Poisonous Putdowns in Marriage

Have you been on the receiving end of poisonous putdowns from your spouse, through words that were thrown at you? Have YOU thrown verbal assaults at your spouse? Either way, this can hurt your marriage relationship. When you think about it: “Hostile, poisonous putdowns act as cancerous cells that, if unchecked, Read More…

Communicate: Debate vs. Relate

When you communicate, do you have a tendency to debate or relate? How about your spouse? What is his or her communication style? When you talk to each other about something important do you walk away with a good understanding of what each of you said? My six-year-old was dazzled Read More…

Calming Down Arguments in Marriage

Do you find yourself involved in arguments with your spouse, where calming arguments down (or at least certain arguments) before you continue any further is best? If you don’t, it’s almost certain something will be said and/or done that would be ungodly. And then regrets and ill feelings swarm in Read More…

Confronters vs. Avoiders in Marital Conflict

Are you and your spouse both confronters or avoiders when you argue with each other? Or perhaps one of you is a confronter and the other is an avoider when it comes to conflict. It’s important to note: “There are as many ways to fight as there are personalities. Some Read More…

Even a Taxing Marriage Has Its Benefits

Are you living in a taxing marriage? Last time we talked about how Marriage Taxes You When You Enter Into It. We stressed that ALL marriages go through taxing times. The first two issues we addressed were: — When you marry you lose much of your independence. And then building on Read More…

Even A Taxing Marriage Has Its Benefits

It may be hard for you to believe that if you are currently living in a “Taxing Marriage” there are actually benefits that you can enjoy. Admittedly, we avoid conflict and pain at all costs. But as you’ll learn in this Podcast God can actually use these things to improve Read More…

Our Messy Christmas – Can You Relate?

Can you relate to facing a messy Christmas where you are fighting to “keep it real?” That’s what our guest blogger, Debi Walter, asks us to prayerfully consider. Here’s what she writes: My house is a mess. I am decorating for Christmas, but there are demands keeping me from finishing Read More…

Are You Vulnerable for Marital Conflict?

Are you in a vulnerable place in your life together for marital conflict? We’re not just talking about “normal” times of conflicting with each other. That is a given. If you’re married, it’s only natural that you WILL experience times of marital conflict. We’re talking about times when you’re especially Read More…

Emotional Flooding During Times of Conflict

Have you ever been involved in a flood? It certainly can be scary, and it also can be damaging to those involved. The same can be said when there is emotional flooding going on in your marriage relationship. We’ve been involved in both types of flooding; that’s why we think Read More…