Being Present in Your Marriage

I just read a “one liner” that stated, “One day I’ll look up from my phone and realize my kids put me in a nursing home.” I’m thinking the same can be stated another way. “One day I’ll look up from my phone (or computer) and realize my spouse has left Read More…

The Marriage Disconnection

It’s so easy within marriage to become disconnected from your spouse. You can become like ships passing in the night. The two of you barely see or make contact with each other. The marriage disconnection is huge as you tend to other matters. Sure, you may sleep in the same Read More…

Be Nice – Be Kind

Be nice… be kind. I know this may seem like a simplistic message, but actually it’s not. It’s something that, unfortunately, we have a tendency to forget to do for each other, within our marriages. It’s like we get a marriage license and it’s almost as if we get the Read More…

When Life Gets Busy

In nearly 45 years of marriage Cindy and I (Steve) have learned that when life gets busy it’s easy to ignore THE most important relationship in our lives —our marriage. When I “retired” last year I was under the delusion that I wouldn’t be as busy. Ha, ha, ha! Cindy Read More…

Christmas Busyness

“What primordial gene is it that enables women to do 6 things at once while keeping a lookout for the saber-toothed tiger lurking somewhere down the path? We are the world’s great organizers and doers. Yet sometimes this capability runs rampant. When it does, it runs our life —literally. Marriage Read More…

Do You See What God Sees?

There’s a Christmas song, where the lyrics read, “Do you see what I see?” That particular song “tells the story of the birth of Jesus from the perspective of those involved in the Christmas story.” Yes, we realize this song doesn’t portray the gospel truth, but it’s a nice song Read More…

Tucking Away Good Memories

I’ve been a bit nostalgic today. I Skyped with my friend Debi, who lives a long distance away from where we live. We talked about our husbands and family —all good. We also were talking about good memories we’ve had. But we also talked about living so far away from our Read More…

The Time Starved Marriage – MM #343

It’s not an unusual thing at all to find yourself in a time starved marriage. At some point most spouses find themselves there. The important thing though, is to change that, which you can so you don’t stay in that starved state. But you have to be intentional in making Read More…

Marriage Minded Schedules – Pt 2 – MM #238

Are you too busy to be married? Most of us would answer “no” to that. But let’s rephrase the question: Would your spouse say you act like you’re too busy to be involved in your marriage? Would he or she say that you treat your marital relationship as if it’s unimportant to you? Read More…

Why Some Spouses Give Up

The following story is a parable meant to be used as an imaging tool. It’s not meant to give a spouse, who is ready to give up on a marriage. It is not an excuse to do so. It can however, give the abandoned spouse a better understanding as to Read More…