You know, we’re not going to let you go on this point. (It’s too important.) As a matter of fact, laughing together in marriage is very, very important. In a previous Marriage Insight, (You’ve Just Got to Laugh) we posted some humorous marriage jokes hoping they would bring laughter into your marriage and home as you read them. We want to continue with that theme this time too, because we’re still laughing and hope you will too.
Here’s something on this issue that Daniel Darling wrote that is so true. He wrote:
“We have a Creator who created us to laugh, to find joy, to enjoy the pleasures He has given us. There is a time for laughter and there is a place for those who are especially skilled to make us laugh.
“… The Scriptures tell us that laughter is a kind of medicine for the soul (Proverbs 17:22). The very fact that God made us as creatures who have the capacity for laughter, who instilled in us the very desire for joy should tell us that laughter matters and matters more than we might think it does. This is why, I think, the writer of Ecclesiastes, perhaps Solomon, reminded us that there is indeed a time to laugh.” (From his article, “Why We Need Comedy”)
For those of you who just need to laugh a bit, below is something sent to us by an anonymous person (we don’t know who wrote it—we never got their name). We think you’ll enjoy it, though.
Plus, below it is another You Tube link where Jeanne Robertson is explaining why you “Don’t Get Frisky in a Tent!” And the laughs just keep coming!
“I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.
“For example, one evening last week, my wife and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, ‘I don’t feel like it, I just want you to hold me.’
“I said ‘WHAT??!! What was that?!’
“So, she says the words that every man on the planet dreads to hear… ‘You’re just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.’ She responded to my puzzled look by saying, ‘Can’t you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?’
“Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.
“The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn’t decide which one to take so I told her we’d just buy them all.
The Shopping Trip
“She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes. So, I said let’s get a pair for each outfit. We went onto the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you…she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn’t even know how to play tennis… I think I threw her for a loop when I said, ‘That’s fine, honey.’
“Smiling with excited anticipation she finally said, ‘I think this is all dear, let’s go to the cashier.’
“I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, ‘No honey, I don’t feel like it.’
“Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled, “WHAT?’
“I then said ‘honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You’re just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.’ And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, ‘Why can’t you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?’
“Apparently I’m not having sex tonight either.
He probably has that right!
As we’re still laughing:
Here’s something else, that you might also find to be funny with Jeanne Robertson explaining it all. It’s titled, “Don’t Get Frisky in a tent!” (After watching this You Tube video, you may want to pay attention to that advice.
But that’s not all! Even though you may be still laughing from the previous videos, here’s another You Tube video; but this time it’s with comedian Anthony Griffith. It would be fun to watch a video of his whole routine. But this one is funny in itself. See what you think.
Funny stuff! We need the “funny” to be infused into our marriages. Here’s what Camilla Klein says about all of this:
“In order to have a successful Christian marriage, laughter is essential. Laughter not only brings joy and happiness to the relationship but can also be a tool for dealing with tough times. Many couples who do not laugh together tend to lose their connection over time. ‘Laughter is an instant vacation.’ (Milton Berle)
“A good sense of humor helps you put things in perspective and lightens up your spirits when life throws curveballs at you. Instead of taking everything seriously, learn to find humor in everyday situations and joke around with each other. It’s important that both partners contribute towards keeping the laughter alive because being too serious all the time can wear the relationship down slowly but surely.” (From Camilla’s article, “How To Have A Christian Marriage? Have Faith, Love, and . . . A Sense of Humor!“)
We couldn’t say it any better! Humor has been a lifeline to survival through the tough times in our marriage. It has bonded us together and helped to bring levity to very serious situations. And let’s face it, every marriage goes through very serious situations at some point. That’s life on this side of heaven.
But laughing together makes it all the more tolerable! We hope you will take this marriage tip seriously. Laughing in marriage is a very serious, and fun matter!
Cindy and Steve Wright
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