Divorce: Not a Private Matter – MM #190

Divorce is not a private matter. We often act like it is, but it isn’t. There are many reasons why it shouldn’t be. One reason? “Like a bad cold in the office, divorces may be contagious.” That’s what research is revealing. Divorce Is Not Private “Yvonne Aberg, a sociologist at Stockholm Read More…

Weeping Instead of Blinking at Failed Marriages

I dare say that few of us would think we’re “blinking” (or looking with “indifference”) at failed marriages. But when I read something written by Nancy Leigh DeMoss in the book, The Quiet Place: Daily Devotional Readings I could see how she would say that many people do. What it did for Read More…

Slowing Down and Thinking Twice About Divorce

This article concerns slowing down and thinking twice about divorce, as a way of escaping the pain. When we hurt, our first instinct is to try to stop the pain. Somehow, we try to find ways to stop that, which is hurting us —especially if we feel deeply afflicted. This is a Read More…

The Divorce Cycle Can Be Broken – MM #272

Did you grow up in a home damaged by divorce? Are you concerned that your own marriage might end up in the same situation? Or maybe you’re just plain scared to marry because you see divorce all around you. These are valid concerns we’d like to address. Above all, please Read More…

We Don’t COUNSEL Anyone to Divorce

We may get criticized for this, but I need to say it. My husband Steve and I do not COUNSEL or encourage anyone to get a divorce. By this I mean, we do not feel it is our place when asked the question, “should I get a divorce” to tell Read More…

Till Death Do Us Part – MM #199

In our wedding vows most of us promise to “love honor and cherish” each other. And then here comes the clincher to this vow; we promise to do this TIL DEATH DO US PART. But what we see in society, is that in many of the ceremonies, perhaps the wording Read More…

Don’t Be a Divorce Pusher

Don’t be a divorce pusher. What do I mean by that? No matter what your friend or relative or anyone else is going through in their marriage, don’t add to the mess by putting your stamp of approval onto the situation and recommend divorce. That is not for you to Read More…

There’s No Such Thing As a Good Divorce

When I was ten, I was my mother’s best friend. Why? Because she had decided to divorce my father and she needed an ally. And who would be better than her only daughter? I did have two younger brothers, but those were times when boys’ allegiance belonged to the father Read More…

Adult Children of Divorce – Healing the Pain

I’ve come to envy young children going through a divorce. Everyone worries about them. They are sent to psychologists to get the help they need, but the adult child’s grief isn’t taken as seriously. Many of our parents stayed together because we’d be more mature once we headed off to Read More…

Children Caught In the Pain

“Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others“ (Philippians 2:4). After my husband and I first reconciled, my daughter Laura walked in the door one day dancing. “I heard a new song on the radio by Shania Twain. It should Read More…