Cohabitation is nothing new. It happened in Biblical times, too. Remember when Jesus spoke with the woman at the well in John 4:17?
When questioned about her husband, she answered that she had no husband. A popular contemporary Bible version renders Jesus’ response as:
“That’s nicely put: ‘I have no husband.’ You’ve had five husbands and the man you’re living with now isn’t even your husband. You spoke the truth there, sure enough.” (John 4:17 The Message)
In an article written on this subject, Patrick and Dwaina Six, note:
“Jesus didn’t avoid the issue. He didn’t excuse it. The woman in John 4 obviously had bad experiences in marriage (since she’d been married five times) and she was surely experiencing emotional pain because of it. Jesus didn’t scorn her or berate her. He simply addressed the truth of the situation and moved directly to her real need.”
Truth in Cohabitation
And that’s what we’d like to bring about in this article. We’re dealing with the truth of the situation of living together before marriage. This way real needs have the opportunity to come out into the open and addressed.
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We want to build upon the truths brought out by Patrick and Dwaina. In this next article, not only are the “myths” of living together pointed out, examples are given, concerning certain couples who have “been there and done that.” As it’s pointed out, there is an “inertia theory” that’s important to understand.
One couple that is written about in this article, married as a result of the inertia pressure that built up as they lived together. And they really shouldn’t have, because their relationship was problematic.
“The risks of living together are important. That’s because this couple probably would not have gotten married if they hadn’t lived together. Constraints have propelled them forward, not dedication.”
To learn more from authors Scott M. Stanley, please click onto the Boundless.org web site link to read:
On this issue, Dr Janice Shaw Crouse writes,
“Many couples say that they want to live together to see if they are compatible, not realizing that cohabitation is more a preparation for divorce than a way to strengthen the likelihood of a successful marriage.”
To learn more, please click onto the Crosswalk.com web site link to read:
Glenn T. Stanton points out:
“All relationship forms are not created equal.
“Cohabitation is not a junior apprentice form of marriage.
“Cohabitation is not an on-ramp to marriage.
“It is not marriage’s spring training.
“Cohabitation is not marriage-lite.”
You may think it is, but as Glenn writes (and we recommend you read this Familylife.com article):
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.
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