Valentine’s Day—for some married couples it’s a fun day. But for other’s it isn’t. I hope it’s a fun day for you and your marriage partner. I also hope you’re able to find ways to show your spouse extra love—beyond what most couples do on this day. Additionally, I pray God inspires you to keep showing each other love beyond Valentine’s Day. Look for little and big ways that you can bless each other as husband and wife.
For Steve and me, it is usually a quieter day. That is by design. Earlier in our marriage it was because he usually had to work into the late evening. But we would have a special breakfast together. And when he would get home, we’d have some special snuggling time. This has been something simple, yet meaningful to us.
But now, even though Steve doesn’t work late into the evening, we still choose to have quieter Valentine’s Days (and evenings) together. Many people may not understand that; but we don’t care. We love just focusing on each other. We don’t want to share it with others. It may be a selfish thing, but it’s especially meaningful to us. But then we plan other things to do together beyond Valentine’s Day.
Beyond Valentine’s Day
We’ve learned to be creative with whatever situation we’re in and with whatever time God has given to us. And we love it! Valentine’s Day is one of our favorite holidays. I agree with what Marriage Life Ministries posted on their blog:
“Consider Valentine’s a reminder—a catalyst for the rest of the year. It’s an opportunity to, yes, specifically concentrate on your love and relationships for the day. But then… when the clock strikes 12 don’t go back to same old same old.”
Near the end of the blog titled, MT Project: Everyday is Valentines Day, they write:
“Maybe if we were treating every day like February 14th we wouldn’t put so much pressure on that one day. Instead, every day would be viewed as a chance to make your spouse feel loved and special. Every day has the potential to be Valentines.”
Yep! I couldn’t agree more. But perhaps you want to make that day an extra special one. If so, Lori Byerly, from The Generous Wife ministry writes something just for you:
“If Valentine’s Day snuck up on you or you didn’t have time to do anything special, you can still make the day special for your husband.”
And then she gives you several suggestions in her blog, Last Minute Valentine’s Day. These are things a wife can do for her husband. But a husband can also adapt these ideas for his wife. Sneak a peek and see if you want to use any of these ideas. It might help you to be in better shape than these Skit Guys. Watch the following skit:
Just like the title of this blog implies, “Valentines Day and Beyond” I want to challenge you to put intentionality into showing each other extra doses of love. And so does Debi Walter, from The Romantic Vineyard ministry. After all, we’re told in the Bible in Ephesians 5:1 to “live a life of love, just as Christ loved us.”
With that in mind, the following suggestion from Debi Walter will help you to do just that. Romance is the goal. And what a great goal to have! Read and see what you think:
“We want to give you the heads up about our “Get Your Romance On” (GYRO) Date Night Challenge for Valentine’s Day. The idea is to give your spouse the gift of 14 dates beginning the week after Valentine’s Day and ending the week of May 23rd.”
Debi then gives you guidelines to do this. You can read them in her blog:
I hope you’ll take that challenge. My husband Steve and I are going to do so. We hope you’ll join us. We know God will bless your marriage all the more for it.
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this blog.
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