The following is a copy of our (Steve and Cindy Wright’s) personal Mission Statement for our marriage. These are the principles we are committed to live by throughout our lives together. We have them framed and hung in a prominent place so we can continually be reminded of that which is most important to us. You are welcome to use this guideline for constructing your own Personal Mission Statement:
The Mission Statement for Our Marriage:
We believe God has called us to live a life of love in our marriage in a pro-active, CHRIST-LIKE manner. We regard our GOD and each other as more important than ourselves. Further, we believe God has called us to be “MARRIAGE MISSIONARIES” to live, learn and lead others to live in healthy Covenantal Relationship with Christ and with each other.
Our Basic Core Values:
We acknowledge the importance of living what we believe. In covenant with God and with each other we vow to “CHOOSE EACH OTHER” everyday in small and large ways. We pledge to:
• Honor God above all by submitting to the authority of His Word in all things. This is to be done even at the sacrifice of our own desires.
• Be imitators of God —living a life of sacrificial love just as Christ loved and gave Himself up for us.
• Love, honor, and cherish each other as “unto the Lord” in word and deed. This we vow to do until we’re parted by death. We will protect each other’s feelings both at home and in public.
• Keep the lines of communication open so we grow together in our relationship in “an understanding way.” We’ll speak regularly about those things that are important to us and will not allow life to slide us apart physically, spiritually, or emotionally.
• Strive to keep short accounts when angry. We will work to identify the underlying cause of our anger when it occurs, and deal with it so we don’t give the enemy of our faith a foothold into dividing us against each other.
• Forgive one another. When we cross a line into unhealthy anger, we will seek the other’s forgiveness for the hurt we’ve caused. We will forgive each other as Christ has forgiven us.
We Pledge to Follow God’s Word to:
• Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ GOD forgave you. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
• Continually provide each other with words of encouragement combined with affectionate touch —knowing this is necessary for the health of our relationship. (This goes with Hebrews 10:24-25.)
• Let not any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29-30)
• Prayerfully and emotionally support the character growth of our spouse. We will work to build each other up spiritually and emotionally. This includes supporting one another by our actions. We commit ourselves to pray with one another, and for one another. (This goes with 1 Thessalonians 5:11 and James 5:16.)
• Rejoice with and cry with each other —sharing in each other’s joys, and heartaches. We will be sympathetically supportive of each other when one of us is hurting. (This goes with Romans 12:15-16.)
• Work to maintain protective hedges against sexual temptations and every sin that can so easily build itself up against Christ and against each other. When one of us has reason for concern, it’s to become a concern to the both of us. We will not allow anyone to tear apart what God has joined together. (This goes with Romans 12:1-2; Psalm 101:3; and Matthew 19:6.)
Additionally, We Pledge to:
• Put away immature game playing. We recognize that we’re called to maturity in our married lives and will seek to conduct ourselves accordingly. (This goes with the scripture: “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. But when I grew up, I put childish ways behind me.“ 1 Corinthians 13:11)
• Infuse humor into our lives together so we don’t lose sight of the joy of the Lord and the healing power that laughter can bring. We will always remember and live by God’s principle: “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.“ (Proverbs 17:22)
• Reach out beyond our walls to be a spiritual help to others for Christ and will be supportive in each other’s efforts in this mission.
Above all, we pledge to:
“Be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” (Ephesians 5:1-2)
Now, our personal mission statement is a bit longer, yet yours doesn’t have to be this complex.
Below is a link to a web site, where Kristen explains and shows you what she and her family came up with, that helps them to be more intentional in how they lead their lives together. Here’s their take on putting together a mission statement:
And then here is a link to:
Cindy and Steve Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.
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