The Tidy VS Messy Spouse

So, what do you do if you’re someone who likes things nice and tidy, but you are married to a messy spouse? This is a dilemma that many married couples encounter after they marry. And who would guess it would be such an important issue before marriage? We didn’t. Most Read More…

How Can I Serve You?

Five little words that mean so much, “How can I serve you?” They bring such a relief when Steve says them to me. It happens usually at a time when I’m running around frantically trying to get everything done. And then he comes up with them… “how can I help… Read More…

Working Together as a Team – MM #266

Working together as a team—we know we’ve talked a lot about this in past marriage messages, but SURPRISE, we aren’t done! And we never will be. This is because we so deeply believe that married couples are supposed to work together as a team. This is all a part of Read More…

Survived Doing Household Projects Together

You see the T-shirts around, “I survived the earthquake of ____” or “I survived the tornado.” You also see, “I survived [this event] or [that].” I feel like my husband and I should design and wear T-shirts for things we’ve survived too. One of them can claim, My spouse and Read More…

Accomplishing Tasks Together – Marriage Message #151

“‘Don’t shower me with love and kisses —just whisper softly, ‘I’ll do the dishes.’ This is where REAL LIFE happens in a marriage. When couples accomplish the tasks of life TOGETHER, they free up time to pursue other interests, enriching their relationship.” This is how David and Janet Congo describe Read More…

Messy vs Tidy in Marriage – MM #98

A MARRIAGE DILEMMA: What do you do if one of you has the natural inclination to be messy and this greatly upsets the other spouse because he or she likes things neat and tidy? That’s the subject of this Marriage Message because of the “nagging” problem it sets off in a Read More…

How to Create a Fair Division of Labor

With the advent of so many dual career marriages, the division of domestic responsibilities has become a major source of marital conflict. Changes in our cultural values have contributed greatly to the problem, because there is now almost unanimous agreement that both a husband and wife should share these responsibilities, Read More…

Helpful Hints On Managing The Home Front

The following are some helpful hints for those of you who are managing the home front. It’s a tough, tough job, but someone has to do it. Running a household is no piece of cake. When I think about the tasks that generally fall on a woman’s shoulders, I sometimes Read More…