SCRIPTURES That Deal With Having Sex Before Marriage

Scriptures Bible AdobeStock_122563644 copyWe can come up with all kinds of arguments that may make sense to us, concerning this or that. But in reality, it isn’t wise if it opposes what God thinks about it —no matter what anyone else tells you. That is especially true as it pertains to what is written in the scriptures. The Bible says, “There is a way that seems right, to a man, but in the end it leads to death(Proverbs 14:12).

There are all kinds of different “deaths” this could be referring to. These include physical death, spiritual disconnection or death, the end of a relationship …death of dreams or the cut off from receiving a blessing. The list goes on —none of which, is good.

That particular scripture can be applied to the issue of having sex before marriage. No matter how clever our reasoning sounds to us, that doesn’t mean God puts His stamp of approval on it.

The Truth

You can argue that “everyone else is doing it,” so why not you? But in Truth, that doesn’t mean anything. Just because “everyone is doing it” and everyone says it’s okay to “do it,” it doesn’t mean they are right.

In Noah’s day everyone was doing what they thought was okay, but God shows us in the Bible that everyone else was wrong. He wiped out most of mankind because what they were doing was NOT okay. It was sin —no matter how much they reasoned or thought that it was not. The only ones God spared were those who did things His way. So the “everyone else is doing it” argument surely isn’t an argument that can be wise to use.

What we think may make sense, doesn’t necessarily mean that God sees it that way. God says in Isaiah 55:8-9,

“‘For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord. ‘As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.‘”

To view some of the thoughts that people have concerning having sex before marriage and what God tells us in the Bible, that opposes those reasonings, we provide below a few web site links to some articles that might help you. The first is written by John Thomas, posted on the web site for singles.  The second is written by Brian Kluth, who is a co-organizer of Christian Singles in Denver.

Please prayerfully read through:



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2 responses to “SCRIPTURES That Deal With Having Sex Before Marriage

  1. Am personally happy about this article on sex before marriage, not being in line with what God expects of me. I keep going back and forth with that and it’s not healthy. It makes me shy away from even reading the word. But for some weeks now I have been asking God for the grace to hold on till marriage. I did that for years and got back in to it again. I planned to tell my boyfriend to let us hold on till we are married, but if he can’t hold on then we should be getting ready for marriage or he needs to walk away. I am too distanced from God and I know I am dying slowly spiritually. I need a revival. Bless you.