Every morning 7 days a week, just like taking vitamins, we post a marriage tip on the Marriage Missions Facebook page. And 6 days a week, we tweet an entirely different marriage tip. We do this hoping they will help remind spouses about what’s important in marriage —also to help them grow their marriages to be healthier, hopefully ones that reveal and reflect the love of Christ.
As I was posting a tip a while back, it occurred to me that these little tips are kind of like giving out a vitamin pill each day —something that can help spouses to grow healthier. We believe those who take them in regularly can be greatly benefited, as they allow God to work through them. We’re often told after one of these tips is posted, “this came at just the right time” or “thanks, I needed that” or something like that.
These tips don’t hit home for certain people on some days. But, on other days they do. We’re thinking it’s the same way with vitamins. Some days we need them more than others, but if we’re intentional in regularly taking them, we have more of an opportunity of benefiting overall.
So, as a vitamin boost, to get you started on this daily regime to better marriage health, here are a few of the Facebook and Twitter Marriage Tips we’ve posted in the past. It is our hope you will benefit from reading them.
• “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” (Kalil Gibran) “Don’t smother each other. No one can grow in the shade.” (Leo Buscaglia) But remember that a healthy amount of togetherness is a good thing. God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” You didn’t marry so that either of you would be lonely. Balance your times of being apart with great times of loving togetherness.
• “A healthy, balanced marriage is like a beautiful ballroom dance where the husband and wife are completely intertwined and in tune to one another with God is leading them in their journey together. He gave us such a gift when He gave us our spouse. He never meant for us to live in a lonely marriage, so let’s embrace and cherish the beautiful gift of our marriage and let love defeat the loneliness.” –Ashley Willis
• Communication comes in two varieties: unhealthy talk and healthy talk. Unhealthy talk is easy. Just open your mouth and let the words roll out. These hurtful words can kill a relationship. Although unhealthy talk is deadly, healthy talk brings new life to a marriage. (Dr Steve Stephens) “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.“ (Proverbs 18:21)
• “When gold is mined, tons of dirt must be moved to get an ounce of gold. But one doesn’t go into the mine looking for dirt. One goes in looking for gold. That’s the way spouses develop healthy relationships. Unhealthy couples only see the dirt. If you want a great relationship, look for the good, not the bad. The more good qualities we look for in each other, the more good qualities we’re going to find.” (Les and Leslie Parrott)
• Like radar units, your children see the health of your marriage and it matters to them. Proactively make your marriage as healthy as possible.
• “Give some Vitamin F2 every day. What is Vitamin F2, you ask? Flirt and Fun. We usually get instructions to take vitamins. How about giving some every day to the love of your life? Think of marriage like a marathon; it’s long, you’ll get tired, and you need the water of motivation to keep going. Laughing together and keeping that spark of flirtatious love alive will add a little joy to every day –even the hard ones.” (Maggie Reyes)
• “What keeps a marriage healthy is that everything comes down to this truth: A husband and wife are one, as Christ and the Spirit are one.” (Mike Mason)
We hope these tips are insightful and helpful. Perhaps you could even post below a tip or two below that could help encourage others. We also hope you’ll visit our Facebook and Twitter pages daily —looking at and then taking in the benefit of these daily marriage vitamins.
Cindy and Steve Wright
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