through Jesus Christ our Lord!”
There is victory in Christ as we grab onto Him to help us gain victory over that which He has already conquered. Keep in mind that:
“God did not create us to act on every urge, every desire, as if that would bring about what our hearts truly long for. He made us for Himself, to enjoy intimacy with Him. This requires faith and a daily dependence on His power and guidance. When we acknowledge we have no rights apart from Christ, we finally find the peace and fulfillment that lust and porn promise, but never deliver.
“Have you bought into the porn entitlement? The danger of entitlement thinking cannot be overstated.
“…When one begins to equate desires with rights, a slippery slope of moral degradation is created. If everyone has ‘rights’ to their own desires, then eventually no one has any rights. You don’t have to get stuck there.” (Jonathan, from the Bebroken.com article “The Porn Entitlement”)
Help to Escape
To help you to escape the trap of pornography —the vehicle, which the enemy of our faith is using to discourage you, we would encourage you to read several articles posted on different web sites.
First, Dave Boehi and Mike Pickle wrote an article you might find helpful. It is posted on the Mentorguidefamilylife.com web site addressing the issue:
In this next article, Gary Thomas addresses this subject on his own web site, Garythomas.com, as it pertains to men who are single. But whether you are single or married, we believe you will gain insights from reading:
Steve Arterburn understands a lot about being caught up in sexual sin. He’s been there and has done that. For that reason, you can learn from the things Steve has had to struggle through. (Steve is a psychologist who counsels many people in this area of life.) Please read the following Growthtrac.com and CBN.com articles:
You have to change your environment so you are not exposed to the temptation, which grabs at you. Don’t believe the lie that you can overcome temptation when you don’t do what it takes to flee from its grasp. This sin affects every area of your life, especially your walk with Christ and the integrity of your life with your spouse. DO something about it. Don’t just THINK you can escape by doing things the way you have. It hasn’t worked so far, and won’t work in the future. You are fooling yourself to think otherwise. You have to change the points of temptation.
It’s like what Steve Gallagher writes. Steve is the Founder and President of Pure Life Ministries. He has dedicated his life to helping men find freedom from sexual sin and leading Christians into the abundant life in God that comes through deep repentance.
He gives the illustration:
“A man breaks a bone in his ankle. He knows that if he goes to the emergency room, the attending physician will have to wrench his foot in order to reset the bone. The thought of this terrifies him, so he ignores the problem, even though every step brings wincing pain. Because of his unwillingness to face a moment of greater pain in the doctor’s office, he must live the remainder of his life as a cripple.
“My dear brother, God wants to cleanse you, free you and use you for His Kingdom. Will you spend the rest of your life buried by this sin, unwilling to do the difficult thing? … In your case, it is not a foot that must be wrenched; it is your self-life.” (From the article, Pastor, Are You Trapped in Pornography?)
You have to re-set your “self-life.” You have to change from within and that, which can pull you into temptation. Below are a few tips that are written by Adam. He shares tried and true tips to help you protect yourself and your family from being exposed to porn. As I said before, you have to change your environment so you are not exposed to the temptation.
To Escape the Trap of Pornography:
• Use an online accountability filter.
• Don’t allow the use of Facebook without having accountability in place.
• Monitor general activity on your families mobile devices periodically.
• Use a good antivirus and firewall on your computer (even Mac users)
• If your antivirus/firewall software does not protect against spyware, run an anti-spyware program tool (like AdAware or Spybot).
We pray you find this advice helpful. Please follow through and do what you know you should, as outlined within these linked articles. Apply what you have learned.
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.
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