Premarital Quiz Before You Say “I Do”

Premarital quiz - Pixabay questions-2408094_1920Questions …questions …and more questions! What’s the point in taking a premarital quiz, and asking each other a bunch of questions before marriage when you already know each other pretty well? That’s a good question. Here’s your answer: there are many different reasons:

1. “You’ll never know everything about the person you’ve chosen to marry. But the more information you have before entering into this commitment, the less chance you will be confronted with unfulfillable expectations.” (From the book, Getting Ready for Marriage – by Jerry Hardin and Dianne Sloan)

Do Your Emotional Work

It is good to do as much of your emotional work now before you marry. It’s better than dumping a lot of unvoiced expectations upon your partner after the marriage. You don’t want to set your marriage up for future problems or possible failure because your expectations were never given a voice.

As couples, we enter into marriage from two different vantage points. We come from two different background experiences, which contribute to differing expectations. That in itself, can lend itself to future clashes. It’s good to try to learn what you can now (without living together first). There will be many, many issue that you won’t be able to work through beforehand. So eliminate what you can while you’re preparing for marriage.

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2. It’s better to find out your differences now before you marry. That way you can decide if it truly is best for you to marry. It would be better to part ways now than it would be to have a failed marriage —especially with children involved. Asking each other the right questions and then working through the truthful answers, could help you to better know your compatibility.

3. Now is also a good time to learn the skill of building communication bridges together in mature ways. You will be thankful you did. As you go through the questions, work through any disagreements in ways that help your relationship grow stronger. This will take effort and intentionality to do this. But it is also a healthy approach.

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To help you with this, we have many articles and recommended resources in the Communication and Conflict topic. There are additional ones the Communication Tools topic. And if you need a counselor to help teach you what you need to learn —now is a good time to do that. This way you are better prepared for your marriage.

So, to point you to some good questions to ask each other, we are providing links below to a few web sites. They have lists of questions you may find helpful.

The important thing is to be honest when you answer and talk about each question. There are no “right” answers, nor wrong ones. They are just yours, hopefully based upon truth. Use these questions as a launching board to know each other on a level that will be important before you marry.

So please go into the links below so you can work through together:

Below is a set of questions that are not necessarily “Christian.” However, they are good questions to ask each other. Some of them will be relevant, and others may not be. So just skip those that aren’t. But try to answer every one that you can. Just take turns being the first to answer each question. That way no one has to go first every time. The important thing is to be honest. Remember, the point is to get to know each other even better than you do now. This includes the good, the bad, the ugly, as well as the attractive parts of your lives, your personalities and your individual opinions. It’s important to get to know the real person you are marrying, rather than a fuzzy version.

Below is the first set of questions we encourage you to answer. If you need to take a couple of date times to complete them, please do so:


This second set of questions is provided by They are also ones we recommend you talk through together:


Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.

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6 responses to “Premarital Quiz Before You Say “I Do”

    1. (USA)  The best charactistic of course, in choosing a spouse, is that your walk with Christ is the same as your potential spouse’s. However, after that area you need to remember that a spouse is to be your best friend. Love her because you love what she loves, just like you would any other friend. But remember your spouse is your best friend forever, not just some symbol of what once was, but of what always will be.

      We are given speciffic instructions by God that we are to love our spouse like Christ loves the Church, and we see that he was willing to suffer by torture and torment, before dying for his beloved church. Therefore, we see that we are to give all we can and take all we can to give our spouse everything we can. If you find someone you have feelings for but you aren’t willing to give your all she’s not the one.

  1. (SOUTH AFRICA)  What is the solution if you are saved and your partner believes in God and acknowledges God but is not saved?

  2. (SA) I will advise you if you are still not married, to walk away. The Bible clearly states the we should not have a marriage relationship with unbelievers. Spiritual inequality in a marriage will frustrate you in a long run; it’s not easy at all. But if you are already married, by the grace of God you are to stay and be an example of Christ in your marriage. God bless.

  3. (USA)  Jesus Is Lord Of Lords & King Of Kings. He is Faithful & True. Run to Him while you still can. REPENT; NOW is The time! Don’t wait another day, don’t wait another moment. He is waiting for You with His arms open wide!