“Just” Talking Together

The comic shown here may be “funny” to some couples —especially those who are engaged or newlywed. There may always seem to be something to talk about together. And there is. But sadly, many couples lose the art of “just” talking together. The dynamics of marriage often leads the way into Read More…

Timing Your Talks – MM #320

“Most people who are happily married have learned a great deal about when NOT to say things. They know that often WHEN something is said is every bit as important as WHAT is said. It’s the timing that makes a positive difference.” (Margaret Davidson Campolo) That unfortunately, is what Steve Read More…

Be Present in Your Marriage – MM #278

I just read a “one liner” that stated, “One day I’ll look up from my phone and realize my kids put me in a nursing home.” I’m thinking the same can be stated another way, “One day I’ll look up from my phone (or computer) and realize my spouse has Read More…

To Say Something Or Not: THAT Is The Question

There are all kinds of different reasons why we should why we should not say something to our spouse when they’re not doing things the way we think they should. Sometimes we should be the ones to say something, and other times we shouldn’t. It’s also important to consider the timing Read More…

Understand Your Spouse (Part 1) – MM #263

A perplexing thing about marriage is how you live together day after day and yet you can still understand very little about each other. When we marry most of us believe this won’t be “OUR” problem. We think this happens to other married couples, but not to us.  And then Read More…

The Speaker Listener Technique

When it comes to great communication, you can’t beat the simple advice written in the book of James. “Take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. For man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.“ (James 1:19-20) That Read More…